Hello dear community,

i dont do much post about my private life but i found this morning that i shoud share my joy !!

Despite i wanted a girl (i was selectionning girl first name mostly in fact), the result came from the echography:
a boy...
I feel relieved for now everything is fine and OK after the fifth month echography :-)

If you have any advice please feel free to reply.

  • about sleeping a child
  • about feeeding a child
  • about nursing a child
  • about using a disposable nappy (washable or not) heard about 4 tons used for one child !!!
  • about giving him most of what i can without putting him to much pressure...
  • about making him a good person
  • about everything ;-)

Thank you

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1 month ago

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CCongrats man!:D

1 month ago
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Congrats!

1 month ago
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BIG congrats khayolin daddy!
I wish your family happiness ^^

1 month ago
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TKS

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gratz :)

1 month ago
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Big congratulations! :)

1 month ago
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Dropping in to say Congrats! to the wonderful news!! :)

There is a lot of good advice shared already that I don't need to repeat here, but I will add that changing diapers on a boy can be somewhat of a challenge... if not, entertaining. So to save yourself a lot a grief (and laundry), make sure you cover him up with a diaper - quick!

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  1. About child's sleep
    Get up to sleep when you like and when you like.
    For a while, you will suffer from lack of sleep.

  2. About nutritional support of child
    If possible, please refer to breastfeeding, consult a nutritionist for nutritional status, and use liquid or powdered milk according to the total volume.

  3. About child care
    Everyone does it.
    spouse? Yes. Relatives, yes.
    Let's welcome if you can rely on.

  4. diaper
    There is also an environment that becomes infected from diapers that can be washed and used. It is necessary to consider whether the convenience of disposal and sanitation matches the use environment. (Some people dislike using the kitchen for boiling diapers)

  5. About him?
    Tell that children are not pets.
    It is 100% impossible for three years for children to understand what their parents say.
    You will probably feel as if it interferes with his spare time and hobbies.
    I would like him to be active for children! He is more important than a child!
    Creating such an atmosphere will do the best for you and your children.

  6. Other than that?
    You and your boyfriend should listen to the expert's opinion.
    When one of them stops listening, they become suspicious of each other's actions.
    As a result, the worst thing is different but it may happen.
    Good parenting.

Warning: I am not an expert. It is not human.👽
However, I saw unfortunate events close by.

1 month ago
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TKS for those advices :-)

1 month ago
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Congrats!

I think the best advice I have is:

Love your child no matter what. Give your child space and confidence to be whatever needs to be.

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I have an advice for you, always throw to the trash the diaper. I mean, is a new experience (My baby is 7 months) and you relation will be suffer changes, but like I said, always throw the diaper or the ugly things, the things that won't help you at all. You must learn to choose and do that.

1 month ago
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Bump! And congrats!

1 month ago
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Congratulations!!

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I have 2 adult children. For starters, don't worry about advice from so-called experts, or game enthusiasts. Talk to actual real life parents who you respect.

Regarding children. Children are all different and they are not a little version of you. Encourage different interests but support THEIR interests and whoever they are on the path to becoming. Don't spoil them. Give them reasonable light chores when it makes sense.

Love them and be a good person. Lead by example. One day, after years when you thought they weren't listening, they will repeat some of the things you used to tell them.

Good luck. It's quite an adventure.

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TKS for those advices :-)

1 month ago
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Congratulations!

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It's overwhelming and terrifying and wonderful. I tell people it's the single best and the single worst thing that's ever happened to me. Every time you get good at one stage, he'll acquire a new skill (opening doors, walking, etc) that'll make it hard all over again. But it's going to be loads of fun. When they get old enough to get jokes, it's awesome. When they get old enough to tell jokes, it's the absolute best.

Get good at patience. You'll need it. And it is HARD to stay patient when they're pushing your buttons. Keep in mind that everything they do is an experiment. "Dad said no. I wonder what happens if I do anyway." That's how he'll learn.

They first month, especially, will be hell. Once he starts smiling or laughing, though, it makes it so much more fun. They go from a crying poop machine to something you can interact with, and it's amazing.

Good luck!

Enjoy a whitelist add :-)

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Congrats!!! I currently have a lil girl that will be turning 10 soon. She can def be a handful(esp since mom noped out years ago, c'est la vie) but all in all she really could be far far worse when I look around. The dreaded puberty is coming in fast and already showing glimpses into the wrath of the beast so that will be...fun... A whole can of worms that I fear as a dude but challenging as it may be nothing that can't be overcome. I try my best to always suss out the lessons learned from any pitfalls, life of learning, silver linings and all of that(I've def dug more than my fair share of holes not counting ones I've just stumbled into so may as well find something good after all that effort :p )
I have a nephew a couple years younger than mine so I still get to do the boy things with him at least as well (when not attending tea parties and such with mine).
I hope the best for you :) It def gets tough at times and I've had more than a few moments of self doubt and thinking I'm over my head but humans seem to have a knack for shining brightest when faced with the darkest nights. If there's one thing I've learned it's that necessity truely is the mother of invention.

