Well finally had the guts to actively answer on tinder/badoo etc had one girl with two very matching profile pieces, wanting children and not claiming the other too much, we found we had more in common like being bullied in school and insomnia.
So i was like well if she doesn't understand me noone could, then she went like you got problems (i am actively trying to get to solutions) and she was recognizing too much of herself in me, instead she could have just said she would be looking for someone a bit more stable, instead of it this way, so that hurt, plus in the meantime she also already had a date with another guy.
While my horoscope said positive things would be coming when it came to love and i should give it a chance cough (irony guys, i am not taking them serious).

Found out i had first dibs on my own rental place (which here with a 300.000 shortage of houses) is lucky, even though i got a small bit of germ phobia so it has to be a somewhat clean place (heck i still would want to install my own new toilet) the neigbours not being weird, noisy or whatever, but on the website they only show the outside of a place not the insides (which is what matters most offcourse), but i am not getting their emails somehow, yesterday that place was called, thinking they would send the first invitations today and i was awaiting on it, turned out they were the last and again no email, so now i can most likely forget about it.

Not really being pessimistic, just needed a topic to match the giveaway, life goes on as always.

https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/H8skn/bad-dream-coma

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take a hug from me!
yeah sometimes it sucks and sometimes it feels like it only get worse and worse...

prob. not that helpful but there will be better days.

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Thanks, it helps.

Well gotta keep believing it will get better (even though for me it never did yet) but if you dont keep the faith then it really gets worse for you.

Just some guys have all the luck. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5ugq624SFw

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You are being pessimistic about me possibly being pessimistic.

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You have much nicer bad dreams than me if that's a bad dream. It's just life, brother. Hurdles are what reminds you that nothing worth having comes easy.

Start by not reading your horoscope :P they're bad for you.

Seriously, hope you get some luck with the housing next time around and don't let small things like "cleanliness" distract you. There are laws that ensure any housing you rent has to be safe and hygienically sound. The rest if just a little soap and energy to clean out. If you can't do it yourself, just hire someone for a couple hours to do it for you and you'll be moving into a squeaky clean new life.

As for dating, it's like everything else: if you don't succeed, try, try, try again. Laws of numbers work in your favor. Don't let every person turning you down stop you from trying the next one. It's just a little swiping and conversation, it's not hard work.

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I can get help with the cleaning but for some items (like a toilet) it won't be enough, it you don't have it, it's easier said then done.

No, there are much more desperate lonely men then women so women have the luxury to swipe a lot of no's but also the whole thing makes it all so shallow.

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While I've personally never tried any of them, Tinder is probably one of the worst places to look if you're looking for something real. I think it's mainly for hookups, so to find someone who is planning on meeting someone else as well wouldn't be much of a surprise.

Don't let it get you down.

Maybe in some ways, she's right. I mean this in the best possible way. Finding someone who is a little more confident than you are can do wonders for your own wellbeing. If two people have similar anxieties, it can work... BUT is it healthy for you in the long run? If you're both going through crap at the same time, who will be your support. That's something to think about. Maybe your escape was a lucky one. You will find someone, you just need to believe in yourself. When you fall off a bicycle while learning, you get up and keep going until you find your balance. Dating is very much the same. =)

EDIT: BTW, my friend worked for a newspaper and they took it in turns to do the horoscope column. They'd just string a bunch of generic and vague stuff together for those every day. Someone's having an easy hour when they're writing those things. I wouldn't bother reading them haha!

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Maybe you got a point, but a lot of women that got their life straight aren't looking for a guy with "problems" either, and yeah everyone around me, looking at work (ex druggie and another ex alcoholic f.e) they find girls just like that, it's half work, it's half luck but i am not getting that luck part for some reason.
I got that door so much slammed in my face it's totally blue and bleeding, some people would already have flipped and then you got people doing crazy things, at a point you got a bit enough.

It was just for fun and to show some irony.

