Strategy Games like the Total War Series?

ALL paradox's grand strategy games. (do they do have few exceptions that suck pretty much)

AoE

King Arthur

try Hearts of Iron III. (IIWW theme)

Any paradox grand strategy is a good choice. Hearts of war. Europa universalys. Crusader kings. Victoria. These are realtime strategy games. just like tw. But there is no 3d battle. Only the autoresolve stuff. And the gameplay on the map is more advanced than in any tw game.
So buy one. from the era you like.
Note in crusader kings you control a family/dynasty not a country.

Knights of Honour

Triple Town seems to fit your description perfectly. Also Viva Piñata.

Crusader Kings 2 is pretty nice! It has no battle, that you can command but it main part of the game relies on Management and relations.
And there is a supermod for Game of Thrones, if you like GoT you definatly will ahve fun :D

civ might be a good option..

Dawn of Fantasy: Kingdom wars seems like a good Total war-like strategy game.

Sounds like you'd enjoy any Civ since you auto most battles. I've been playing Crusader Kings II recently and loving that, but be warned, its has a VERY steep learning curve, also conquering stuff is not a main objective of the game so if you just like world domination it may not be the game for you.

March of the Eagles?