Probably the worst place to ask for dating advice, a gaming forums :(

I think enough people have read this for me to be able to edit it

Thanks for the advice. I'll tell you how it goes

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Haven't you only been friendzoned when you ask them/overhear them and they only consider you a friend/like a sibling?

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Yea, that's true. But, you can find out in other ways.

ie, im friend zoned by this other girl, i can CLEARLY tell. Luckily, im not interested in her anyway

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You've been friendzoned, my friend. The only way now is to make her jealous and make her come after you.

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Totally this; except if you don't interest her even a bit, so she'll never be jealous of you.

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Well, he could start dating a hotter girl. To do this, he should dress better, play some sports, workout a little and be more sociable with other people. As soon as she sees that he's not who she thought he was then I'm sure she'll be jealous, girls are retarded like that.

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+1

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Not really, it can also be shown in how they behave around you even if they never say those words.

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how dafaq I know, just ask her

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i guess, judging by your avatar, you are only a skull.

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Murray?

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You may call me β€˜Murray’! I am a powerful demonic force! I am the harbinger of your doom! And the forces of darkness will applaud me as I stride through the Gates of Hell – carrying your head on a pike!

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I guess, judging by your avatar, you're a girl, so post pics and/or videos if it goes well between you two!

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videos ? ;)

im a guy

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You can't be friendzoned if you never asked her out. So just do it if you want more than friendship.

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But, it'll be mega awks. I really wanna make sure she likes me, thats why im waiting for her to make a move. or do the gradual and slow move, ask her out later

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Be more confident. There is no reason to feel awkward. For all we know she might be waiting for you to make a move too. There really is no need to play some kind of game, just be straight up honest.

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This sounds right, but I am an incredibly shy person, to the point where it affects my life. It's easier to the "talk" than "walk the walk", if you catch my drift.

I'll see how things go after graduation

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Trust me I'm familiar with shyness. Just do it, don't think. For the most part you can just act confident even if you don't feel it at all. And there is no need to wait. Talk to her in person as soon as possible and get it done.

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I'll do it after my exams :P

thanks for the response

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Brilliant xD you`ll wait for her move, she will wait for yours... and than you will get old :P

Serioulsy dont be afraid to ask her out :) Worst thing happens youll have confirmation, best thing happens you`ll get a date :)

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Pro-tip: Do not wait for her to make a move on you.

Chances are that 1 in a 100 a girl will actually do that and a fyi, i did the samething you stated there TWICE and now i'm forever alone, probably for the best anyways as i don't see myself caring about other's peoples feelings that much.

Yeah i'm that much of an A-hole after going through alot of sh*t in life and i'm only 21. Don't follow my path, the dark one.

Another tip:
If you see a reasonable girl trying to jump on you and you aren't linked with her, you should give her a try. I was dumb to the point of having literally dozens of girls available, all single and trying to get to know me, all i did was discard them because i was interested in this other girl at the time. Basically, when you want = nobody wants; when others want = you don't want. If you get a chance to make a living with another girl, go for it, that chick you want to get in your hands will probably remain a friend of yours and end up jealous, at some point later she will want you in her hands, or she could end up with a broken heart and walk away from you. All depends on how she looks at you, and i'm no wizard, sorry!

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Just ask her out. If you got friendzoned it doesn't really matter if you ask or not. But if you ask you at least know for sure.

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This will be my plan, when I finish exams.

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Ask her out. What have you got to lose?

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a friend?!

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EXACTLY. I like her A LOT (hormonal thing? I think she's more attractive than a looooooooot of pretty girls at my school, and everyone thinks this particular girl isn't good looking).

I'd rather be a friend with her than create some mega awkward situation

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Bullshit. If she can't handle such things she is no loss. A true friend can handle such things.

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That's a lie, true friend or not doesn't really play a factor, it ultimately comes down to her, and her alone, and how she is able to process such a thing.

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"everyone thinks this particular girl isn't good looking"

Means you're in boss!

Seriously though. Ask her. If you don't, you'll regret it later. If you do and shit gets awkward, well... it just does, hard part is to not be the awkward half after the fact. The awkward rejection will happen a few times in your life and you learn from it, get better from it, and nail chicks you never thought you'd nail.