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Aye, but getting your life straight is not something with a time limit. You can do that too. ;) When a person starts seeing themselves as not good enough, that's where they fail. You've got to have a better opinion of yourself. You can make it out there the same as anyone else, problems or not. Don't let "problems" define you. =)

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No offense and it's true, there are issues which i am working on (i could be staying on wellfare and not give a damn, but i am not).
And there are women that wouldn't care, but there aren't many or just say when most people meet you need a bit of luck, meeting at the right time, place, and it just didn't happen yet, lets say i just feel it's very late. Offcourse it could always happen, even tommorow.

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I am a men and can expect to be wanted by all female! :-D
And after my ego is enough cuddled i can lower my expectations to "wanted from all females that are interesting for me and worth my time" :-D

I say that with a big smile in the face, giggling and i am known for many many many jokes + a boyish behavior, so don't take me too serious ;o)
But in sentences are always a bit of truth

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"instead she could have just said she would be looking for someone a bit more stable, instead of it this way, so that hurt, plus in the meantime she also already had a date with another guy."
First of all, she was being honest. You're expecting too much diplomacy or whatever from someone you don't know whom you're chatting with through a dating app. Sure, she could have sugarcoated it or even made up some other reasons, but at least she was being honest with you.
The second bit is also a bit weird.
Isn't she allowed to have a date with other people? Does your interest or conversation mean she suddenly became exclusive to you?
Or does it disturb you that a woman may have met and even slept with other men?
And stop reading horoscopes, they're just a load of bull made up to fill space in newspapers and magazines. All they do is lead to disappointment when things don't happen that were "promised" or confirmation bias.
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One more observation. I hope you don't take it as an attack or such:
You know why some people don't have much problem having good conversations or even a date with others?
Even though everybody has their own problems some don't ponder on them all the time. They are not boring to be around or whiners complaining about life, their job, politics or whatever constantly.

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If you get so open in her telling she been bullied at school, and just other stuff and you both know how it feels how things can still ripple through, then there is a thing such as tact and you don't really tell someone they got problems (i am working towards solutions) if you find you got problems yourself, fine but then that's your problem.

Your whole reasoning about the whole sex part or the rest is very very weird like where is that even coming from? If you are in the process dating someone yeah don't try to go into dates with others, Then you are just finding backups beforehand in case your current dates might fail, she even wanted to await her second date, i honestly said like i would be a second chance then? then she honestly said find some other girl on badoo that could make you happy, and 2 other lines, trust me when i say it was emotional from both sides.

That's also a bull reasoning on that last part, there is a lot more to it, how about others that barely say crap, "how are you? Good", "What do you do for work? Optician", you can have such conversations also with someone, and then it's quickly over on my part.
Since i doubt i ever tried dating you, you don't know how i do it, right?

Also just say i am a complainer, i am not, and some actually genuinely do interest how itts going with others, some share, some don't but it wasn't even my intention i also try to drag my giveaway into a thread, i was trying to also invite people with it to share their stories but that didn't work out,

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As someone who should be booksmart, you should know fully well what complaining means.
"SG sucks", "my life sucks", "oh look at poor me", those are complaints, and go dig through all my topics if you want but you would never have heard me say that once. i am not looking for pity, what would that help?
Actually the topic is very open and was meant as an invitation, tied to a giveaway, for others to share if they sometimes feel the same way, which wasn't really picked upon, the topic isn't called "Oh poor me i feel liking living in a bad dream", it's "Don't YOU feel?...".
I just gave my own example, maybe i should have been clearer but whatever.

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Pay no attention to that prick. Like many of the usual suspects.. He frequently enjoys leaving pissy remarks with ill intent. I think it elevates their day somehow.

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Yup. I genuinely don't understand not only him but people like that in general. Like, does it get you off, makes your day better? There has to be some great payoff at the end to justify being mean-spirited to random people on the internet forum all day long. And what's mildly amusing, it's exactly those kinds of people that will complain about how the whole internet is a really toxic place, without a shred of self-awareness. Whatever gets you through the day, I guess.

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Well, if I speculate about their behavior and add a coating of personal experience...

