Hello dear community,

i dont do much post about my private life but i found this morning that i shoud share my joy !!

Despite i wanted a girl (i was selectionning girl first name mostly in fact), the result came from the echography:
a boy...
I feel relieved for now everything is fine and OK after the fifth month echography :-)

If you have any advice please feel free to reply.

  • about sleeping a child
  • about feeeding a child
  • about nursing a child
  • about using a disposable nappy (washable or not) heard about 4 tons used for one child !!!
  • about giving him most of what i can without putting him to much pressure...
  • about making him a good person
  • about everything ;-)

Thank you

Here is some GA mostly free games but there are great games. Start adventure here:
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/EqIOx/shadowrun-hong-kong-extended-edition

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Congratulations! :)

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Congratulations!

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Only thing i can think of comes from my mom.
When your child will get bit older (starts walking) is better to go with more "traditional" nappies because it significantly ease potty training. Its simply because child learn that peeing in diaper means its get wet, cold and uncomfortable and its more likely to put effort into changing this situation (and "omg so super efficient and absorbent new diapers" wont provide that learning experience ;) ). Other option is to wait for summer (so its warm) and just gave up on diapers and just let kid roam only in underwear.
For some time you will probably wash 20 panties daily - which might be annoying but still better than horror visions od 4-5 year olds still running in their diapers.

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Thank you for the advice

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Don't let people smoke near your child. Pisses me off so much when I see caretakers holding a small child on one hand and a cig in the other.

Thanks for the giveaways and good luck with your little family :)

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Congratulations!

I hope this is useful advice: Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes they're too hard on themselves for it. Try to forgive yourself for those mistakes, because your child will observe and learn from your behavior and you don't want them to learn behavior that is bad for their self esteem. So remember to be kind to yourself too please!

Good luck, you will do great!

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Thank you :-)

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Not a bump!
Congrats with a boy!

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Congratulations khayolin!

My only piece of advice would be: don't ask for parenting advice on Steamgifts!

Though to be fair, there is some good advice here! :)!

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yeah there is good advices !
Thanks you Canis39 !!

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Congrats! I dont have a child so I cant give you any advice :c

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congrats!
I can only say that it's hard in the start but even harder whenever he gets older ;)
If you have much fortitude and time don't use one use diapers if not use them all the time.
Most of things depends on the child I think but working for all should be two things

  1. always have some time for him even if you have to work or are tired like hell
  2. be consequent (believe me I know it's hard), kids are grandmasters of manipulation. With everything, what you need from him, what he can or can't do and most important what you have promised him you will do.
    You will be ok, kids are tiring but so much rewarding :D
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Thank you for the advices :-)

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Bump!!!

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I am absolutely not fit to raise children, but I've done a pretty good job raising teens and twenty-somethings, and made part of my living as a high school teacher for a time, so I do have some advice, at least for those years; they aren't [i]not[/i] your kids, just because they are legally adults. Heh, they aren't [i]not kids[/i] because they are legally adults.

  • Listening and trying to understand is probably the most important thing; if you just stand there and lecture, your kid's just going to tune out and possibly grow to resent you. Put yourself in their position; you were a kid once, too, so remember what it's like to be them, within the context of the new world, because times change, so their childhood isn't your childhood. That doesn't mean to let them do whatever they want, but get them to understand why the rules are the way that they are. Doesn't mean that they're never right, either; do keep that in mind.

  • A bit continued from the above, but get to know their world. When I was young, we used to chase a hoop down a stick on a dirt road; now, kids all have phones that cost more than half a year of groceries. Not just the technology, either, but culture has changed, and just because something seems stupid to you, doesn't mean it has to be stupid to them; you likely struggled with trying to get your parents to understand your world growing up, so don't put your kids through that, too.

  • When correcting them, make sure they understand [i]why[/i] you are. When I was in college, there were benches outside of a new building that had signs saying not to sit on them. We all sat there, anyway, including the professors. A few days later, the signs were updated to say that there was debris falling from the roof, because they were working up there, and what a surprise: nobody sat there anymore.

  • Don't live vicariously through your children. If you have dreams, then pursue them; don't make your kids live them out for you. For one thing, if your kid does something, you are, in no way, doing that; someone else is living out that dream for you. For another, your kids are their own living, breathing people with their own hopes and dreams; let them be who they are instead of who you want them to be. Yes, redirect them if you see them heading down a bad path - you don't want them to be greedy or waste their lives on addictions or anything - but let their personalities develop as their own; don't try to make little clones of you, their parents. My family always wanted an army of Stepford Clones, and while I was able to avoid being resentful because of it, despite going off in my own direction anyway, not every child will be so forgiving.

