Most will know probably from own experiences, that they have sent dozens of job applications and no responses or just getting turned down, in march i found something and still working there 3 days a week, since maybe i saw a future in there i didn't bother to look elsewhere until 3 weeks ago.
And you know i got 1 interview yesterday (but owner goes on vacation so he can't decide for another 2 weeks), i will have a try out day on thursday somewhere else but it will take some travelling and as my current health goes i am just afraid it might be too much for the time being.
My heart turned out to be alright and so was my blood pressure and blood sugar but still i feel there is something not right, still have moments of shortness of breath (and making me tired at times too), atleast at my current job they work with me and they allow me to take it easy till i feel better.
All these choices have their ups and downs, i even compared them but i am just stuck at what the best choice would be, and yes it's a luxury some sure would want to be able to even choose between jobs, but i tell you it's still not easy.

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Just take care of yourself :)

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Hope you will find the right job for you.

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Best of luck with your job hunt Lugum.

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Good luck. It's always hard for most of ppl.

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Have you ever thought about online freelance work...?

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Like examples? So much online work that seems to be fake, and freelance isn't really a stable something either.

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Like upwork.com... There was a time when I was not making much with my job so I tried to work online. I made account on multiple freelancing sites (like upwork, freelance, peopleperhour, fiverr) and started bidding on photoshop designing related jobs. The toughest part is getting your first job since you will be having a new profile with zero projects done but I did get an offer eventually after three weeks of constant bidding but after that I would get like a couple of projects every week or two. Also I did find a permanent client and with that my monthly income from freelancing was more than what I was earning with my job.

It is definitely not fake, but yes it has become unstable with freelancers offering ridiculously low rate for work and at the same time clients providing poor rates for their projects. I stopped working online about four years ago when I got a new job and had to move out for training and live in a hostel. But freelance work definitely helped me out during hard times and I think you must give it a shot. Make a profile for any type of services that you can provide, upload your work samples and start bidding. I would recommend you start off with fiverr or upwork.

If you need any other help then let me know.

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I agree with n3ov. I worked for about 1 year in upwork and got some contacts and worked for them regulary.

I just stopped for a more comfort job and better payed. But its not that bad.

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Depends on the skill level. I have friends that live from freelancing. I don't have their skills, but I get regular payments from microworkers.
The tasks are simple and it depends only on you how much work you'll do.

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I didn't know about upwork. I think I'll have to give it a try. Thanks for the heads up !

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You also need to be aware of your countries laws regarding freelancing, especially if you already have a contract with some company.
For example where I am from you would need permission from your boss to start earning side-income in the same field as you do at work, as that could be considered working in direct competition to the company.

Either way, I hope you can work something out that will make you happy in the end :)

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Good luck, Lugum! 🤞

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That's a tough situation. I hope you end up with something that makes you happy.

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job searching sucks, good luck

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If you can type fast/accurate or speak multiple languages, check out https://www.rev.com/freelancers (you can earn $5-8 per video minute if you can translate from English to other languages).

Health-wise just remember the more you think you are sick the more you will feel like you are -- even if there's nothing wrong.

Wish you the best of luck!

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Thanks.

And my dad thinks the same way, but i just got events with shortness of breath (and therefor sometimes making me tired) at times when it shouldn't happen, like just getting out of bed and put my ear against the wall (to see if the neighbour kid is making noise (yet again) or just a 10 minute bike ride. And more then a year ago i almost suffocated about 3 times, all in a piece of apple.
And there are some other symptoms that i just think there is something wrong in the whole trajectory from my throat to my lungs.

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It's always nicer when decisions are easy to make because one option is really outstanding, but as you noted, on the positive side, at least you have options, you've eliminated some possible sources of health problems, and you made it through another week, so it's not so bad.

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But i would want everything checked (and to know if its really just between the ears) scary as it might be if i had the money i'd do one of those full body scans.

And this week would be about choices, a week where i have to work 4 days and they might also give me a contract if it goes well on both sides, a decision i am not sure i could make (right away atleast). They asked me how long it would take i could leave my current job and stupidly i said right away, instead of like 2 weeks or something.

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Sure, you should follow up on your continuing health concerns with your doctor, but at least you know some big things that it could have been are okay. On the job front, maybe you can follow up with them and clarify that when you said "right away", you actually meant there was nothing else stopping you besides the 2-weeks notice that's pretty customary (here anyway, don't know about there) -- they may have even assumed that is what you meant.