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Hahah, this is a great response.

I think the average guy rates her ~5/10. There are better looking lassies at my school, but I haven't been attracted to them since I met this girl.

I don't understand why people don't like her

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And those are the chicks that 10 years from now, everyone wants. Trust me on that one.

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I agree with you.

She is smart, the other whores that everyone likes aren't.

Guess which ones end up working at Maccas? (mcdonalds)

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...straya.

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kount

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That's almost impossible to stay friends with a girl you like when she will find herself some handsome and masculine boyfriend. You'll tend to hate her pretty much at that very moment. The only way to stay friends with a girl you're after is when you're through of some love-hate-dating relationship or when at least you shared a bed with her once or twice, if you catch my drift.

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PUT EXPLOSIVE DOWN HER PANTS, IF SHE DOESN'T BLOW UP, DAT BITCH IS A DEMON!

Then and only then, shall you find the answer to such a mysterious question.

Problem with asking here, is everything seems to think they're awesome and great, and wouldn't have an issue with asking her out, only that isn't so true if it was their situation.

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Er...what kind of explosives?

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I like C4 given you can detonate via remote, but ultimately, it's your choice. Choose wisely!

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Bob-ombs. Duh.

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Nitro-Glycerin also could work

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Seems like a great solution after 160 hours of fallout.

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the bomb has been planted

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Just ask her, if you wait too much you'll either get scared, or she will really friendzone you...
I really don't understand, is it that hard to make your intentions clear from the beginning?

You meet a girl you like? Flirt (while being polite, not a douche) with her, don't act like she's your sister...

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"You meet a girl you like? Flirt (while being polite, not a douche) with her, don't act like she's your sister..."

problem is, she has NO SOCIAL SKILLS AT ALL!!!
I'm hoping that she has some spare time after her exams, ill ask her out to the cinema a couple of times, see what she does, then judged by that, ill ask her out

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Who's telling...less to lose.
If her friends asked you if you liked her or you was trolling her, you already have the answer, gogogo!

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Just ask her out on a date, not like a hangout. Also try be open about your feelings towards her and tell her how you feel, just to make it at as clear as possible and work from that.

And don't ever listen to what her friends say or anybody else. If you want to know something go ask her. Don't believe anything until you hear it from her. I learned that one hard way.

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I agree.
When boys say bad things about a girl it sometimes means that they are interested in her too, and they don't want you to be a competitor! When girls spread bad rumors about another girl it sometimes means that they don't want boys to pay attention to her because of jealousy...

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" girl it sometimes means that they don't want boys to pay attention to her because of jealous"

I doubt its coz of jelousy, the girl who told me, i suspect i've been friendzoned with her. But, it really doesnt matter because i am not attracted to her

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This special response was meant for Audioslave, and it's not about your case. :D
He said you should not judge a girl using what other girls or boys say about her, and I agree with him.
My reply about your case is in the inferior level. :D

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Yea, thanks for the response.

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I think the most important word here is the "apparently" thingie, which you have made italic yourself. What girls say and think "apparently" has nothing to do with what they have in their heart.
So, yes, go ask her out, and remember: if she "apparently" said no, that "no" means "yes if you are persistent enough" in womanland's language! So, be persistent and you'll get her. :D
One last thing: what her friends ask you means that she's interested in you too (there's even a probability that she planned it herself).

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One last thing: what her friends ask you means that she's interested in you too (there's even a probability that she planned it herself)

This. I'd upgrade that wording from probability to likelihood.

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:-)

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I agree with this. Something smells fishy here....

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Mh....maybe.

thanks for the advice

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Based on the journal, sounds like she's leaving or graduating? You missed your window.

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We all are.

The main problem is the possiblity of moving to different cities.

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Time to let go. No sense making it awkward. Besides, telling her how you feel because you know you won't have to see her again if she rejects you ... that's actually kind of cowardly. Girls can smell that.

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Hopefully you are not friendzoned OP.. Been there

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Yea, same. :(

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Pee on her. That's how cats claim their territory!

