Do you have any phobias?
I have a huge fear of dying, but I think some people already know that.
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There is a book that I could suggest:
Irvin D. Yalom - Staring at the Sun: Overcoming the Terror of Death
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Thanks for sharing, I will buy this for my mother and read it after her.
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He is one of my favorite authors, some (of my favorite) other works from him, out of topic though:
When Nietzsche Wept
The Spinoza Problem
The Schopenhauer Cure
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I've had those on my list to read for a while now, just can't find the time. Started When Nietzsche Wept and really enjoyed it, though. I would also recommend Love's Executioner if you haven't tried it.
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I have read all the novels/short stories, except his works on psychotherapy.
Now I am looking forward to read his new book:
Creatures of a Day: And Other Tales of Psychotherapy
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Oh nice, I had no idea he wrote anything new lately.
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It's the same for me so thank you for sharing a book recommendation!
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Well, nothing you can do about it. I am saying that because i had that fear and then i realized there is nothing i can do about it.
In my own opinion there is no point to be afraid of something that you can't prevent.
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Could be true, but think about it, how many times "healthy living and taking care" gone down the drain.
btw. this is too much philosophical i don't want to get involved in that kind of talk.
Sorry for being harsh and straightforward, but i don't believe lying people and saying only things they want to hear is good for them...
Good luck to overcome your fears, you just need good 5min. to sit with yourself.
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I think that in a few seconds you can get a strong message here:
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Hairdressers must be a real terror.
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Wish I could live forever so I can pursue infinite knowledge and use it to preserve the slow-dying universe. Keeping all the stars alive and all that. :)
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On the first part of your sentence I feel you. But one the second... I think that much less than infinite knowledge is needed to realize that something like that is inevitable.
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i basically have the same fear as you,the only thing that conforts me a bit is that everyone is going that way you can't change life
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Well. I fear the day that I should meet myself. That is the long term target of my therapy. Lol.
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I have a...wouldn't quite say fear, but aversion for human stupidity.
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my worst fear is to won something here and receive without problems :(
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Fear of failure is probably my biggest issue as well. I'm so afraid of failure that I never end up doing things I want.
It's probably one of the worst fears to have as it can effect the quality of life.
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I am who I am today because I let myself be wrong and make many mistakes.
You can do it, start small.
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oh yeah this a lil bit, for me it's not a fear, it's just the shame that comes with it :p
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You shouldn't be afraid of failling, what you should fear is not learning the lesson (or reason why you failed)
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I wished it was that simple in my case but I'm suffering from anxiety disorder and depression and every little fail leads to mental breakdown
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I definitely feel the same. I don't "fear" things but I'm always the one saying: «we're not gonna make it», «I won't ever be able to finish that in time» etc.
Fun fact is that mostly because of this fear I'm the very best person at "almost" accomplishing things/achievements. :(
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Rats. I blame Orwell for that. Also basically every bug that can sting/bite.
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Orwell? Huh? Who's that? If you're referring to the rat weirdo from the movie, the character's name, as well as the title of said movie, was Willard.
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Ok, you can officially color me as an uncultured dumb-ass, cause I never heard of that novel, much less read it. Hell, to my eternal shame, I haven't even read Animal Farm.
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Spiders and fear of shame. I don't want to be shamed.B-)
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I definitely have fear of entering in the comments because it wasn't listed.
Seriously though, I can't think of something specific that really scares me
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When Wheatly got attacked by one in the campaign.....all my nightmares were suddenly there, on the screen xD
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There's a great movie by Alfred Hitchcock you should see.
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I couldn't bear to LOOK at seagulls after that film.... I was pretty young though, and there were hundreds of them living around there...
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i dont think theres a name for it, but fear a losing a sense, like sight, beeing able to hear, recently i had an ear infection and could hear from my left ear, and that was awfull, really put in me the mind of people who has lost, or never had those abilities, and how lucky i am for having them.
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I went deaf in 1997, after hearing just fine for 20 odd years, I am getting along just fine. I miss music I guess, but the thing is, all the music I heard before going deaf are still in my head. It's as if I have some retro jukebox going on, all day long.
Seeing things like Beiber being top of the charts kind of makes me glad I am missing things of late.
The important thing, however, is that life is what you make it, and humans are adaptable beyond imagination. Being deaf, overall, has not slowed me down a bit. I am still very happy and enjoying life like I never went deaf.
