The value of money is dependant on a lot of things and a lot of people and can decrease in value without the tiniest of our influence. But for our word it is different. Its worth is solely determined by our actions

So how much is the weight/value of your word? Do you usually back up your words? Or are you just talking all day and do nothing? As for me: I have this really bad habit of notorious lying on things I consider unimportant like a reflexive denying on yes/no questions. But if I say I can and will do something I usually try to do justice to these words. So I will be sure that I have the ability to back it up.

Well long story short here is giveaway and here is the reason for it. I promised it to the creator so I'll do it and create a chain (the winner of this giveaway is free to prolong the chain, the sale is going till monday, the giveaway only till sunday). Also this thread is a wonderful method to proof that I'm not regifting (because you know some people have to much time on their hands and search for people breaking rules).

PS: On a sidenote I know from reality that the value of your words can decrease without you doing anything. But then again I just did NOTHING so I stand to my initial quote. I'll just play the patience way and keep quiet. Shall the people judge me by my actions.

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I'm also a notorious liar. Up to the point, where people ask me a question and the first thing that comes to my mind is a lie. However, I almost never lie when it comes to important things like family, relationships and work related stuff (and some others).

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I consider myself a very honest person actually.
In real life I tend to put a lot of thinking in what am I about to say, more because of the consequences, or how people will think about me. I try to never enter into conflict with someone and avoid already existing ones. But even tho all this, there are situations all new to me that I don't know how I should react. And after a while I start thinking about that incident and how I should have done another approach.
But my word's value? This is something I've never wondered. Even tho I think I lot of what I usually say, even more when I have to start a conversation(if you don't start talking to me, you won't hear any word from me for months, internet included), I usually forget how people feel and this can make myself sound rude sometimes(even if I want to do good to her/him/it). Also because I'm a very silent person, people don't ask that much about my opinion(maybe because we're not friends enough).

With all this being said I think my word's value is low. It's valuable, but can easily be ignored.

But hey, this is the internet. Why should you trust me and my word :D

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Hm, I don't think that what other people think about me should be my primary concern. I probably stay firm to my values first and the other side will come automatically. If then people think low about me I should question my goals and ideals. Also avoiding conflict may raise new or other problems and sometimes even if uncomfortale we have to conflict and argue to help people.

Other than that I would determine the value of our word through trust. And if you are honest person than your words value is not low but rather high. And as I am most times more introverted I can also tell you that you don't need to say important and signifikant stuff all the time for your word to be valuable. Sometimes it is enough to say the correct sentence at the correct time.

And for that last part: This question would be meaningless if I would be suspicious about every commentar. Right now the question would be: What reason do you have to lie to me? And there is none, you wouldn't gain anything. Therefore your word WILL be trusted.

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I avoid conflicts so I don't have to take sides. If I take one side I might lose the other. And some conflicts you can't simply say "calm down". Yes, this may create other problems, depending on the source, but these can usually be approached with a cold head, and I'm fine with it.

What's the right sentence? I spend so much time thinking this, that bang, timing is now off. And when timing is right I either eat/skip words, or can't explain myself fast and properly.

And for the last part: I was expecting someone to say that ;) And I agree. But just in case I'll drop this here:

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MY HEAD STILL HURTS ;_;

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I think you need to bear the pain, it'll make you stronger.

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What doesn't bear you, makes you stronger?

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What doesn't kill you, makes you bearer?

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I believe value of words also differ from who hears them, rather than only who you tell them. You might put all your value in your words and say "I will", but if the listener is ignorant, it won't mean a thing.

For myself, I value my words to the most, my best I can that is. If I did say I will, that means I WILL.

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I try to keep my word... But I don't many commitments.

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I don't talk that much, so there's not much false promising (or whatever you wanna call it). And even if I talk, I usually just say stuff that I actually can do. Like, people often promise to do something, even if it's those stupid "oh I'll come over!" messages they send you after you've told someone that you got food or something.
I hate such messages. Why even get my hopes up if you won't actually do it in the end?
Sure, some people think it's cute to say or whatever but I don't know, I mean, if a person wanted to come by, they'd do it and not just say "oh I'd love to come over" because there's always a way if they live pretty close by, at least that's my opinion.

