(1/22/2022) Alright, I won't be checking the messages here anymore. Thank you all so much for the uplifting and kind words you've shared with me and candid advice. I really appreciate it! I hope maybe you guys can use this thread as a place to talk about moving forward in your lives, whatever that means to you. I wish you all well! thank you for the 8 years of games, threads and discussions, and community posts! Good bye everyone!

Since my post's blowing up, i'm putting these here for some people who want a frank, candid, brutal talk about life.

Clean, facts-based, rated E for everyone informational: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JXeJANDKwDc

Grim, filthy, crude, rated R for Adults version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H285s4HYv3c

There's a lot to criticize about the lather, but I think it's important to use it for what it's worth. It's very raw, and raw things aren't meant to be pretty to look at.
I recommend the former, but I recognize the lather can be useful for some people. It's a great wake-up call video

I know nobody really knows me or anything, but i'm leaving SG.

Over the past year of my life i've been finally taking the time to seriously look myself in the face and ask myself what I want from life, what I want to do with my life.
It's so incredibly easy to just keep exchanging time for comfort when you're young, because at that point in life you're rich with the stuff.

But i'm nearing 30 and like, I recognize I have not only nothing to show for it, but all my years of self-pitying and wishing and wanting but inaction and indecision to actually try to carve anything worth a damn out in this life worth experiencing has left me ten years down the track that I minds as well have not even bothered existing.

I'm doing a major restructuring of my life and letting go of the past and trying to figure out what I want to actually achieve and get out of life.

Money and fancy tvs, nice cars, expensive clothes, has never been a motivator for me in life, i'm much more of a person who lives for the experiences I share with people I care about.
It's all super confusing for me and i'm not sure where to start, but I know I need to start, and so start I have been doing.

I have so much pointless excess in my life, from video games, to books and graphic novels, worthless plastic figures and all this stupid junk I surround myself with that adds nothing to my life but be a vain attempt to fill a hole i've been neglecting to meaningfully fill within myself for years.

So in all that excess, i've been getting rid of a TON of my belongings over the past months, and videogames has been up and coming on that chopping block for awhile. It started with deleting my fanatical account, cutting my wishlist from a massive 300+ games to a cool 33 (trying to make it lower!), and now i'm deleting my humble bundle account and leaving here as well. After this i'm gonna go through my library and delete a s-ton of games that I don't think would be meaningful to me and interesting uses of my hobby time.

So, this is farewell guys. I've been frequenting this website ever since I was a teenager in college, but it's time I open a new chapter in my life and find something worth doing this thing called life for.
Nothing scares me more than the fact of how much time we all waste every single day, and I want to find a life that's more interesting and meaningful to me than the endless rat race and grind that is modern work culture. I get to everyone it's just some fairytale dream, and I know it's not going to be as cracked up as movies and media portray a alternative life style to be and i'm still going to have to work just as hard for it. But still I just think there has to be a life out there that's more worth it than the crap i'm doing right now, because I just can't face myself and the grave of living a passive empty life like I have.

I wish you well everyone! Here's some GA's for the road!

https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/iQYOe/rad
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/iVH9M/brothers-a-tale-of-two-sons

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DEFINITELY you made a very important, and great attempt. I have been trying something similar for a while and it definitely helped, but I gotta be honest.. It is a hard journey.

No matter how hard it is tho, just try to focus that you decided to change NOW and the past years that you wasted are the PAST. Try to focus the future. Whenever you feel like you are late, remember that you wouldn't be late if you started this a year ago and that means you won't be late again a year later.

Lastly, anyone you love.. your mother, father, gf/bf, close friend etc... force yourself to spend more time with them and make them feel you love them.

Actually, I find outside help very helpful. Do you want to stay connected to share our progress to each other? Sometimes when you want to give up, the thought of saying "I failed" gives you courage. At least it gave to me ^^

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Sure I don't mind, i'll send a friend request!