Perhaps, earlier in life, these people were part of "the group that preyed upon others, for laughs". Insecure individuals that need that mob mentality to feel secure.
Or they were the actual prey. And now retaliates by poking any weakness they can find - in anyone.

Both examples are now protected by the anonymity of just being an avatar on the internet.
Whatever the case, it's damn sad.

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btw Tinder is a great app for ONS, not so great for anything else (although I know a married couple now that found each other through Tinder)

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From a previous discussion post it really seemed to differ per country on what tinder is mostly used for.
Personally i never found much women here on tinder looking for that, a bunch even specifically mention in their profile they aren't looking for it.

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Don't try to date withs apps.
If you want to f... it will, maybe, work but for real relationships ? I don't think so. At least not for 95% (or more) of the people.
And you will find much more women with bigger problems as you want them with your own, not so easy, life.

In general:
The most women aren't interested at a "looser", so avoid to think in that way about yourself and if you think in that way about yourself change it before you try to find a girlfriend/partnership.

Try to find people or groups to play games -boardgames, cardgames, online games or pen & paper games- or cook circles.
If that gamers are, partly, females and are single, great additions. Treat them as humans/people and not only as women, add a tiny bit of "woman bonus". From the last one much lesser as the most guys do it. That the women feel you are in general interested but not see them "only" as women (as many men do it) -so in short don't reduce them at/to their body-.
So you have fun with friendly/nice people/known ones/friends and MAYBE a partnership comes over time as bonus on top.

Be always HONEST. To yourself and to the female(s). I think you expect the same and i made only positive experiences with it in my life.

Sure all is a bit hunter and prey play (we are still animals deep inside)^^ but the roles switch sometimes/often and you can be sure that the women use their weapons too^^. That are as examples better talk skills, more brain power and thoughts about situations, the eyes, lips and in general they know that a lot of guys turn the brain off if they use their body to distract them ^^ (and the most mens are then, very easy to control, sheeps).

That examples and my opinions don't fit to all women thats very clear and surely i must "categorize/speak more in general" to tell you something that would fit "for the most" without to know a special person, place, situation, your behavior and and and.
But a "maybe try that" would be good enough to bring you into the right direction IF that fits to you, your possibilities, your way you want to go and many more.
The moving is then your job and yes it isn't always easy, yes it is sometimes painful but at the other site it is great and fullfilling.

You will never see the worth of the good things if you never experienced the bad things, thats a very easy thing in life.
So handle your daily up and down stuff like the flat things and be happy about each situation, each feeling, each encounter that are positive :o)

I hope my words will help you, at least, a bit.

Ps.: Stop to read the horoscopes at least the cheap ones below 12 sites

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Protip: Don't say "the females."

It's creepy af.

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Replace it with women if that make a difference for you.
I am not a native english speaker and the dictionary list them both as the same translated word.

If there is a difference then please try to explain it. Thanks

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I am no native english speaker

There's a lot of nuance in this stupidly difficult language, don't take it to heart.

If there is a difference then please try to explain it. Thanks

"females" = creepy
"women" = not creepy

"Female" is used more for technical, anthropological classification, rather than normal conversation. It's fine as an adjective, but its use as a noun isn't as common.

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LOL to the great creepy/not creepy explanation :-D giggling

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I gone through different sources to find the difference and found different solutions.
In general is female the same as woman in german = Frau
BUT
female is at the same time = weiblich (as you would use it in "the female animal" to give a example)
And when i read the sentences (in my germany translation in my head) with "weiblich" then they sound strange/not fitting, so i changed the female words with woman because that fits to the meaning of the sentences i wanted to write :o)

Thanks for the push to read about the difference because in my first thoughts they were the same.

Ps.: I am too sleepy to be creepy.
But tomorrow is a new day to make/start chaos and rule the world ^^

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There was another topic (from me most likely) and tinder etc etc were also discussed and it was to be concluded that it also really seems to differ per country on if they are used for sex or something more serious, i personally find here it's really used tor people to find something serious, also badoo is different then tinder, so would each app be.

