I know how you feel - I've had enough similar shit over the years. You'll probably feel like relationships aren't worth your time for a while, then that'll pass, you'll feel better and start looking around again and then you'll meet someone else and see it it works out better that time.
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That sucks :/ . It will take a while but do not worry. You will get back up on your feet.
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Well, had a similar situation few years ago. Distance killed our relationship, and none of us could afford to abandon what we were doing.
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Its a sad story but still, the best way to make it less painful is is forgetting her.
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Relationships are so complicated. I will never understand them.
Time will heal you. I wish you well for your recovery as you continue towards a brighter path.
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I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm sure she was a great person but she made her choice. So should you.
Thanks a lot for the train :)
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Thank you for the train and I am very sorry for what happened. Sadly, we can never really know people, even after years. And people change too. We just do our best to get to know them and hope that what we think we know is true and honest and will not change. Relationships can break, but since she did not exit the relationship with consideration towards you and honesty, she would have never been the one to make you happy anyway.
I hope you spend some time with yourself, so that you can heal, understand who you are without her at this point in your life and be ready for other relationships. One day, you might find that elusive great one. That's all we have to go by. And I sincerely hope this giveaway helps you feel better. But if not, that's ok. Don't feel pressured to just smile right away. Accept the heartache and just let it pass naturally. Then will come the good days. :)
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I had similar experiences with betraying w****s. Now there's nothing you can do, but you can try to live on. Prove her by the way that you can manage without her and she will see what she lost. Karma always coming back, so if she sleep around with that guy, then he probably would betray her in some time (it was the same with my ex). So what can I advise - ignore her, don't run by her on knees. Perhaps after some time she will run to you asking for another chance. Perhaps by this time you build new life with someone better.
And also bump and thanks for GAs
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Honestly, the two of you probably should've split up when she left the country for schooling. This is the typical end result for this kind of situation. If its something that was meant to be, you could've tried again when she returned. Long distance relationships simply don't work. Too many distractions, temptations, and the distance means that you're living two very different lives.
Hopefully, things will work out better in the future.
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This is truly a crappy situation and feeling. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but there's no point in sugar coating it. The thing is you will get past it and you will be happy, but it takes time.
I'm a true believer that everything happens for a reason. And whenever that next lucky lady enters your life you'll know. In the mean time I really am sorry to hear this and wish you the best.
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I also believe that everything happens for a reason. That's what I thought when she came to my life. I thought everything bad that happened to me was just a road to her. But it seems she came to my life not to be with me, but to teach me a lesson :)
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And honestly you'll carry a piece of her in your heart forever. The pain will fade away but you'll be left with happy moments to look back on and a clear head that allows you to see the way things really were whether or not you saw it at the time or just didn't want to see. Believe me, when you get to the point when the memories of her make you smile at the good times you'll be able to put together the puzzle. I really do feel for you, and I truly respect that you don't badmouth her. Pain is no excuse to be cruel and you're an honorable man.
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That sucks man. Breakups are always tough, especially when done in such an abrupt manner. I know it is easier said than done, but try to move on. You'll find another girl because you're an awesome person!
Thanks for the train and hope you feel better.
P.S. This song has helped me feel better about my life in the past, maybe it will work for you as well.
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All you can really do is move on. In your gut you've probably known the truth for a while now, you just didn't want to believe it and let's face it, you haven't seen her in months, that's when your relationship ended. Nothing that we say will really make you feel better, but you should feel relieved that you're done with her and move on. I wish you good luck with that.
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You're right. Now I see there were signs, but I just didn't want to see them :)
Although, I believe it's the absence of communication that killed the relationship, not the distance.
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I personally think it's both, long distance relationships are hard, but not impossible, but when not only are you too apart, but also barely talk at all, the relationship has already ended.
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Man, I feel you...
Well, the only thing I can say about is that you can only find someone better now on, even though it may take some time to forget.
Well, of course don't do that mistake, do NEVER contact her again.
And, well... You at least get to play more games now!
Also, thank you for all those giveaways... How nice of you to make other people happier in a moment like this. T_T
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It is sad to read this, but as commented earlier, better make it happen now than in months or years
Now lean on friends and family till that the time calms the dorlor
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Sounds like it's best to cut your losses with that one. At least she came clean with you about it and hopefully you were able to get some closure today. Hang on, with some time your feelings for her will start to fade and you'll be ready to move on before you know it. Hugs from Hawaii. <3
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So, how do I start?
I had a girl. Last autumn she moved to another country to study (doesn't really matter what). We started to communicate less and less, she was telling it's due to the classes and also due to the fact she's in a new place and everything looks so interesting, she'd rather spend time exploring the city.
Long story short - a couple a months ago she wrote it's not really working out (and that she's changed a lot in last months and so on) and we should break up. I suggested her to discuss it in skype, but she refused and said it'll only hurt us more (Who the hell breaks up via emails? Well, at least it's not a sms or a tweet). I thought, fine, let's wait for my vacation, I'd visit her and we could at least discuss it face to face.
So for the time being I decided to step onto the slippery "just friends" road, not to lose her completely.
Some days ago I asked her when it's better to visit her. And today she replied that I better do not, and that the real reason for the break up was that she actually has a boyfriend for quite some time already and that they're even living together (knowing her, it'd take at least several months to get to that state).
So what do we have in the end? I was dumped via an email, probably cheated on. I've known her for 5 years and we've been together for 2 years (if to count till the breaup date. Or 1,5 years if to count till the moment she moved for studying.) And I couldn't live without her, thought she was the one. Wanted to marry her one day, have children. Oh well.
So I thought maybe making some people happy with free games (all from my whishlist) could make me feel a tiny bit better? Probably not.
TL;DR
Shut up already, whine girl, and post that link. Here you go. Enjoy it.
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Wow, there's way more replies than I expected :) Thank you for all your supportive words. I know life goes on and everything will be better someday. But I just don't see it that way right now :)
Also, please, restrain yourself from writing bad about her. After all I loved her, and hearing this for some hurts me. Besides who knows maybe I was a real jerk and that was her real chance to finally ran away from me :D And I'm just here badmouthing the poor girl. There are things I did wrong, there are things she did wrong. So let's just leave it out.
She did what she did, I don't want to judge her. If she thinks it's the right choice, if that's what her heart is telling her, there's nothing I can really do. At least she says she's really happy with him. Maybe he can give her what I couldn't.
I just thought that after all those years, after everything that was between us she'd have some respect for my feelings and the courage to say the truth, not that "it's not about you" bullcrap.
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