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I'll try that tomorrow

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1 year - "friend zoned" I think. Decisions on potential mates usually happen within minutes and take effect within a matter of days. Anyway, you can still try if she don't like you go on with life.

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I recommend you to ask her. Why? Because its better to know what happens, whatever the result is, rather than questioning yourself for your rest of your life. What if?! What if i had asked her out?! What if...

If she is indeed your friend, she wont let this destroy your friendship.

Your call.

Dont like to destroy your dreams but if it was something more dont you think she would look for you to sign on that journal?!
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"If she is indeed your friend, she wont let this destroy your friendship."

This as well. Chicks are good at that shit, it's always the guys that screw it up.

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Dont like to destroy your dreams but if it was something more dont you think she would look for you to sign on that journal?!

thats what i thought too.

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Sometimes looks can be deceiving.

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Go on a full 'suicidal' (not actual, just as a well I'm just going to do it, don't care of consequences thought), go up to her and ask her out. Do it someplace where only you two are alone. If she's a nice person she won't tell anyone if she rejected you. On the other hand good luck.

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Well.. if you haven't talked much recently asking her out probably isn't the best idea right now. If you talk to her more you'll get better insight into what she's thinking and how she feels about you. Then you could see if she'd like to see another movie or go for coffee sometime, and if that goes well then you could ask her out.

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Im think this aswell.

I'll ask her out for something in a couple of weeks, after my exams

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mainly the reason I haven't been talking to her is to not seem too desperate.

To try and get her to talk to me, which she hasn't

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Ask her, if she says no then you are in the friendzone.
(I wish you luck)

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Much luck will be needed. THanks bud

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Does she have a boyfriend? If she doesn't have one then you should ask her out thought I kind of doubt you will do it, because you probably created this thread to find someone that will tell you not to ask her out so you would feel better? It's up to you, but if you don't ask her out you will probably regret it later and if you do ask her out and she says no you can still be friends if you really want that (girls have no problems with being friends, but you will only torture yourself with it).

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No she doesn't. I don't think anyone think she is that good looking to ask her out.

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But if you say she is not good looking enough to have a boyfriend and has no social skills at all, why would you want to date her? And by the way, people with no social skills tend to grow feelings for people of the opposite sex that are kind to them. You just have to be sure that she is the one with no social skills and not you (don't take it personal, but I don't know you and the point that you posted this question on this forum doesn't fill me with confidence that you are the normal guy here). :D

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"(girls have no problems with being friends, but you will only torture yourself with it)." Fucking girls, how do they work?

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Be more confident and ask her out.
Girls like that.

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You're right :)

hopefully

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I'm a girl, I know what I'm talking about. :P

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you should search more info about her.
maybe she has a boyfriend or not.
and maybe you could ask your friend to ask her about what she thinks about you.
and you can decide to chase her or not after that.

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Definitely no boyfriend. All of her friends pressure her to go out with me. I thnk that might a contributing factor as to why she doesn't like me/hasn't talked to me.

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maybe that's what make her doesn't talk to you, or rather she's too shy to talk to you because she's already fall in love with you.

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Ask her out, you've got nothing to lose ^^

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Errr, yes he does? :S

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No he doesn't.

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If she says no their friendship could be over so he has something to lose.

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Oh, girls are used to get asked out and remain as friends with those guys after refusing. They're good at friendzoning, right? Usually men are the ones who have a bad time dealing with it and walk away, yada yada, drama.

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If she is someone who can't deal with such things it's no real loss.

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I like this girl, been friends with her for a year.
Anyway, her friends asked me if I really liked her, because she apparently thinks it's a joke.
She brought a journal for people to sign like a parting gift, but she never asked me, however, I didn't even see her that day.

Sounds pretty much like friendzoned. But go for it, now or never I guess.

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just try ask her out, if you don't you might not have a second chance

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If it helps, I asked the girl out that I liked in high school, and she said "hmm, maybe" which actually meant "no".

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Do you have friends that you trust in common? Maybe they can find how she feels about you. That's how I got the courage to ask my girlfriend out (more than asking, they forced me to do it as it was pretty damn obvious, we were both just too shy).

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