I am always honest be it to males or females, that's the one thing i hate most in someone if they lie, second what i value in someone (and myself) is stick to your commitments/appointments/what you agree with.

That's actually what i am missing, plenty of dating sites/apps etc but so few to basically none for finding friendships based on f.e a hobby or interest, i even thought about making it myself, but when it's all gonna be account based, slightly more difficult.

It's true and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger etc, some do just get more bad (or not even good) then others, and not in a complaining way (like some below me feel it does cough) it's just a fact of life and a weird one at it, i mean why couldn't it be more divided for everyone (same as how a handful of people got enough money to feed like half the population, it's work, but it's also damn lucky).
You have to keep thinking still it all happens for a reason, else you do fall in that dark abyss.

Thank you.

And i don't believe in such horoscopes nor do i even read them that much, everyone just been born in the same month all getting lucky in love, money or whatever offcourse that is ridiculous. I just found it irony when i read it, and made me grin a bit.

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Although it's tough, it's living it and living through it is the best part here. I think it's better to try than not try, and having the opportunity to learn something from it...and maybe have better insight in yourself and people.

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True, like lovol's experience below, could always see/use it as a learning ground.

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Being a shy person I used to use dating portals too. After a long and bumpy road with Badoo (and alikes) I figured it's waaaay easier to talk to a girl in real life. So I wanted to say congrats for getting a response and chatting with that girl. I remember it was sooo hard for me to talk to somebody.

Also I think she was right to look for someone healthier than herself. You only gain from it because you become a little like a person you spend time with – whether you want it or not. On the other hand she may break that somebody too.
Spending time with people healthier than you, make you more healthy. Of course work is still required, things won't fix themselves on their own. Plus, if you're working on solutions she just might did you a big favor. You won't have to work on her solutions too, later on :)

Glad to see you taking your life in your own hands, buddy! And it's awesome that you find a way to speak up and tell what's in your mind! It makes wonders :)

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Thank you and yeah it was very hard, well maybe it's the same step for you as for me, that badoo is a start, maybe it's just a learning ground to become less shy.

In real life i find it hard to notice if someone would be flirting or not, or just being polite, it's also easier when you are younger, because then more people would be single, at my age you got plenty already in a relationship or being married (i already just look at their hand for a wedding ring).

You are probably right. :)

How are you life wise (relationship, work (your dream) these days? Haven't really kept up.

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It's not that I became less shy, I just figured I can be super creative with my messages on Badoo and hope for 3 anwsers out of 100 or just say 'hi' in real life and have 97 answers out of 100 :P

Maybe there are places where single ladies usually go or things they do?

I'm in a fantastic relationship for 5 years now (actually we have an anniversary in March) :) And I have a dream job (it's still hard and stressful though). I'm much more confident these days but it's all thanks to improv classes that changed my life – there was a lot of positivity I needed, useful philosophy thay worked really well in real life for me, and it turned out I'm good at something I always wanted to do. It was a perfect coincidence I signed up for these classes.

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The ladies part isn't hard, the being single part is. :p Only thing i can think of is speeddating, maybe.
Hmm maybe it's also a plus side if you don't have to start with a long conversation.

Grats and very good to hear. but i assume you met her in real life, how did you meet, if i may ask?

Some people say things happening in life might not be coincidences but was all meant to be, like one door closing the other one opens, who knows if it's all that or just coincidences being nothing more then coincidences, still don't know.

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Maybe all the singles have the same problem – they don't know where all the singles go. It might be worth to organize an event for such a people on your own :)

Yes, we met in real life through mutual friend. It was a time when I never missed a chance to go and socialize. And it was a great thing to do, obviously :)

Coincidences or doors – in the end what you're going to do about it is what really matters :) And doing is superior to thinking in general. There's even an improv rule show, don't tell which is just a great piece of advice to me because I tended to talk a lot about things I'm going to do in the future instead of actually doing them :P

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Unsolicited but friendly piece of advice. Stop looking for people who are like you and instead just look for people that you like.

