To give or Not to give
Money is a tricky thing. I only lend out my money to my close friends, families or people that I regularly meet (can't run too far eh)
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I don't loan money to friends. Either I give it to them freely and don't expect anything in return, or they're not someone important enough to give it to. Sometimes those kind of relationships can get bad over time though. I had one friend who I gave $1000 to over time because she was always in a crisis. She got her tax return back later (thousands of dollars) and spent it all on stupid shit then hit me up for more money. I was like lolno. "But I'm going to be homeless!" "Don't be a dumbass with money next time, lesson learned."
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Personally, I'll help people out but if I do I look at it like I'll never get repaid but if I do I'm happy but I won't do it but once until they pay me back, if they don't pay me back and ask for more money I just won't do it. There are more important things than money but I'm not going to be someone's doormat or ATM.
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so you gave money to someone you didnt know very well? iam really curious how many new "friend" request you got since you posted this
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think of it as a true friend test. he failed it. it helps to weed out the shit bags.
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"You are no longer on their friend list"
Thats actually GOOD
If money borrowed made someone remove you from their friend list it wasn't friendship to begin with.
So no real value to add, no value lost.
I had friends dodging me to pay back as i have dodged friends when i borrowed... in some cases curses were exchanged, eventually the debt was paid and we're still friends.
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They weren't your friends. Look, there is a difference between a friend and a person that you hang and have a small chat with every now and then. It's very important to know the difference, otherwise you'll get burned one way or the other.
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I don't really lend any money to anyone the only person I lend a money that I trust is my dad. I gave some money to some friends and I told them they don't need to pay that back since it is not much. but I have friends that they only see meh as a person who will treat them everytime they see meh or talk to meh... so I just simply stop talking to them.
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Lending money to your friends is a good way to find out who your friends are. Unfortunately it is also a costly way of finding that out. If you take an optimistic view of it, you paid good money to get a bad friend out of your life. All in all not a bad deal.
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never lend unless you have them sign a binding contract with a specified repayment time and fees for not repaying in time.
otherwise if you want to be nice and don't need the money back, just gift them the money.
but a real friend does not ask for money from friends, only go to your family.
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Just wanted to know if this ever happen to any of you. So I had this happen to me 3 times now. Friend A, ask to borrow some money cause A is a rough spot, no money to pay bill etc. Comes to you to ask if he can borrow some money off you. You say yes and everything is good, until you ask for the money back very later down the road. They give you some BS story and next thing you, you are no longer on their friend list.
To me is not really about the money but to lose friends over something like that? I mean one removed me from all friend list and contact when I didn't even ask for the money back.
I would be better off to just say NO, but when your friend comes to you asking for help, would you ignore it, if you are able to help.
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