Sometimes a virtual hug can help too... :3
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Is that karm? https://steamcommunity.com/profiles/76561198148268245
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If only people worked like computers and a little alert window came up when something's wrong with them, but nope. Sometimes it's your job to read the mind of people you care about.
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PSA
someone got hacked because they clicked on a random link! :O
PSA
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I think you didn't read the title well. This is about international mental health day which is tomorrow. You might want one of the dozen OTHER threads about hacking.
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i had no idea what this thread was about, and since there's been like ~5 threads about hacked people and revoked games (the horror) i thought this one was making fun of them. š¤·
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Hugs are good, cookies and ice cream would be great too.
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I've actually lost two friends in the last 12 months.
I had both of them on Steam and checked in regularly to see how they are (as I do with all friends really).
Come Dec 30th last year, I find out on a forum for a particular game, that one had taken their own life 6 weeks prior.
In Feb this year, another had a serious cold / flu and fell silent. While they lived locally (and we have many mutual friends) it just seemed to be a case of being offline for a time / quiet. Their body was found over two weeks later by the police. They had died of a pulmonary embolism. While nothing I could have done could have prevented that, I could perhaps have made more of an effort to get mutual friends to directly check on them / reach out.
I don't blame myself for either case (and should not), but its made me double my efforts on getting a response when somebody goes quiet for a time - even if its just to know they're still about. I think its one thing that the way the internet internet works isn't well prepared / catering to / made for the silence of a friend.
Keep checking on your people, people!
As a side note, I'm currently writing an article on this kind of thing (also linked to personal mental health and how it can effect work / your life etc. if anybody would like to give me some food for thought on the subject from personal experience, please reply here. I wont name or quote you, its more a case of taking things in to chew over.
Edit: links are also welcome, but please be relevant / careful with the content and give warnings as to what it may contain.
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Seconded. Life is or can be short--we need to make sure we take advantage of every moment and also take the time to care for our friends and family.
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Wow, that's awful. :( That's really, tragically, sad.
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contact me if you want... i share almost the same story like you, that all started in my early 20s and im 34 now, still suffering but started a hard battle against it... you can read a lil bit about it here...:
https://www.steamgifts.com/discussion/jQqFf/giveaway-added-fight-depressions-and-phobias-o
i never harmed myself on a physical way, if that*s important, but im several times at a point where i think that other people would already have quit... but to be honest, i still have my parents and i dont know what will happen with my head when they are gone... :'(
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Works with "real life friends" too. We are all busy with our lives and our own problems and that's nothing to feel guilty about but keeping in touch even with a quick phone call can make a difference.
And if you feel wrapped in yourself and everything seems to be a little darker than it used to, reach out. Even if you don't think it's serious or you think it'll pass, and even if you think you are bothering your friends with nothing, or that they won't care, I promise you they do care.
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Agreed--a real friend will always be there for you. Even if they can't fully understand, knowing that someone cares is a huge help.
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Exactly. And sometimes, when you feel alone with your darkness, and spiraling down, just having any kind of social contact can help. Sometimes you just need a break from yourself and having a benign conversation about games or watching a movie with someone is enough to keep you going.
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I'd say for the people that feel they might be burdening their friends by doing so - reach out somewhere at least - be it a helpline or more anonymous position such as SG even.
In the long term though, yes, its important to try and maintain / reach out to friends from both positions.
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I haven't spoke with some of them for so long that now it's going to be very very awkward...
Some of them I just mainly spoke with them here on the forum.
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It may absolutely feel that way, but I've never gotten a message from an old friend where I thought, "Huh, it's been a while, why are they reaching out to me now?"
It was always instead, "Oh, wow, I haven't talked to them in a while. This is a pleasant surprise. I should see how they're doing."
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I'm ill, with flu and a cold, and tomorrow I'll have to go at my working place with the police to deal with a big problem we had with an african customer, and we'll have technicians too, but anyways apart from all this and my health situation I'll be wearing everything related to awareness for the World Mental Health Day (i'm gmt +1 so here it's still 9 october), which is hugely important to me for obvious reasons.
I started to suffer from major depressive disorder, BPD, agoraphobia, panic attacks and other issues when I was only 14-15 years old and even though in all these years I managed through therapy and personal struggle/strength to overcome many of them (not experiencing a panic attack for years, but when I was a teenager they were basically the only thing I had in mind all day), I still suffer from depression, loneliness (I'm not shy at all, but I'm a lot "lonely" and it's so difficult for me to create bonds with other people) and bpd.. I feel every day lucky and happy for having defeated self-harm addiction, agoraphobia and so on but still it's a long long road..
The theme for this year is "Young people and mental health in a changing world" -> http://www.who.int/mental_health/world-mental-health-day/2018/en/
RAISE AWARENESS, there is no health without mental health!! don't ever be shy to talk about everything, we can defeat all our fears or at least keep them below our feet with the right roads!! It takes time, but as TWLOHA says, "rescue is possible" <3
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Thanks for sharing.
It's important for people to know they're not the only ones and that there's a way to come out of it, albeit slowly and that even if mental health issues rarely just disappear, you can find ways to live with them and work through the most harmful parts.
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I don't really send messages to most of my friends ( I talk to like 5 relatively often, though activity on SG is visible for some more), so now should I prepare for dozens of messages? hmmm...
(Good thing in never having had friends to really rely on with problems that one is accustomed to it, bad thing about it when one is so used to it that can't recognize the given opportunity becasuse hey,got through worse alone)
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Check on them, maybe they need a friend or someone to play games with in co-op.
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