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I feel the same about "We should hang out sometime."

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Exactly! Forgot about that one.

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It's been ~2 years since I've hanged out with someone that proclaimed to be one of my best friends. At least he told me we'll hang out a few times since then :D

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I'll marry you when I'm a little cub.

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Quit playing games with my heart.

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I already ripped you off of it in chivalry.

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No, you chopped my head off.

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What a beautiful love story about a wolf a and bear. You should sell this to Disney!

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Royalties please, royalties everywhere.

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HUEHUEHUEHUE

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It depends on if my sanity is down a quart or not what I will say, but I am always honest when I say it.

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That depends.
If I tell myself something, I usually won't do it.

I value what other people see in me. As such, if I tell someone else something, I will try my best to do it.
That being said, my superpower is forgetting, so sometimes said things don't happen.
I almost never make any promises, because if there's a possibility it won't happen or if I will forget about it (which is almost always true), then I may as well be a liar. I'm overly cautious. If someone says "please do me a favor", I will never say yes. I will always say "depends on the favor".

I try my best to make people understand my situation beforehand. I'm reasonable, so I hope other people will be the same.

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I'm not so sure if forgetting is a superpower in any culture ^^ But I know the feeling of being reluctant to promise something just for the possibility of it going wrong or untrue. I had this problem with my ex-gf and she never let it slide although it was something minor. But she didn't allow me to make it true afterwards .... so many mistakes so many regrets.

And being reasonable yourself will not make other people be reasonable but you are probably old enough that life tought you this "valuable" lesson ... On the bright side, the older i get and the more experience i get the easier it is to interact with people and understanding their view.

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I constanly attack and defend various things on forums depending of what's the mood. Especially games, I could defend one relentlessly one day and humiliate it another day, shifting pluses to minuses, depends of circumstances. So I think all my words are nothing.

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Hm, from time to time I do defend stuff I don't "believe" in but I don't do one day so, another day so. It is more of an exercise for the time I have to discuss something important for me.

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Well... I try to be as honest as i can and not promise things that i cant give. And if i win i can do some other GA but it will not be the same. But well... You've said that I'm free in that matter. So have a good one. Yes.

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Of course you are free. I neither can't nor do I want to force you to anything. And for a Journal chain I should have started at the beginning of the week.

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I always try my best to keep my word. If I cannot do something, I make no promises.

And thank you for the giveaway!

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I take my time, but I try to keep my word. Snake, soon

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Depends to situation value of your word can be in telling " truth " or " lie " !

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Hm, I think there is missing a verb somewhere. I'm not sure what you want to say with this sentence.

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Good reason for a giveaway. Other than enjoying tricks with puzzles, I always aim to stick to my word. There can always be unforseen events that prevent you from sticking to them, but if the intent is there, that's good enough for me.

Also, solved for bump.

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I tend to agree with you but life has sometimes the tendency to teach me harsh lessons (and usually it does this in april -_-). And so I have to accept that even the best intentions may not be enough. So yea, sometimes you need more than a good intention. Just take it as a comment out of a small bitterness ^^. All in all you are doing fine enough with good intentions.

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Hmm, feels like the perfect topic for Khalaq, I'm sure he would have something good to say on the subject... :) Pity I don't know what it would be, or I'd say it first and appear wise... :)

All my puzzles were full of lies, unfortunately. But I hope nobody believed them. :) Just bundle leftovers! Nothing good in here! :) Seems I haven't finished any puzzles in a long time, though... :(

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If you have trouble with the "puzzle" it might because you are looking in the wrong place. This one isn't really that hard. The solution is even explicitly standing there.

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Ahh, sorry about that, I used to write something inside puzzle giveaways, but seems I fell out of the habit for various reasons... Not making them, not solving them, etc. :) Although mentioning a puzzle might be considered spoiling things, so I shouldn't say anything out here, either. :( Oh well, bump for no reason at all... :)

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Yes, I don't say things just for saying them, and I don't take my promises lightly.

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