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But the hardest part is finding people that like me. ;p

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Good on you for beginning to reach out to your dating matches. Sounds like maybe you dodged a bullet with that woman tbh.

I don't know what your purpose is for using the app but you should be using dating apps as a tool to meet face to face with people. Everyone connects better with a person face to face and you just get a better feel and tell on a person when the meeting is physical. Can you imagine that woman saying you have problems to your face? Of course she wouldn't.
But lets put it this way, do you think a female is more likely to remember the random guy who popped up for a chat in her inbox or a guy she went out to meet for drinks?
While someone may feel like they are connecting to someone just by chatting and talking about each others problems or lives etc.. I can tell you most people generally don't care enough because ultimately they are just someone on an app, its not 'real' to them.

Also you need not be so candid through dating apps. Relationships aren't built in the first conversation, just use that time to enjoy getting to know someone new. Every single person in the world has their own problems but I don't know any single person who likes to be reminded of them!

Thanks for sharing I hope you have omitted a lot of good things happening for the sake of matching the giveaway :-). But a lot of nice advice given here and I hope your rental situation gets sorted quickly (and is clean!)

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Very true.

My boss said the other week, you all got it much easier these days plenty of sites/apps so a lot of chances, but it's also more superficial. When 40 years ago you had to go to a pub, dance school, disco etc to meet someone, then face to face you could feel more if you got a connection with someone.

But as for real life at a certain age most women will already be married, or in a relationship, which makes it a lot more akward to ask in real life (to me atleast and yes some might flattered) only real way for sure you know the other would be single is a thing like speeddating.

Maybe i am too candid but the first questions will be what do you do? where do you live? etc, how do you avoid those things?
If you don't say too much she can go "oh he is boring".
I mean i had another chat when i asked a girl what she did for work? She answered "optician", then i was where does she live? "in utrecht." without asking anything back either, then you aren't having much of a conversation either.
I used to chat till 2:00 in the morning or mail 20 emails a day with 2 seperate women (one is still a good friend) when i was 2x but now i really struggle with that chit chat.

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Tinder - 99.99% of the people you interact with, are there for one thing: To find a genital sparring partner. Of course she was dating another guy

So i was like well if she doesn't understand me noone could

  • What? You just met this person, (The first interaction with a Tinder'ess) and you resort to think "this is it", her acceptance of me is "end game".

with a 300.000 shortage of houses

  • I wish you luck there. But also, if the situation is that dire, you must lower your expectations a bit. Neighbours will most often be crazy, noisy and all kinds of whatever.
    As for the cleanliness - You are renting a box to live in. It's up to you to make it suitable. Get some gloves and a mop dude. Rule them germs.

When reading this, and other posts you make, I can't help but feel you are "playing the wrong game". Like being seated at a poker table, expecting to play bingo. A reality check is sometimes needed in life. For everyone.

Get away from the shallow depths of Tinder, and when you do find a potential partner, don't start off by advertising all your faults and issues. Find what's good about yourself and play to your strengths. But first I would highly recommend working hard to find your own place. Don't sit around waiting for emails. Get on the phone and call call call, until "luck" is no longer a factor. Get your own situation stable enough, so you can then have the strength to love and support another individual.

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The discussion about tinder being for sex or not really depends on the country you are in (that i learned from a previous topic) besides this was badoo not tinder. Badoo is also very different.

No i tried other dating sites in the past and it isn't just that conversation, i do question sometimes if certain people aren't just "doomed" to be alone, but besides that how life is going, you need to work for things in life and you need luck, be it a job, relationship etc etc offcourse you have to "conquer" a woman but you also need that luck part finding someone willing you to give that chance.
But if you have problems or as Masafor calls it "a loser" then you have to work even harder for someone giving you that chance, my boss says you got it all so easy these days, plenty of choice, no because now it's so superficial looking at a picture and you swipe left or right while in a bar you could already feel more if you connect or not.

That is true not talking about your problems, the wife of a colleague adviced me that too last week but you do end up usually in the first questions being asked what do you for work? where do you live etc? And thus going deeper into it, maybe i struggle yeah getting that right, rather then having for example a drug problem, i mean that's a thing someone is not asking about right away and you avoid "easier" for the time being.