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Well with right away i really said to them i had no notice (being a flex worker they could also fire me instantly just as i can resign instantly) i could make it i made a wrong assumption about it though.

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I wasn't aware you were in poor health, that SUCKS! Hopefully you'll get better soon.
As for the job, my wife believes everything happens for a reason, and that you get what you deserve. I don't share that belief, but I can appreciate the benefits of looking at life with such a positive attitude. I'm hoping you'll get something right for you soon, and not have to choose between things you don't like.

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I got an inherited heart thing (which i could also pass on to any future kids) i could live a normal life with it or i could also get a pacemaker or what not, the cardiologist can't predict that future for me, and i got diabetes type 2 (which i have to take half a pill for daily) and i am really on the edge of it, if perhaps i could cut down on soda and live slightly healthier i could be rid of it but i am not in a situation to do that right now (after work i am too tired to cook and it's easier to just warm up something you know) together it's a bad combination though and something i just have to live with.

That part is luckily fine for now, but i still have shortness of breath (and often tired), the choking a few times and well lately when i drink alcohol i would suffer the next day having to visit the bathroom 5 times a day,and sometimes i really had to struggle to keep some air when i woke up in the middle of the night, making me think i got IBS (which one could get with the diabetes) i did quit mostly but when you are getting alot of stress it's very easy to just take a drink to get the edge off a little even though you know you suffer the day(s) after.

I really like to think as your wife, i had alot of bad luck in my life (although i also made my own bad decisions but it's life and we learn from it) and thus those good times are still coming to me someday.
I like to also believe in spirituality and this all happens for a reason, and the reason i hope most, with all my sorts of jobs and such is to learn from every business the good points and the bad so i could one day run my own foodtruck and perhaps franchise it and know how to run a business the right way, but i need money (i got no collateral) nor someone to support me/coach me and yeah maybe i also need the guts (if you had someone then it'd be easier).
I still have this intuition that i will win something (dunno how much, maybe even if it's just enough to start this thing) or that it might even take 2 years or more, and maybe it's just idle hope you know, only time can tell me.

Jobs, a place to live on your own, relationships it's all things that can stlil happen but my biggest wish in life is wanting children and it can always happen with men but i just want someone my own age (or a bit younger) and unlike some guys, i just dont want to mooch of a woman, but time is just feeling it's running out a bit, and that's when i sometimes fearing the future, yeah if only someone had that crystal ball , that could give me some hope to hang on.

And i still know it's a luxury having these options while last year noone would even look at my cv, and there are many that still struggle to find a job too.

Thank you for your wish.

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Sorry it took a while to reply, but I didn't want to just say "Good luck" and I've been busy these last days.
Unfortunately, I know nothing about life in the Netherlands, or anywhere in Europe for that matter. I don't have jobs I can refer you to, and I have no clue how hard it is to get a place to live, so I feel useless. I wish I could help in some way. The food truck idea sounds amazing though! I'm a bit of a coward concerning money, I tend to gravitate towards "safer" ways of making a living, but I applaud your drive. It's a brave and adventurous thing to do.
As for the heart thing, I was told the healthcare system in your country is really good, is that true? If it is, you're in good hands and that should bring some comfort. What about following a nutritionist’s plan, and exercising a bit? It could help you with your health and, ironically, make you less tired. You'd be tired after some exercise, but feel more energetic in the long run. Exercising also releases substances in your body that make you happier, but I agree finding the time and committing to an exercise schedule is a pain.
Finally, I don't know your age, but a friend of mine got married and had a kid last year, and he's in his 40s. It will happen eventually for you too, as long as you do your part and don't just wait.
That's it, I guess... I can give you nothing but encouragement. Looks like you're in a bad spot right now, but I'm sure things will improve soon!! ✅

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I appreciate you taking the time.

Our Healthcare is okay but very costly, till a decade ago it was free for everyone, and now it cost like 110 a month plus 350 own risk (after that anything you do is covered) but it's just alot, and if you can't afford it and don't pay you get a fee and only really life saving treatments, nothing else. And every year they increase the costs yet make billions, they are just crooks.

A friend told me that too, and i see other people (even famous ones) get a kid when they are in their 40's (halle berry even at 50), and i am 37 so there is a bit of time but i do want someone a bit my own age, and a bit younger offcourse is okay, but i just don't want to end up being 50 with a 25 yr old girlfriend, i dunno what the age difference is with your friend's girlfriend?

