Todays been a very rough day here at the house of Headmonkeyboy. We lost who was to be my brother in law to a heart attack.
This on top of my step daughter to be's boyfriend committing suicide 2 weeks ago. I hope you all wont mind my absence, inactivity,
or just being quiet for a while. I have many ducks that need put in a row and am doing my best, disabled or not I will pull this family back
together and try to bring happiness back for my wife to be and our 5 kids.

I've made some really good friends here and I thank you all for the fellowship I've felt since I joined. I just want those who know me to know
why Im not on much, or seem too busy to talk. As a military man in my younger years I will quote another military man of history.
I shall return

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Sorry to hear things are being rough, but you sound like a tough dude and I'm sure you'll make it through this!

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Thank buddy, things are starting to calm down now some. It'll be quite some time before everything is back to normal I'm sure, but we're working towards it.

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Take care of yourself and your family, try to sort everything out and I hope that all of you find happiness again soon together...

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Thank you Laurens, we are working towards that goal daily slow but sure. :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

7 years ago
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Good lord, dude :-(

Do what you need to do. Be there for your people.

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Thank you for your kind words, and the folks here are my extended people :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Pfft, cry when you need to. I'd a younger middle aged dude, and I have no qualms about telling people that such and such made me cry. You're a human, you're allowed to do that.

Keep pushing through, dude. Life is tough sometimes, as you know. Getting it piled on like this, though, is something that hopefully won't happen again soon, if ever.

7 years ago
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:( I'm sorry for your loss. Hopefully everything will be sorted out soon, don't give up, take care.

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Ahhh Baffi, one look at those... anyway thank you for your kindness towards me always :)
I've often wondered why you aren't in my friends list yet lol

7 years ago
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haha :D probably cuz of my jealous bf xd :p how are you now?:)

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I have one of those as well... except it's not a male.. hahaha
You need a hidden kik or something then :P
Today I'm doing pretty good. Just 3 weeks plus of nonstop insanity has been hell when I cant breath to begin with.
Hows Baffi been?

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I'm glad you are doing good:) I just turned 24 an hour ago:D haven't decided if happy or sad yet:D

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I don't even remember 24, oh wait. I was hauling auto parts. 1,400 miles a week for 32 cents per mile. The Twin Towers were still standing and I drove past them twice a week on 295 heading out onto Long Island. That was a fun run, lots of money and it was all mine. I didn't have time for a gf until I was 29. lol

Happy Birthday my lovely friend :) Be happy, celebrate, and enjoy your special day :) Give yourself a big hug and a sloppy kiss from an old perv too :P

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haha, that's a nice story:) gotta make dem money first:p and thank you for the wishes, my friend!

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Sorry to hear about this rough patch you're going through. I really hope things will get better soon, and for sure don't worry about this place. We will patiently wait for your return.

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Yirg my friend, thank you so much. Things are slowly improving and I have some time to frequent my favorite establishment again here.
The fellowship and friendship I get on here helps so much for me, it's very hard to explain. :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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That sounds really rough man. Hope things turn around for you and your family

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Thank you very much for your kind words :) I do appreciate it :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Stay strong, stay true, and stay happy - shiny wishes to you

7 years ago
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Thank you Loupou, very kind of you to offer words of encouragement :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Thank you buddy :) Everything is slowly improving finally, it'll be some time until we return to "normal" though. :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Thank you kindly, ever since my time in the 107th Armored Cav I envision an Abrams tank in my mind, and then become that machine. It helps me mentally to defeat challenges. :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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I'm so sorry to hear that :( I hope you and your family get the happiness and peace you deserve as soon as possible.

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Thank you Lenor, it's been a struggle of course but things are slowly improving :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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I'm going through pretty tough personal problems of my own and some wonderful people I met on SG are doing their best to give me moral support. I'm so glad you are among this wonderful community. Please also know that I'm always here for you.

Also regarding crying, you are only human. We are all human. We all feel emotions and it is okay to cry and let it out. Our bodies can only hold so much negativity before it cracks and crying can sometimes really help even if it doesn't fix any of our problems. Please don't feel bad about it or feel like you have to let the tears in.

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Life is constantly throwing challenges at us. How we respond to those challenges defines our character. Here's hoping for your success. )

Thanks for the wishlist giveaway. )

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Yes it sure is Khalaq, and its also the kind folks we meet along the way that helps our ability to overcome challenges, thank you for your boost :)

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It looks like your long posting was added as a response to mine rather than the OP. You might want to move it. )

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Don't know you, but I wanted to give you my condolences. Alotta people around me recently and for a strange reason develop cancer, seems like life's a bitch and has some weird and cruel sense of humor. Fubar all the way . Take care, stay strong and keep your head up high.

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Thank you Skibby, Im touched by your kindness to reach out :)
I learned after the first of 3 heart attacks of my own to always live each day as your last. My prayers for those people you know getting cancer all the sudden, thats such a horribly hard one to beat. I hope and pray they all beat cancer and live happy and healthy for many years to come.

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Thank you very much, let's hope for the best :]. Good to see you answering in good spirits, seems like your Abrams engine is running just fine ;).

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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My condolences :( Welcome to my WL!

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Thank you Fistrake very much, I hope you'll take a spot on my WL as well :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Wow! You must be in a tough situation! My condolences and best wishes for a happy life from now on!