Also i'm really not sure what to expect and honestly i'm expecting to turn tail at the signs of trouble. I haven't had to like, genuinely endure physical hardship in a long time. Most of my hardships have been very emotional, personal issues. I'm scared and worried about it honestly.

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honestly i'm expecting to turn tail at the signs of trouble

Do you want me to be honest? You will. This is the exact reason I suggested to talk. Actually your loved ones would be much more helpful. Tell them your plans, and ask them to check on you. It is harder to give up when you make a promise.

I haven't had to like, genuinely endure physical hardship in a long time. Most of my hardships have been very emotional, personal issues. I'm scared and worried about it honestly.

I think your problem is similar to mine. If you think about it, its not about emotional or physical, its general lack of balls to push yourself whether it is work, sport, emotional stuff etc. Playing video games to forget about your issues doesn't count as enduring. Enduring means healing, fixing.

Hopefully that didn't come out very negative haha :D If you are serious about what you are started, it will be better. Don't forget, you create this situation by ignoring it for years, and you can't expect it to over in days. I always remind me this, and I suggest you the same ->

Whenever you feel like you are late, remember that you wouldn't be late if you started this a year ago, and that means you won't be late again a year later.

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No it's ok! I didn't think you're negative! I was honest because I want a honest talk. Pretending that this isn't going to be a hard road will do me no good and it'll just wind my back up here.

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I wrote you from Steam, we can talk through there if you want.

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I can relate to almost everything you said.
A great place to start is the gym, or simply taking good care of your body and staying fit. You'll be happy when you look in the mirror 5 months from now, and would want to achieve more. If you're already fit, you need to seek discomfort, get to know new people, fill your day with events even if the day would get tiring. Find a new hobby, or get back to something you've liked but stopped. You can also plan a gaming discord night with the boys and gals once or twice a week in case you don't have any plans. Stay awesome!

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Good advice and thoughts, gonna copy and paste this into my notes.

Thank you for taking the time to write this message!

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Honestly, I feel that.

It's probably naive, but I often think about these days how humans could've found our paradise if we weren't so greedy and put so much focus on -things-.

I really just, want to be fucking human again. I want to look people in the fucking eyes and just be real, honest, share experiences and memories. Stories. Share burdens and hardships.

I'm so tired of the constant one-sided relationships and impersonal nature of the world now.

It's a part of why i'm doing this journey, I just want to find something actually worth a damn out there, worth hanging onto, worth fighting for and living for. I'm just so tired of how empty, hollow, and shallow my life is.

I have a bunch of nice things, but I feel empty inside.

I constantly think and talk about how I just want to feel gravity again. Nothing feels like it matters, everything feels so vapid, meaningless. I feel like I live a life without any consequence and I hate it so much.

I want to feel like my decisions and choices matter again. I want to feel like i'm living a friggin' life, not biding my time with hollow pleasures until I finally kick it someday.

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Oooh that sounds fun. I hope you get to try that someday, i'm sure it'd be uplifting and enlightening for you : )

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I don't entrer the GA, just hoping that you will find what your searching for. Sorry ly english is very bad

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It's ok! Also I really appreciate your message, thank you for taking the time to type this. Your english was pretty good!

I'd just change the "don't" to "didn't" close though!

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The crisis of the 30's. The most horrible thing is that you're not going to find anything out there either, you already had the emptiness inside.

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Yeah well i'd rather go out and go see some pretty stuff than just wasting my life away in-front of a computer.

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I'm not telling you that you shouldn't do it. I'm telling you see you soon.

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I'm not ready to do this yet. Good luck!

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That's valid, just listen to your body when it starts to tell you it's time, or that you need to go.

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good luck c:

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I hope you find what you are looking for

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wishing you all the best! ;)

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I can relate to this, and hope you find the change you are in need of.
Best of luck.

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I honestly think you've taken a positive decision for your life, because it seems you really know what you're doing and what you want. In my case, I've been doing that over the past year, step by step. Not the same problems, not the same solutions, but I think we have a similar attitude, but I'm going way slower as energy is scarce. As fas as gaming goes, I think I'll keep playing and collecting, but I'm getting rid of lots of stuff and leaving space to allow more positive people in my life - even tho I'm amidst a personal crisis.