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i hope i didnt sound too condesending, im sorry if i did, i know lifes goes on and on has to adapt, good to ream that your are doing fine.
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No, no, not at all! I said that to just say that although it sure is scary to think about losing a sense (being blind terrifies me and the thought I would be deaf when I was younger scared the heck out of me). It was more that we can conquer any obstacles in our life by keeping on being positive. I don't blame your fears about it at all!
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Please describe me this. I just want your perspective on it.
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What type of anxiety? There is a type called Social Anxiety where interacting with people or even being around lots of people makes a person anxious.
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Yeah, social anxiety... it suck.
The worst thing is that you know it's irrational. But you can't really do anything about it.
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Same thing with any irrational phobia. Like being in the dark. What's to be afraid of? Other than bumping into things as you try to move around. The dark can't hurt you just by being dark. But to a person who has that fear it doesn't matter, they still have that fight or flight instinct.
Personally I have a phobia about bees and wasps. It's because of an incident when I was a child. All my life people tell me things like "Oh, that bee is more scared of you that you are of it." but that doesn't make my fear go away. Even if I tell myself stuff like that I still have an instinctual reaction to run away screaming like a girl. And I'm not even afraid of being stung. Just that they will "get me". yeah, it's totally irrational.
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I like bugs, everyone comes to me when it comes to "remove that thing!!" xD
And you're not displayed on every irrational fear everyday. In the winter there are no bees, in sunny day on the outside there are no dark places and so on. But you have to "soacialise" with others on regular basis - home, school, work, public spaces and so on. So it's a bit harder in my opinion :D
(But there are fears of water, air, dust and so on as well...)
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amen to that...
i have the biggest problems to phone with people i dont know.
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Me too. I avoid talking on the phone as much as I can. I like to see the person I'm speaking to.
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Agreed. I have a hard time calling people I do know. It is the reason I never order food to be delivered. Always have to go pick it up.
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You can, but you have to be brave and it takes time and suffering.
One approach would be reading as much as you can about it, like if you were majoring in psychology.
Also, there are plenty of people sharing their experiences on Youtube, it might help.
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Could you be referring to Agoraphobia? Most people believes it's a fear of open spaces, but the subset it is from actually means "Fear of the market place" meaning the fear of being around others.
This can also refer to the fear of being around the unfamiliar, new places/people or too many people.
I personally suffer from Agoraphobia and Claustrophobia. I fear being outside AND being in enclosed areas... I get stuck in doorways a lot :/
But seriously, I do suffer from both conditions, just in varying degrees. Drives my wife nuts.
"Close the doors!" "Open the window!" "Make up your mind!" etc.
My biggest fear however is being buried alive.... /shudder. And Clowns omg...
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I have a huge fear of spiders, dating back to reoccurring nightmares as a child where giant spiders would capture and eat me. I just had to get a bunch of spiders out of my room a couple hours ago. that wasn't good, I've been scratching at my skin for a bit because I can feel like they're crawling on me.
The fear of death is somewhat common, but really interesting to me. As a kid until know I've had varying levels of suicidal idealization, so I never had that fear. I wonder which is a worsen experience, Fear of death or wanting it?
Edit: so that's my worst fear, but I'm also scared of drowning, being trapped, being paralyzed, that I won't be accepted, losing a sense and a fear of heights. Going over bridges is not fun for me.
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Spiders don't bother me, but roaches? Oh God. If I see one, I can't go on with my life until it's dead.
I guess it depends on one's beliefs. The main reason why I am scared of dying is because, as an atheist, I do not believe there is anything after that. But for a religious person, this fear would make no sense at all and wanting to die would be a valid option - because you would go to heaven.
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I feel that has to do with one's views, but not necessarily religious ones. as a suicidal person I did and still kinda do view life differently. Life is not good, and death is escape. When I was christian, Heaven was an amazing place, while my life wasn't, so I wanted to get there and I tried. Then I learned more about my faith, and suicide was a mortal sin, and I stopped because I didn't want my last act to be a sin. Later on, I lost my faith and was an atheist. I din't believe there was anything after death, which was even more promising than heaven to me. It's the ultimate escape. In heaven or hell, I would have to be myself for all eternity, and I really don't like who I am. I wanted to die and end my entire existence because I really didn't like who I am. All my problems would disappear and wouldn't matter anymore.