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Thank you kindly and to be honest, a drunken day is just what I need about now. lol
My wishes for you to do the same friend, lifes short so enjoy it while you can :)

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If that's you need, then do it bro! And whenever you need to talk you should always have a chat from a close person or even here on SG! Opening up, helps a lot imo

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Yeah you are right my friend, I really cant drink anymore though. The meds I'm on daily and even half a beer makes for a sick night. My friends are all still OTR truckers like I was so they're always gone. SG has become my circle if you will, the people here are truly awesome in my experience :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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It's sad to hear something like that, but life isn't that easy, right? You must keep your head up, and stay walking, you know.
My truly condolences, things will be better soon, mate :)

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Thank you Longbottom I really appreciate your kindness :) I'd offer you to my WL but you've been there for a long time :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Oh no! :O Sorry to hear that! ;_; You must be strong now and support your family. Bring happiness to their lives, I know that you can. :)

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Hi Lucky, thank you so much :) Things are slowly getting better. His parents were the hardest hit by all of it. I've been spending alot of time with them since.

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Please, accept my condolences too. I just hope that this will be the last loss for many, many years to come... Stay strong and get better!..

Added: Also, must to be appreciated, that in such difficult time you reply to all the comments individually.

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Thank you kindly Dioman, it's the friends you didn't even know you had until they appear that makes me smile today. Thank you :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Life definitely brings you roses with big thorns sometimes. I can relate with the health issues. My heart is pretty much toast and with the other associated problems (partial foot amputation, vascular stents and arterial by-pass in the legs, stents in the heart, and now diabetes) I sometimes wonder if it's all worth it. Throw in a couple of other real life problems and that wall of struggle just gets higher and harder to get over.
I wish you great success in pulling through for you and your family during these uncertain and scary times. Just remember to recognize your own limitations and don't be afraid to ask someone for help or for encouraging positive conversation. Don't forget to take care of yourself!

I whitelisted you but I don't expect the same in return. My ratio is not all that great but I'm slowly working on it! If you haven't returned by then I hope that you and yours have a happy holiday season! (•‿•)

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Thank you very much Bmh, I hope you are able to keep all of that under control. I know it's very trying when you have numerous issues trying to pin you down. I'm going to pray you recover and can have a long healthy as possible life.

You're ratio isn't whats important my friend, it's your heart that gets you on my WL. Ratio's are nothing but number's imposed on us by those who don't see the person behind the numbers. I look the good people of SG, not the numbers. You have more than earned a top spot in my WL by being a kind and caring person even though you fight daily with health problems.

Thank you :)

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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Id like to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Its been a grueling 3 weeks but I see a light at the end of my tunnel....
Oh shit, its an oncoming high speed freight train... lol
But seriously I have actually looked and read everyone's words here daily to help keep my head above water this last week or so.
My friends here are real, and I do appreciate each and every one of you.

Those who were not on my WL have all been added, it's the least I can do to repay the kindness everyone has shown me.

Thats all I can say now or I'll start tearing up and I was taught many years ago a soldier never cries no matter what, and it's been so hard to keep the stoic demeanor while everyone else crumbled. In a way it's good I am like that, the rest of the family look to me for strength at times like these.

Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart

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The Deleted comment was me trying to do a link that didn't work out.
I always wonder what deleted comments said since Al Gore invented the internet :P

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Last thing then I promise to shut up a while. I hate to do copy and pastes but it seemed the most efficient way to ensure everyone see's my thanks to them. I hope you'll forgive me that.

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You sent out at least some individual messages prior. Either way works. It's the effort that counts :-)

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I missed this post, so I didn't reply earlier. I'm sorry for your losses, but I'm glad to see that your life is getting better. Hope your family is coping with crisis and become stronger.

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Maaan..i can only imagine getting through this two times this quick . My sincere condoleances.

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That's really rough, my thoughts are with you and your family. I know everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace, and it can be really difficult when you're in the supporting role to walk the line between giving them enough space and making them feel isolated. All you can do is be available for them and understanding no matter what kind of mood they are in. Help them out, bring them food, etc. Maybe take more initiative in suggesting things to do or to get together more than normal.

I would definitely try to find a way to engage them in conversation. I think talking about your feelings can help a lot. Keeping everything bottled up inside might seem tough or noble but it really just leads to more trouble down the road.

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I'm sorry that I missed your post when you posted it last week, but I hope my belated hugs will help you a little anyhow.:)

{{{{hugs}}}}

Hugs can never hurt, no matter when they are, right?:)

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Jeez. Just saw this.
I can't imagine how your family must feel now. My sincerest condolences go out to your family.
May you have the strength and the friends to help pull your family through this.
Remember, when everything is getting to be a bit too much you can always have a look in the forums. There's always someone or something that can make you smile again.
Sometimes you just gotta hide for a while:

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Damn, that's a terrible rough patch you're going through, but it seems you have a good strong head on your shoulders, and I'm sure you'll pull through (and hopefully pull the rest of your family through with you).

You have my condolences and best wishes to you and your family. I sincerely hope things start looking up for you sooner rather than later. No worries about SG -- real life should always be top priority. Besides, we'll all be here when you get back. Take good care.

7 years ago
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I didn't see this earlier... however, I wish you well, and I hope you take all the time you need for all the grieving. I cannot say a whole lot (but I always manage to write a mini-novel), but I have lost a few good people in my life, and it's not an easy thing. I hope you can stay strong and try to make the best of things (easier said than done). I always feel like that's what the people or creatures that pass on would want me to do, and I try to envision that...

I think I can speak for about anyone here saying we're here for you if you need something, but definitely take care of you first, or you cannot help much of anything beyond that. I always say "I can only control from the skin in." Still, at the same time, stuff like the things you mention are not easy to go through for anybody... Life just doesn't make a heck of a lot of sense, and I guess that's part of the mystery in my opinion.

What I really mean to say is that I wish you and all those close to you that are directly affected as much peace and serenity as possible while you go through this.

7 years ago
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