She's so beautiful, but I feel that she's way out of my league. We are joking around and talking a lot, she thinks I'm funny and I think she kinda likes me (kinda). I am thinking of asking her out, but I'm a bit insecure about myself (not like I'm ugly, just a bit run-down by life haha). We also work together so it might be awkward if she rejects and then just work alongside each other.

It's been a while since I last dated, I broke up with my last girlfriend around 1/1,5 years ago and haven't really been in the game since then.

Anyway, any suggestions? Have you been in a similar situation? Have you succeed?

(p.s. I know it's not gaming related in any way, but I like to look at the forum as a "forum" a place for general discussion as well.

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Might as well go ahead with it, also pretend you have confidence just don't act like not yourself.

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House has your cure.

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I think it depends on your personality. If you're outgoing, talkative, cool, easy going then give it a try. If you're rather shy, tend to have a stick up your arse, and too serious, you might be better off thinking it over.

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haha I'm a mixture of both. I mean I'm not shy but I have a sense of disillusionment with humanity, so sometimes I just don't like being "social". I'm good at talking, and being easy going/outgoing, I initiate conversations and make friends quite easily.

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You'll regret it if you don't

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I agree with Patrick Star.

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This! DO IT!
Think about it later...
I've been on ur situation at least 2 times and i think i'll regret not taking the next step for the rest of my life...

If you want to think about something, think about this:
If u take the step and it go REALLY wrong, you will remember for the next week or so... if it go right, PROFIT!
but if you dont take the step, you'll remember it for the next ten years!

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Patrick is always right. Do it Laptoprocker!

9 years ago
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Impregnate her and she's yours for the taking

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It's all ogre now

9 years ago
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yeh seems legit

9 years ago
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"I impregnated that so it's mine now!!!"
Kids these days...

9 years ago
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This actually works not only on females, in several countries this is how you assume possession of cars, motorcycles and some domestic appiances.

9 years ago
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So you fuck a car and that car is yours? I definitely gonna try that.

9 years ago
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No, fucking a car is too easy. You impregnate the car and it's yours.

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Hmm that's harder. So what if I'll fuck a car and then I'll put a baby in that car? Will that work?

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No, but you can put some babies hotwheels cars in it.
That will work.

9 years ago
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ya, thats where transformers come from.

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I always knew sex had a practical use

9 years ago
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My wife has accused me of that one before.

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worked for me

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U can ask her something soft at start like invite her to eat together someday and share more time together and after that u can go with bigger dates i guess but if you ask her to go out already is way too early , u should know her a lil more .

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that's actually a good idea

9 years ago
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I agree. Unless you are already doing those things, asking her out is a pretty big step. :P

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Np, i'm glad 2 help

9 years ago
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Definetly ask her out !

9 years ago
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Don't play it fast. Play it right.

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Same as in that other thread. Chloroform her, drag her into your basement and then make her your sex slave

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dolan knows what he is talking about

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Forgot to say pls, my friend. Now, I can't believe you.

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try your luck, if you dont do it you already have lost the game

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Do it. YOLO. haha

9 years ago
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What's the worst that could happen? You're in the exact same position you were before asking her out? Seize life, in 100 years you'll be dust.

9 years ago
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the worst could be not succeeding and being around each other at work all the time hehe

9 years ago
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Friends for life!

9 years ago
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wow. how awful that must be for you

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Or you can wait for more signs, it would be uncomfortable for both if she rejects

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I'm definitely going to wait a bit hehe

9 years ago
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i know you're in college and whatnot money is pretty tight, but you might want to start with a gift and see how she reacts.

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Yeah I'm at uni, and not really good with gifts.

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well it doesn't have to be anything big, something like a bracelet something like that. nothing like an expenisve necklace/purse. or if you work really close like you two by yourselves maybe you can bring candy to share, or ask her out to something that's not too intimate at first like a movie

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I feel like the bracelet thing sounds like the thing for little girls..... the movies sound nice though

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i meant like a nice $30-40 gold bracelet

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That'd be too much as a friendly guesture, and no offense but your idea reeks of something a desperate high schooler might do.

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True dat, but I think the movie one seems casual and pretty much more of a friend type of thing to start the OP off with her.

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too much? mm okay iguess I can see that. but really $30 isn't that much so I didn't think it that way

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I think a dildo is a good idea

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Low self-esteem is a dangerous thing. Before you dive head first, consider what exactly you're getting out of being with her, apart from the sense of accomplishment and being allowed to stand in the company of those 'better than you'. I mean, with a proper 'sod it' attitude and a bit of mental reconciliation with all the possible responses she might give you, you could easily survive the conversation relatively unscathed, despite being serious and defenceless for once; and pretty likely find that she did indeed fancy you all along. But if you eventually find yourself quite bored with her - you're still your same run-down-but-not-ugly self who threw himself at her mercy once, and you'll probably feel like you exist in the same room as she at her mercy as well, and that you're in no position to initiate the break-up.

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Well it's not that low. I mean thankfully I "grew up" so I can control it. I'm not really looking for the love of my life, just I think she's really beautiful/interesting and would be great to start dating again with. Obviously I don't know what I want from her exactly (not a planning type) I just want to know her better.