I still feel that way about life and death, and while I'm not actively seeking it out anymore, I'm not afraid of a situation, that would lead to my death or dying, although I still try to avoid them because I'm afraid of pain, and the possibility, that I wouldn't die, But instead be paralyzed which would make my life even worse.
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I can agree with you on most parts. Though for me it was a little different. I didn't really fear death before the.. let's just call it 'really dark time' in my life. I never even thought about it. During that time then, though, I was wishing to die, so no fear either - but now that I'm feeling better and like, at least don't wanna die anymore, I kinda fucking fear death. So yeah, I get where you're coming from. Oh and almost forgot, I'm also an atheist, so I'm not believing in anything liek hell or heaven either.
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In my opinion, the only scary part about death is that, as an atheist you don't believe in heaven or hell and think that they don't exist. What if there is something, I would've gone for it a long time ago, but maybe, just maybe, there might be something beyond death and maybe I don't want spook people or get reincarnated or go to hell or anything
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For me, I can only truly really contemplate death during brief moments of extreme clarity. For example, at this time I can't really accept the gravity of the fact that one day, I'm going to die and cease to think, to exist, to live. I considered myself a Christian, now I'd say I'm an agnostic but I'm not willing to rule anything out. I just try to seek truth with an open and objective mind. The idea of an eternal existence, in Heaven or Hell, is enough to keep anyone up at night.
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I'd probably consider myself an agnostic as well, I'm not sure what the hell is out there, but what is going on doesn't seem so random. I just don't think that anyone would be considered less by a deity because of their life choices. What if there is no Heaven or Hell and I just have to exist in an ethereal form, unable to do anything. When I was in primary school, I used to cry a lot, not because I was afraid to die, but because I realized that all the friends I'd made were only temporary and one day I'd have to watch them die (figuratively and some literally).
We're in the Matrix
It's 6 am, I'm not thinking in a line, sorry for my rambling
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I always thought that death is as natural as life and I never feared it in any way. But still I'm bit suicidal and I don't really care about my life. Not to degree to do something to kill myself, but in a way "meh, I woudn't mind if this car turns and drive me over while I'm normaly walking on the sidewalk". And I'm atheist (forced to be raised up as christian like everyone else in my country). And I like that, I'd never want to spend infinity amount of time in either heaven or hell. That'd be really boring.
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To use a cards against humanity term, "not contributing to society in any meaningful way".
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I've got a Fear of the Dark
But seriously, I'm scared for about any kind of spider, even the very small ones. If I notice one close, I just either stand there for 15 minutes, trying to find a way of killing it without getting close or just walk away, keeping a close eye on it.
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I'm btw not really afraid to die, more curious what is after that (I don't believe in any god or heaven). The only fear I have in that regard is that I don't want to suffer.
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I am also curious about that. But as I will only find out when I die, I hope I die when I'm really old, because if there is nothing after that I will have lived a long and happy life.
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Yeah, same here. Although not too old. I don't want to spend the last 10 years of my life doing nothing.
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Right? I guess I have a fear of being normal... or do I?
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Fear of dying and not being remembered for eternity.
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I have a fear of spiders and wasps. But my biggest fear is that I will kill myself because I get suicidal fairly often, every few months, and I hope I won't do it and hurt the people I love. But at the time, you reeeeally don't care about anything like that at all. It scares me :(
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Frogs.
Whenever I see one, I'm like "NOPE! NOPE! NOPE!" and I usually run away.
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I'm afraid to be alone in life, though from fear I reject everyone around me...
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I fear that i may fail to be right next to the people i love when they will be in need.
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Just live your life to the fullest. Always try new things, especially ones that interest you and try not to let regrets bother you too much.
We will all die sooner or later, that's something nobody can avoid. Just focus on having a fun and full life so you die a happy man, rather then a miserable one.
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Yeah, I forgot to specify that I'm afraid of dying young, but I know we will all have to go eventually.
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Yup this is good advice. My fear is not death but dying so slowly that I have to fight to stay alive. I'd rather go out without knowing it.
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Evil psychotic clowns are fun!
Agree with the spiders though, hate those creepy basterds!
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Mine is dying. You can't just go back in time and reverse that.
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