Wherever you may roam, I hope you find good people and things.

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nods thank you : )
I definitely want more room for good people in my life too XD

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so whats your project except get rid of things you consider as useless or toxic? I don't understand how it will change your life to leave steamgifts or reduce your wishlist but i respect your choice. May you have to experiment more , wish you the best anyway

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Tis a part of the journey fam.

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small renunciations cant change your life. Radical changes could, as not having computer anymore, not having credit card anymore, going living alone in the mountains, things like that... But reduce a wishlist or leave a website is not a radical change for me. I dont know you so i still dont understand your procedure but I think you should dig more into yourself to find out what you want to become. Thats not because you are on fanatical or sg that you're rotten, otherwise we're all . When I was younger i did radical changes in my life and gone forward on the road with nothing, then i came back from the dream and put back the foot on the ground because i didnt want to live forever on the road. I like comfort, and my cats like it too lol

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Small things can change your life though, especially when you start to build up on them. Just cutting out soda is huge, just reducing snack food intake is huge, going out for a run, not smoking anymore, watching your alcoholic drink intake is huge.
You don't need to do something "radical" to change your life like getting rid of your pc or credit card. That's kinda extreme, especially since those items are necessary in many peoples day-to-day life.

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no smoking anymore or stop drinking alcohol is radical for most of accustomed . Sounds radical to me. But i dont disagree with your words. Just for working you have to open a bank account. You cant leave the system for all you're right. That's why i said you have to put some water in your wine and accept the society is not what you expected to be afterall and deal with it.
Nowadays it looks inconceivable to do such things but its possible to live without computer or without credit card. It tests your ability to adapt to have nothing or not having things that most people have.

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Sometimes all we need is change but usually change is hard for many people. Starting to change is the hardest part. I hope you find what you're looking for in life. Be well and good luck on your journey.

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It is courageous to make radical decisions and it is incredibly powerful. Once you start taking control of your life, know what you want, and most importantly, what you don't want, that turns in time into a superpower.
I sincerely hope you will find what you are looking for.

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No idea why this thread became a meme and everyone started making jokes about it. Almost feels like I'm on Reddit, where a new meme gets popular and then people run it into the ground...

Don't let the naysayers bring you down or change your mind, do what feels right for you.
It's better to have tried and failed than to live life wondering what would've happened if you had tried.
Good luck on your journey and hope you find what you're looking for.

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Lmao I had no idea, I just looked at the threads and saw that XD Didn't even notice that was going on.

But i'm not bothered! I just went out for my second run today and I connected with some cool new people last night!

Also thank you! I really appreciate your message : )

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Live your truth. Is this is something you feel will help you make a positive change then go for it!
The only thing I can really offer is a little caution. Sometimes these kinds of big changes can be like crash diets. When we get a surge of inspiration and/or willpower, we can try to seize them too tightly and burn ourselves out by doing too much at once. Crash diets rarely work because it tests our willpower to a severe degree, whereas a diet that is only a small but sustained change is much more likely to stick, even if the result is far far less pronounced. The thing about small permanent changes though, is that we can stack them, and we can add upon them once we have become accustomed to the previous positive change.

Good luck in your endeavour to find a more fulfilling way of life, but please be careful not to burn yourself out or crush yourself under the sheer size of the plan. There is no shame in a more gradual adaption, but like I said : You do you. Life is not infinite, so finding what you feel is the most nourishing lifestyle and realising whatever happiness you find is really important. Pacing is also key to making changes stick ;)

Take care for now!

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I remembered a couple of songs. I hope they like you.
Shadow Of The Day - Linkin Park (Road to Revolution: Live at Milton Keynes)
The Educated Fool (2015 Remaster)
Waiting For The End [Official Music Video] - Linkin Park
You are well done to set out your thoughts well. I wish to build a new wonderful life.
Brand New Day

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