I always try to keep believing that but if you are honest for alot of people it never gets better, there is no universal law sadly that guarantees everyone an okay life.
And what doesn't kill you makes you stronger etc nor can things be rushed to your liking but i really am like if it does get better why can't it be by now.
When i was little i had a cassette tape and had this song, which was actually one of my favorites back then, maybe should listen to it now again. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-n3sUWR4FV4
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However despite the pic, you can decide to improve your life, but don't wait for "something" to happen Lugum
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Keep your chin up bud! You’ll pop out of that tunnel soon. We’re all here for you
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just take it one day at a time. take deep breaths in relaxation/meditation style. like water off a duck. be the duck. quack
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I'll try to, ducks do have an easy carefree life, they can eat/swim/sleep whenever they just want to.
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Congratulations for the 8k.
My advice, to see the light at the end of the tunnel, is that you let the comp (and mobile phone) off for a part of the day.
For me work that very good when i do that in the morning and first do my stuff in the flat, office stuff and such things. Because when i sit at the comp is "all" nice and much nicer as, as example, cleaning the toilet ;o)
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Thanks, while i believe people should have their days with no internet etc to go back within themselves, but i would just be bored senseless if i didn't have my pc, as its basically my only hobby and while i could do some chores it's not something that would fill days.
Also my mess is actually on the pc so many drives with unsorted folders, files etc, too many installed games but i keep postponing that. xD
I'd love to just being able to go to some cabin in the woods (center parcs) with a laptop to find some of that solitude and rest, but money..
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Sometimes I find myself in a rut too, but eventually if I just keep mudding along I’ll reach the end of it and things turn around. Work to change and make the best out of the things you have control of and let the rest handle itself and don’t worry about it too much since it just will cause unnecessary stress.
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you may or may not recall me complaining about bad health during the last months. i've been on medication for 4 weeks now and it's getting better. but reeeallyyyy slowly. at this rate it will take another 8 or 12 weeks or even more before i'm a pretty boi again. and even after that i will need my medication basically forever. so that's some shit.
but i'm not thinking or worrying about it at all.
firstly i know thinking about it will get me in a really bad mood and suck all my power. secondly even if i think about it all day every day i still can't do anything about it.
instead i started working out again two weeks ago as soon as i felt semi-fit to do so.
it gives you a goal & a direction and an anchor in your daily life. even if everything else fails and turns to shit (job, relationship bla bla).
plus it's healthy and makes you both look better and feel better about yourself.
also: whatever happens, you own it. if you succeed it's your victory and your victory alone. if you fail there is nobody to blame but yourself.
like some mind game with yourself to stay in control i guess.
so that's my advice.
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Vaguely, but i have the memory of a goldfish sometimes. ;)
It's good to hear you are getting better, and hey better to just take some medicine and be lucky that it's there then it not being.
Working out is definitely a way to make you feel better, but when you're down, it's decreasing your energy and really not makes you want to work out, while you really should, but i gonna try again.
I wish you the very best, and thanks.
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right but at the same time getting your workout done on a shitty day will make you feel more energetic and prouder.
also i started looking into stoicism lately.
basically i've been doing that for years and years now but more on a casual level. i guess it's about time to get serious.
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I have started jogging (meaning i climb a small hill in the park up and down) again after 3 months, on average i was on 33x going up and down, and little increases every so weeks.
The first time i started again i did 7 below my average, the week after i suddenly did 40 (so 7 above my average) and i could have done 50.
And before that i also did a small bike ride to the grocery store, i was very surprised on the sudden big increase i could do because i still didn't felt particularly great that day.
I am not getting the whole energtic thing though, i do feel tired and need the rest afterwards.
It can go a step further in just thinking positive about all things, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f3isjlvccc0
And i dunno how much i believe in it, i try to be positive, negativity won't make your bills/worries disappear so why do it? is my stance, however i also starting to question though if this all has a base of truth, what though if others are worrying for you (and themselves) like family, will that still impact you too?
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well i certainly feel more energetic and powerful after doing some "heavy" lifting (and a little tired obviously) but i guess this doesn't really come into effect if you limit yourself to cardio and especially lots and lots of cardio. though i can confirm "runner's high" is indeed a real thing.
also building more overall muscle mass will get you more in the long run than just cardio alone. especially if you're trying to lose some annoying body fat.
positive thinking is a thing as well. and it works as long as you use it within reason. if you can't change something then there's no reason to worry about it. at the same time some problems and worries need to be attacked and not be brushed aside like "oh it will be fine" time and time again. that won't get you anywhere and the problems will stay or even get worse. also it's tempting to go with "i can't change it anyway" every single time.
also there are some things that are just bad and no mind tricks and lying to yourself can change that it is bad. for example my skin condition. one injection per week will keep the symptoms away so that's a positive. however i would prefer not to be fucking sick at all and not needing medication in the first place. there is no way to trick this into something positive.