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That's a fair answer. But I'm worried about your first line: "She's so beautiful, but I feel that she's way out of my league." There are no leagues with anyone worth being with, and if you start with that mentality, you'll be her little bitch until things go sour. If she's an awesome person, go for it. Just be a little assertive. "I'd like to grab a coffee with you" trumps "would you like to go for coffee sometime?" And if that's turned down, it wasn't a grand display that you can't come back from, she just didn't grab a coffee with you.

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Haha dude leagues do exist, and I've never been anybody's little bitch and not planning to do so.

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See the "worth being with" part. If she's a decent human being, she won't write you off. If she does, then there was no point from the get go. Lots of attractive people are so self absorbed that they only qualify you as an accessory to them. Never worth it, unless its mutual, but that's pretty damn shallow.

I'm glad that you are confident in yourself. Don't be someone's bitch ;D

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You should be perfectly fine then. Getting an interesting woman to share a cup of tea with you is not that hard, it's getting your cup back that's the true rocket jump here.

I mean, there's nothing for either of you to be awkward about even if she declines: you'll have told her how good of a person she was (making her day in the process of doing so), and she will have made a conscious decision to tell you that she quite enjoys the status quo and the roles you both are already playing, and doesn't want to change those. You'll go, 'Okay then', and make it clear that you really meant all those things, so that she would still feel good about herself; and she'll probably say something to make it clear that it was a very manly and grown-up thing to do on your part to ask her out and resolve all that potential tension on the spot. You'll follow it all up with a premeditated innocent question like 'A cup of tea then?' and you're both laughing again, if a tad nervously for the first few hours or so. Now, having a vindictive ex working at the same place as you - that would be a different cuppa altogether. )

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Just say in causal way "hey, what you think about going out somewhere together?". If not - "ok, fine" and just work like usual. It's just a girl. I bet you will regret in future if you won't ask her out, so let's try, you lose nothing.

Oh, and good luck! :-)

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hehe yeah, probably I shouldn't overmistify it. I don't like regrets

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While I agree with the idea of being straightforward, that quotation is way to wimpy. It's like knocking on someone's door and saying, "You don't really want to buy my cookies, do you?" She's already let you know that she's interested in you, for crying out loud.

Instead, ask her to join you in something small, short in duration, and easy to respond to with a "Yes."

Examples:

"I'm going for a cup of coffee. Would you like to join me?"
"You're going to the Post Office to drop off some mail? Would you like company?"
"A few of us are going to grab something from the sandwich shop. Would you like to come along?"

You will notice that none of the above are "dates," yet all of them involve giving her the opportunity to spend time with you and see you when you are relaxed and casual. Not only that, but you are sending the message that you have a life which you are pursuing just fine, thank you, and that you are interested in sharing it with her. That is exactly what you want. Later, when you actually do ask her out on a date, she will know that the nervous you is not the "real" you, and she will overlook your failings (if any).

What you do NOT want is to send the message of "You don't really want to be with me because I'm not worthy, but I'm going to stalk you in desperation, anyway." If you're giving off that vibe, you can expect her to stay clear of you (unless she's a mental case).

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Fuck threads like this

9 years ago
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Don't forget to use protections.

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oh gee yea let's start another "rate the profile above you" or "yay or nay" thread right?

9 years ago
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7/10
yay

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Press F5 (quick save) and reload if she refuses. If she says yes, then quickly quick save (lol) so she won't be able to change her mind.

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My friend, this world is not Skyrim :P

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It's Morrowind. Just kidding haha. But sometimes, gaming mentality can make things much easier... Thinking this kind of things like a game I mean, where you don't have to overthink consequences.

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Don't ever think that she's "out of your league".

Whenever I hear people say that it turns out the women they fancy is just a stuck up bitch who keeps her head higher than she should. I'm not saying that's the case here but just a thing to remember.

If she doesn't want you then remember it's her loss and you'll find someone who'll appreciate you and who would never even think "oh my, I'm too good for him, what is he even thinking?".

I learned to keep such women at bay a long time ago.

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True that.

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You could try to engage in conversation with her , example about movies and wait till she is like OMG cant wait for that movie than you use your chance to ask her wanna go out and watch it with me? Or something like that :P

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Tell her you cried when they killed Bambi's mother

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Just be yourself. If you feel like waiting, then wait. If not, then ask her out. You'll have to do it anyway to find out whether she reciprocates your feelings or not.

Good luck! :D

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Just ask her if she wants to hang out or something, like a movie or something else that you think she might want to do. It could be just as friends and not have to be seen at a date exactly. Gets you two in an environment that is not work and you can see how it goes. If she recoils at the idea then you know she is not into you, but if she says yes then you see how it goes and escalate from there.

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^ This. The more someone tells me 'oh you're way out of my league' the more I believe it. If a girl says she wants to date you, then she clearly doesn't believe she's 'better' than you. Confidence is the most attractive trait anyone can have. Check out the video someone made where they wore a fat suit and tried to pick up girls, just his confidence meant that most gave him their number.

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haha useful advices, just fyi I would NEVER ever tell a girl that she's out of my league (wtf?). Amateur move haha

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fck her right in the pssy

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Ill give you a little sneaky trick, go buy yourself a little bottle of pheromone perfume, use it on yourself and try to be near her while you work... she will come to you and ask you out.

Then you f*ck her right in the pussy ;)

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Sex at work? Kinky

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