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So I had something come up that needed my fixing quickly and realized that I never said some things that I intended and didn't give a whole lot of standard advice...
Some things that come to mind are that post partum is just something that can happen and you shouldn't feel ashamed, just reach out for help and work past it. In a similar vein, just help in general, everyone get overwhelmed from time to time and there are lots of adjustments that must be made which in itself can wear you down quick. There is no shame in asking people for help. It's a tough endeavor but like most challenges in life, the effort makes the payoff that much sweeter. Everyone needs a break now and then to reset and re-energize.
One big thing that I swear by is to treat your child like a mini person (sometimes you'll swear children are just mini drunk ppl). I was never a fan of baby talk and all that nonsense. From day 1 I talked to my daughter as if she was just another valid person. Of course there are some limitations and things that must be simplified as their mind develops and they gain certain mental constructs we take for granted, but treating them with the respect you expect from them and the validation that any other thinking person needs will go a long way. When mine did things that weren't allowed I tried to always make it a lesson as opposed to just getting mad and scolding. I'd discuss why it wasn't right and have her take a moment to think about what she did and then explain her reasoning and such. "Because" was never an acceptable answer, for either of us. This come into play a bit later more when they are able to speak and stuff but even when younger I'd try to at least break things down and explain because even tho they are young n might not appear as complex they still have a head full of thoughts they just can't always express fully yet. The speaking like an equal and valid person really goes a long way.
I might come back again in a couple hrs after I finish mowing the rest of the yard if I think of anything else and remember to post it here.
If not then once again I wish you the best and always remember to enjoy every minute you can because time really does fly. They get big faster than you would ever think.

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Congrats!!! ^_^

1 month ago
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Congratss! :D

1 month ago
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congrats!

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Congrats for baby boy! I wish him good health :)

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Congratulations!

Now, for some advice:

about sleeping a child

Burrito wrap - wrap your baby like a burrito, he'll be happier that way and sleep better. Initially you can use a thin cloth, later you can buy or make swaddlers with velcro to keep his arms secure. Put him down on his back, and keep the bed free of anything that could obstruct breathing - so no blankets, only a tightly fitting bottom sheet, if you're going to use bumpers only use mesh bumpers, no pillows or stuffed animals.

about feeeding a child

Initially, it's all milk. Just hold him, hold the bottle, burp him after he's done. As he grows, increase the size of the nipple for better / faster flow, so you're not spending half an hour. When you're ready to start food, I like to start with 1/2 cheerios, to get him used to chewing (really gumming). You can also do soft foods like diced apples and pears that have been really cooked down, yogurt, baby cereal. Mixing textures is confusing for babies, so I like to keep soft stuff like mashed potatoes separate from things that need to be chewed like cooked carrots.

about nursing a child

Try it, and hopefully it'll be grate and relatively easy and not too painful. Try to get a good latch past the nipple. But don't get too frustrated if it doesn't work - some women just can't nurse, so use powder instead. And if your child has issue with one powder - like being gassy or fussy or spitting - try a different brand.

about giving him most of what i can without putting him to much pressure...

Just give him lots of love. It may often be frustrating, but in those times when you get angry, ask yourself, "What am I actually angry about? How would I describe this anger?" That will cause you to think about the reason, and often leads to deescalation or at least to figuring out what your triggers are and how to avoid them. Try to be patient, and try to find help when your patience is exhausted. :)

about making him a good person

Same as above, really. Just try your best, and offer lots of love and encouragement.

about everything ;-)

Always look on the bright side, and try to see the good in all things - even the bad ones. Such a positive attitude leads to a positive life and happiness, and it's never too late to adopt such a positive attitude. :)

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TKS for those advices :-)

1 month ago
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Also, everyone says this, but it's honestly good advice: Sleep when the baby sleeps. I know it's really hard to follow, but you'll get no sleep otherwise.

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TKS ;-)

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1 month ago
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You're welcome. And if you have any other questions, let me know. :)

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Not a bump

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I wish i could give any advice but all i can do is bumping this thread :/

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Congratz on the news!!! =D
Theres already good advices here!!
After being a proud aunt of 4 kids my biggest advice for both parents its " Be there when he needs it! Follow the parth with him and not for him!!"

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Congratulations on the little one.

I only have a dog, so no real advice, unless treats are as effective on children?
Oh wait, I do have a bit of advice from changing my nephew's diapers when he was little - stand to the side when you pop that diaper off.

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:-D
"on the side" noted ;-)

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Two of your GAs explain everything you are about to get into...

"Deep Dungeons of Doom" and "LOVE".

:D

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the last one was put on purpose ;-)

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