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Well i am not ruling out i got something physical too still for various reasons which could also be a cause for fatigue, but i can't have it checked out atm because of financial reasons.
But some things are just out of your hand, like my biggest worry is if i ever get kids, that's not something i could just tackle right now
I could go to a random bar and do a one night stand but that would be dumb, then a thought like oh it will be fine just is more comforting then thinking well maybe it won't happen.
Maybe certain diets can help you, like i got a female friend that got alot of pains, when she cuts down on sugar it helps alot, i also tend to believe there are more ways that nature can help rather then us being dependant on medication.
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Enjoy the little pluses in life and take heart from them as there will always be negatives in your life. Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger and hopefully once you get through this, life will be a good deal better. Onwards and upwards and focus on the +ve thoughts!
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Do you have any ideas for a hobby that takes you away from inside-the-house activities? Something you can do outside of the house that gets you out and mixing with other people? Sounds like you need something like this.
I've been there a few years back. I wasn't depressed or anything, just mega stressed. I went through a horrible breakup, my uncle was terminally ill and I had a thesis to finish. Stress triggers aren't necessarily related to the things that you think they are. The trigger for my stress was actually the thesis. With everything going on in my head, every time I thought about it, I'd start to panic. It was irrational, but there it was. I could talk to friends on the internet about what was happening, but I couldn't talk to my family about how I felt about my personal life. They had enough on their minds. The internet helped some, but it wasn't solving the deeper issues.
I told my doctor because I needed a thesis deferral. My doc suggested I drop the thesis for six months at least and pick up a hobby that gets me out of the house. What do you like? I told him I used to be involved in choral music and musical theatre but had to give it up due to work/college and he was like "there you go then." So... that's what I did. I rejoined my local theatre group. It helped immensely just to get out of the house and do something I liked.
Maybe there's something new that you could try just to get yourself out of the house once a week or so. I think everyone should have something. :)
I haven't been able to anything like the above for the past 2 years. Oddly, I don't feel stressed about it, just incredibly bored. (But, my so-called friends abandoned me because I'm unable to go out with them, but meh, not a big loss.) I had to move back in with my mam and dad. But... I have my surgery in less than 4 weeks. 6 weeks recovery time.... and then I get my life back. The worst thing for me I think is falling into a rut of using my computer all the time to kill boredom, since I can do very little else. I will need to break myself of that habit.
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+1
Well said, Shannon. And I agree on the core parts. ;)
In order to find happiness in life you have to engage with other people and build relationships apart from the internet.
Currently I'm going through a lot of shit myself, so I'm not very good at giving advice to friends in misery, but it's essential to stay positive - no matter what. Just remember it always could be worse.
@Shannon, I'm wishing you all the best concerning your surgery and get well soon!
@Lugum, I fear everyone has to find their own way of dealing with all the negativity, but don't give in and try to find things that makes you happy. Also, a little structure in life does not hurt and is essential in being happy.
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No i don't have any ideas i always been a gamer mostly, and even if i wanted to do certain other things, alot cost money and if you don't have it, that already rules things out, and makes you stuck.
I try to jog but i only do it in good weather, and it was so cold that i haven't done it in 3 months, yesterday was the first day again.
If that training goes through maybe there are people i could connect with that leads to other things (i never could click with anyone in the jobs i had but atleast with this we would have something in common, a distance to the job market).
My (few) friends also abandoned me when i had difficult times, in the years after that i had some oddly enough female friends (seem to better connect with) but some faded away, in ways i don't care anymore about the missing friendships, i do miss a relationship though, someone to say i love you too and back, someone that would support you, would make life's problems so much more bareable.
I hope your surgery goes well and you get out of that rut soon. :)
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Don't look at the trouble around you, man. Look back to all you've weathered and you're still here. Look forward to the good parts.
Your training made you happy. It's just delayed, you'll get that momentum.
In the meantime, shine on your heavy heart. Listen to music that you like. Watch a movie you know by heart because it's always made you happy. Play games from your backlog that you've put off. Treat yourself to a bit of sunshine.
Hang in there, buddy.
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With 8000 games i do have an enormous backlog yeah.