I just don't know how to handle finding someone, first off i didn't always persue it because i wasn't financially stable enough and didn't want to mooch of a woman, now i am in the process of becoming more stable but i am a bit shy, and well most woman atleast my age usually already have someone (and a kid), and i tried one girl from a supermarket which i found an email adress from, when i made a comment about a situation some while ago (delivery guy asked her if she was married and she replied "you see a ring on my finger, what do i have to offer someone?", so i wrote her kindly she had herself and love to offer,, and asked if she had a boyfriend if not maybe wanted a drink, in which she replied "i have a boyfriend, leave me alone, thank you" bit harsh people skills for someone with coaching aspirations..
There is another girl there but i don't want a whole supermarket with girls being angry at me, and there is also a 13yr age difference.
Then there are dating sites but they all cost money, and the most known one atleast 60 euro a year, and they got fake profiles so girls will message you, so you'd pay, and most jobs i had were men only, so yeah i wouldn't know how to handle it.
And i don't easily fall in love, it has to feel right else i'd feel it grows into a brother-sister relationship like so many do.

I do gotta keep the faith, only thing getting me through it.

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Hey Lugum!
My friend is 43 and his girlfriend wife is 40, almost 41.
Sadly, our video game hobby doesn't have a very social part IRL. Perhaps you could try looking if some of your other interests are a more "enabling medium" so to speak. Comics, books, movies, sport events, cycling, making wooden shoes and Tulip collecting (joke!)? Maybe someone in the current workplace (always risky)? Friends/relatives with single friends/relatives to set up?

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I got 7200 games on steam alone, you think i got time for other hobbies? :P I wouldn't really know what other interests i could create to meet up with other women.

I usually work at places with mostly men, and in some companies it's also against the rules to date (because if its a messy break up the company has to pick up the pieces).
And our relatives aren't really that close, i got aunts, uncles, nephews i haven't seen for 20 years.

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Good luck with your health. Have you seen a pulmonologist about your breathing issues?

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Not sure what that is, well i was waiting on my heart results that turned out okay then i wanted to look at other options, but if am getting a full time job and just starting somewhere i don't feel comfortable asking days off for it, while if i stick here for the time being i would have that room to check anything out.

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Pulmonologist is a lung doctor. You said you still have shortness of breath. They might be able to be better at checking that out then just a heart doctor. It could be an issue with the lungs as well.

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Yeah (never smoked so that can't be it), i will go to a doctor thursday and get a referral to see a lung doctor.
At first when i thought it was my heart i sorta wished they would find something minor you know then nothing, because if you keep doing all sorts of tests and they keep finding nothing, and in the end they just say it's between your ears.

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I get what you mean. Good luck. It seems like my dad. He is very sick and he goes to many doctors, takes many medicine. He never feels well. Nothing I can do to help either. Just very tough.

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I hope that you'll know where your health problems come from.

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Thank you.

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I can relate to doing multiple interviews for a job. It's tough especially when you have less experience than other applicants or if they want to hire people from a certain school. Stay strong and good luck!

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Thank you and good luck to you too.

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Seems silly but have you tried some form of meditation? It seems to me you are under a lot of stress due to the job situation and worrying about your health. Stress can make your body go nuts. Speaking from experience, here. I have always been a wreck (still am sometimes, especially when I'm on my own) and I'm talking anxiety attacks at age 6, migraines, shortness of breath, chronic insomnia, and lots of other symptoms over the years. Meditation helped. Martial arts also. Acupuncture made a tremendous difference in my sleep patterns. Medical weed have been known to help lol but not where I am now.
I'm just thinking that if exams results are good, maybe the answer lies within.

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It's not silly, look at this thread and while stressful, somehow i always managed a good blood pressure. But it takes time and like working out (which maybe i should do more too to build strength again) commitment.

I have oxazepam but it doesn't always work, or atleast not when i started taking it, and i feel that's just one more of the symptoms i have, whatever it is. And i know some will say you get used to those pills, but my mom is taking another thing ending with pam, for 20 years or so and she still feels it's working else she wouldn't be taking it. Same thing as i barely get drunk or even buzzed anymore.

Maybe acupuncture could help but only the first few treatments are covered, and i just don't have the money to continue such a thing. I'd be open to weed but i don't smoke, though you even have it here in things as chocolate.

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