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Maybe this is all a dream. Maybe it is just not your dream after all.....

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I've been on Tinder for 6 years and only had my first date this year, and it turned out to be fake/prank, which I found out after driving 50 km. Never had a date on Badoo. Have matched with about a dozen women on Bumble but never received one message (women have to message first on Bumble, and they have 24 hours to do it after matching before the match is abandoned). I haven't been kissed since 2014 except by my mother, and she came over this afternoon to notify me that I need to move out of the flat I've been living in for 25 years. I can't afford to rent here and don't have anywhere to put my stuff. I can't find work despite my qualifications and experience and the next closest large city is 2,000 km away. Also, I broke a rib during the week and the sharp pain is distracting me from my chronic arthritic pain. I've been trying to wake up for a decade.

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This tune gives me shivers.. The good kind 🎵👍

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I wish I could give you an encouragement, but as someone who has been on Tinder for 3 around years (on and off) I might not be the best person to do so. ^^

Couple of months ago I met an amazing woman there, we had a great date and everything seemed to click, we scheduled a second date and kept chatting, but then I had to fall prey to my anxiety again and blew it... Ended up getting ghosted... Damn, that was just the worst since I really thought that this time it could work!

Anyways, long story short, I got over it and currently am thinking of installing Tinder again and giving it another try (just got a new haircut and shaved so bring it on!) , since as an introvert, working in a pre-dominantly male environment (although things are improving on that front), I just fail to see any other way of going about it. With every failure we grow and I am sure that this time I will be able to do a better job, and if not, there is always the next time.

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Hey sorry to hear, you don't have any contact info left from her? Maybe if you explain she could understand (althought it might be a bit late and she moved on) and if not, nothing lost either right?

Yep, get back on that horse and try again, i can really suggest badoo too (Easier to get to chat with women for free) tinder you can't contact unless both match or you pay.

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Thanks! I did have her number and sent her a message with an explanation a bit later but I guess it was too little, too late, never got a reply, and did not want to push the case any further.

I actually prefer the fact that you have to match before being able to chat since matching encourages me to actually write (since she at least likes the way I look on photos I guess). I have tried Badoo, but did not actually try to contact anyone. Kinda wish something like OK Cupid was more popular in my country since it's more like traditional dating app, not just a swiping simulator, but since there is only like 15 women visible there, in a city of 400.000, I will probably have to stick with Tinder. ^^

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Yeah one try would have been enough,never try to push things with a woman. another door will open. ;)
Maybe next time take something calming?

Never heard about ok cupid, we got lexa being big here but you can't even see who liked you let alone send a message until you pay like 150 euro a year, and then if she doesn't have a subscription you even pay more so others can message you back, big rip off.

Might differ per country, on tinder here i get the occasional 10-15 pictures to swipe from, on badoo it goes beyond 50, i feel it might even be endless and you go through all them they got. Wish you a good luck too.

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Maybe but people usually aren't by choice on wellfare or cheap housing, and some might have serious mental issues, a few months ago we had one closeby that jumped out of a window commiting suicide, if one could afford a house (that are a minimum of 200k euro) then the odds of meeting lesser weird people does increase (a bit) you still can't rule anything out offcourse.
I mean my parents live in a house with thin walls and noisy neighbours (they even take baths at 3:00).

If i won the lottery and had that choice i would move way way south (or even belgium) find myself a free standing house without neighbours, plus you also get more house and ground for your money, even better if it could be new construction (there is gonna be a halt (again) because of the pollution thing so many in construction will get sacked while we are already 300k houses short..).
Even when 2 people already got a good job it's hard these days to buy a house, so i got no hopes even if i got a job being able to buy one myself thus it will be either being rental or moving in with someone who already got it better.

If you buy a house on house selling sites you see plenty of pictures from the inside and thus know if you got a good feeling about it, with rentals it's just the outside, you don't know at all how the inside is unless you get an invitation to have a look.

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