It's been a cloudy cold winter, the last 2 weeks it's finally starting to become a bit of spring as in temperatures rising, still comes with rain though, but should get better next week, just the warmth of the sun does help.
Thank you.
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Congrats! You are 2X the hoarder that I am [I have a measly 4K games in my Steam account :D]!
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Thanks, well the positive might be you probably also got only half the junk that i have. :p
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Lol, true. But that 8K badge is pretty impressive.
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Yeah, especially with really not much real money into it, ah the days when tremorgames was still good and got 2-3k coins a day, free PayPal/crypto offers in the past, Groupees that actually still gave useful coins.:)
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Hmm, I don't really know what happenned to you, cause I'm not avid forum reader, but after reading some stuff above, I got a general idea (maybe?).
Altough some people say it gets better, welp, it actually doesn't. Cause why would it? If you have problems, I have one advice only: solve them instead of running away. Welp, unless a wild cheetah appears. Then you run. For maybe 6 seconds. ;)
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Sometimes it's just not a matter of running away though in that you are stuck to a situation (like having to live with your parents (and the frustrations from all sides it can lead to, and a line i read many times from others too here), in which the alternative would be the streets), And also people not willing you to give you a chance ( i compare it to how it was 30 years ago, houses were alot cheaper, like now our energy costs will go up 400 a year.. and that's just one thing, but also you could easily change profession, now most companies will demand 5-10 years experience, hardly room for a newcomer or to train).
I think alot of people in the upcoming generations will get it even harder with more jobs getting taken over by drones, computers etc, costs that will rise through the roof, we are just at the beginning.
I got a training pending which might be an opening to something better, atleast money, but it wouldn't just solve all my problems right away either, but for now it's a waiting game because they postponed it.
For some it will get better, i am spiritual and i do like to think, keeping an positive attitude and good karma atleast could help (and if it doesn't what do you lose really?)
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keeping an positive attitude and good karma atleast could help (and if it doesn't what do you lose really?)
keep on doing it, Lugum, then see you in a week or two...
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You coming to the Netherlands and show up at my doorstep? ;o xD
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Congrats on this epic milestone!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fw96olokWPE
Not sure if this would suit your music preference, but for me, this song has made wonders.
Be strong, brother and don't give up!
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I really try to be open to as much music as i can but this is a bit too loud for my taste. :p
Thank you though. :)
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Mute it, put on some favorite instrumental and read the lyrics, maybe. Hehehe
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I'll try that.
This is a bit more soothing, text also has power in my opinion.
https://www.steamgifts.com/discussion/gO2rM/bliss-and-almost-bliss
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Hang in there 8K man. After the storm comes the calm. It will eventually.
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8000+ games. I don't think I could ever, ever collect that many games. And I've been using steam for 15+ years...and with all of the other physical copies of games I'm collected.
That's crazy! Does your list load at all?
Maybe you might be interested in this album Opeth - Damnation
Not necessarily acoustic but it's very mellow and not your regular Opeth album. No screaming or growls, just beautiful music. The first 8 tracks are absolutely mesmerizing Windowpane, Hope Leaves, & To Rid the Disease are personal favourites.
Can't really remember your predicament but I think I can conjure up some thoughts. Try to be well. Think positive! The world works in mysterious ways; many upsetting and negative things in my life may or may not have lead to new, good beginnings!
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I only been really active on steam for about 6 years, bought audiosurf like 12 years ago and then didn't do anything with steam, fearing all those stories about steam spying on you etc etc.
I had a big collection of pc games, wanted to get rid of it because of space and i could use the money, but it was so problematic selling as people only buy for cheap and don't know the value on some games etc etc, but then by one lucky shot a few months ago found someone who paid 250 for just everything i had.
Just the client? No problems there but got fast internet, i can imagine loading in big picture mode or viewing it in your browser will create issues.
I did expected some loud hard metal, but wasn't bad, at some points it sounds a bit like Pink Floyd. :p
Thank you.
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When you got 8000 games, with all the games that steam decided not to count plus no more buying bundles took a bit longer.
While it should be cheered, and some admired the positivity i had but right now i am at the end of my rope, too much stress because of constant arguements (which results in physical taxation also), the training i may/may not do is postponed for atleast a few more weeks because they didn't had enough applications, and other stuff going on, just hope to still see that light at the end of the tunnel someday.
When you just want some rest and quietness but you can't get it. (Why i also closed the blacklist thread someone necroed a few days ago, besides it was too old). If you wanna say grats, cheer up or whatever, i will thank you in advance.
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/Vjq56/death-goat
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