It's also my financial situation that i just dont want to be dependant on a woman, but yeah then there is the shyness too.
Also in that i am getting older and still hoping to get some kids someday and that's not helping (love itself can always come offcourse).
Anyway trying to keep hope, because without. everything would just seem bleak. Thanks.
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Yeah i agree to an extend, but if you can't even afford a cup of coffee (let alone dinner) you cant ask a woman want to have dinner but uhmm can you pay? Dating sites cost money if you are too shy too ask someone on the streets. I don't get friends to be my wingman. Unless there are some secret ways to get past all that..
I had some job stuff and i was thinking of even though expensive to try a dating site, that all crumbled again.
Part of my past made me that way too.
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You're not giving women enough credit :P
I'm not kidding around though. There are other ways to meet people than paying websites. Check out Meetup, see if there's a group that you'd like (they have gaming groups and all kinds of stuff). Meeting people may not mean meeting the love of your life but you never know. You can just meet women you have stuff in common with and if you met in a group with activities, you can always do that and get to know each other. No big romantic dinner or clubbing needed.
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Back when there were some free dating sites here, i had some women actually close the chat immediately when i said i lived with my parents (although with a housing shortage that is becoming a norm here) and no income and maybe that's just my inner side even if meeting up doesn't cost money, eventually maybe living together or what not does.
And thank you for the site mention, never heard of it although again even travelling though does cost money (and our public transportation isn't cheap, 20 euro for a 30 minute back and forth ticket), doesn't hurt to have a look though.
Maybe should try tinder. :p It's really crap though there just ain't no serious free dating sites or just for finding friends, and often thought about making such a site.
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Well, there are a$$holes everywhere but let me tell you this:
1) you don't want to date women like that, trust me. They'll always find someone richer, no matter how much money you can throw
2) maybe some of them were just worried about your level of maturity. My sister's dated a few guys who were still living at their parents and none of them were looking for a girlfriend: they were looking for another Mommy to take care of their laundry and clean up after them. So maybe they made assumptions. And that brings me to a$$holes everywhere.
3) Don't let the a$$holes make you feel self conscious about yourself. There are also women out there who are broke and who are looking for companionship and not a provider. Dating sites are possibly the worst place to meet people these days. The only couple I know who met on a dating site were only there because they wanted to meet someone within limited parameters (their religion is important to them) and they were just about to give up from all the a$$holes they met there when they had their first date.
They just got lucky that they were both looking in the wrong place at the same time.
Meetup is a really cool site even just to meet friends. Maybe you'll get some wingmen ;) and there are groups about gaming so you may not even have to worry about traveling too much. I met a lot of cool people when I first moved here and knew no one.
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I know i wouldn't want such women. but still it does put a dent in your ego (but also been bullied a whole school life which doesn't help).
For a change i did try to mail a girl from the local supermarket, not that long ago, but she kinda gave me a bad reaction.
There is another girl i like there but afraid to talk to her now because i don't want a whole supermarket where if that keeps up i might not even be welcome anymore. :p
I do my own cooking, cleaning and laundry so that won't be an issue that i am not seeking a mom, and i wouldn't even mind taking on a whole household if that means being a stay at home dad (implying the woman got a good job, these days women sometimes do make better salaries then men).
I still got this business idea, that i could do together with a partner even if we both like switch doing it both 3 days and the other days take care of that Household and kids. like there is this couple with a small stand selling waffles together.
First group i saw there was one called nerd girls but i think that was for nerd girls only. Andddd hey while being nice if i find a gamer girl and share a hobby, with 7700 games on steam i could risk losing my account to her. :p
I always tend to had more female friends then male, had 2 from england but lost contact, i still have one left in the Netherlands, but that situation is complicated, haven't seen her for some time either, bit of a distance too.
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Your financial situation shouldn't be too much of an obstacle. Yeah, it's certainly tougher when you can't take someone out for coffee or whatever, but it just means you'll have to be creative. Surely there are free things you could do that would be fun.
Shyness is a bigger issue, and there's no real solution other than forcing yourself to try not to be shy, to put yourself out there. You have to be confident, and if you can be confident than everything else falls into place.
As far as getting older and having kids, I totally get those concerns, but... how old are you?
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But that's also partially luck maybe, but also if you got alot of (outdoor) activities like friend groups, sports, or even work (but where i worked it was always mostly men) if you stay inside, noone will find you too.
If you are like really handsome too then a woman would surely ask you too, but if you are average won't happen so quickly (i never had that happen, i had looks and maybe some flirtation (which i probably wouldn't have noticed) and it just also seem to happen alot less once you get older.
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You need to get out there more, man. Being handsome has nothing to do with it. I know a lot of guys who are nothing to look at and some who are just not pretty at all, and they're married or in a couple.
People just randomly walking up to strangers, men or women, and asking them out, only happens in movies, no matter how they look.
You don't have to spend money to meet people. A great way to meet interesting people? Donate some of your time to a charity.
It's good karma (which always helps). You get to help people. And you get to meet people who, in my experience, are open-minded (and I can tell you that the women who closed the chats on you when you said you were not a millionaire won't be there) and generous.
I've worked with some groups like that before and I've met great people. And if you're shy, you can keep your head down and just be a part of the group. People will come to you and you will make friends.
Temperatures are dropping right now. I'm sure there are groups around you that sort through warm clothing and blankets to help the homeless. They'll need help.
And there are a lot more men than women in those places, so you won't be in the boys club like on gaming sites ;)
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Fluffster is right. Just pretend I said everything that Fluffster said. :)
Also, while you can't do anything about being handsome, you can do something about being confident, and being confident trumps being handsome 99% of the time. It also does wonders for job interviews. :)
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Ledzep 1-2-3-4 i can play the whole albums "with solo's" and almost any band we can imagine (rock or metal) i can play their music, even bands i don't know, just put the music in the radio and i can follow them on the first try. \m/
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