  • Keep an open mind. Yes, you should talk to your kids about sexuality, mental illness, and other important issues as they get older, but going back to how things change, make sure that you let them talk to you, too. My parents never believed in mental illness as anything other than a binary crazy/not crazy state, even though depression and possibly anxiety run in the family; don't let your children go through something like that alone. Things like sexuality are part of [i]what[/i] they are; not [i]who[/i], and not terribly important in the grand scheme of things. If they're struggling with things like that, yes, absolutely help them, but make sure they know that you are proud of who they are.

  • Your children will grow up some day; let them. You will miss the time you spent together when they were children, but don't let that cloud your judgment into trying to make them stay children forever; having tea parties with stuffed animals or making vroom vroom noises on the living room floor stops being cute around age 35. Your relationship with them will change over time, but so does everything else; you will always have those memories, so don't be afraid to embrace the new, and make new memories, as well.

  • Know when they need their space, and make sure to give it to them. Be an important part of your children's lives, but know that you're not their left eyeball. Be open, if they want to talk about something, but don't force them to open up, either. They need privacy; don't just post their entire lives on social media. I've seen parents take pictures of their children in the bath and post them on FaceBook with cute little stars for censorship. If you need those, then you probably shouldn't be posting it. Not even just to that extreme, either; their moments are their moments, and it should be their decision as to whether or not they want to share them.

Some of this was mentioned already, and there's a lot of good advice here. It's important to remember that childhood is temporary, but adulthood is the rest of your life. Do your best to prepare them for the lives ahead of them, and think about the future impact any decision might have. I wish you all the best!

P.S. I already have the game on GOG, so I won't be entering, but I still thank you for your generosity on behalf of the SteamGifts Community.

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Thanks a lot for choooo chooo!

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congratulations!
I have a 5 year old daughter. I can hardly remember when my daughter was a baby already.
However, I remember walking around the neighborhood with the baby long time to put her sleep at night
and really being careful when the baby has a fever.
i wish you and your baby be healthy and happy!

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aw congrats! he's going to be a cute little boy i know it!

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I'm becoming an uncle soon, so if that feels surreal, then I can't even imagine how surreal parenthood would feel like! I'll have the benefit of being able to spoil the kid and turn them to the dark side by teaching how to cheat on tests and etc, without having to deal with the consequences. I doubt you could get away with that as a parent though :P

Well, basically all I can say is to make sure to hold the kid right side up and to avoid eating him, even if his grandmother might say that he's so cute she could eat him!

Oh, also keep an eye on your sister(s)/brother(s)... I've heard they might try and spoil the kid and teach them some bad things ;D

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TKS :-)

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:-D

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Congratulations!
Sleeping - it changes as they get older, but really early on at some of the roughest times when daughter was a newborn, and she wouldn't stop crying for anything a long car ride would finally get her to sleep. Later on when sleep training, "The dream sleeper" was a godsend.

Feeding - don't do it, it's a trap! Once you start they'll just want more and it won't end. Seriously though, at the initial stages don't get wrapped up on having to do breast feeding or one particular way. Fed is best. What your baby can and will eat is best. And if that isn't breast milk by choice or otherwise, its ok. You have not failed as a parent, you have not done them a disservice. Fed is best. This goes in for the nursing question as well. Fed is best, sometimes breast feeding won''t work or won't be an option, as long as your son is getting fed that''s all that matters and it doesn't mean you or our partner are bad parents. My wife was only able to breastfeed for a few days. We even tried having a lactation consultant come in and she got our daughter to latch, said that she would need surgery, and made my wife break down into tears (for that comment and other reasons). My daughter was on formula after that, and she's doing just fine. She's bonded to both parents, she's happy, she's healthy. If the love and compassion is there, if you get food into them, then you''ll make it through.

Nappies - You'll just have to see for your situation, we ended up having to run 3 loads of laundry a day sometimes. That was with disposable diapers... It just wasn't a feasible option for us, especially with my wife recovering from birth and with her disability. If everything is good then hey it could work great, just go with what works for you, and be ready to adjust and change if it turns out it doesn't.

She's crying now, yay potty training nights
gotta go

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Thank you for the sharing :-)

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congratulations. I'm glad he is doing fine. I hope you are too, because I know you can easily become tired, nauseated, etc.

our boy is almost 1,5 year, so I can only go so far. The fun thing is, when I read your message it brought so many things back it makes me smile.

Since my advice is based on what I discovered along the way, feel free to ignore it. Because every child and parent is different not everything people say can applied to you and your child.

In the 9 months I did go along with my wife to her checkups. as a father to be, I had my own questions. We wrote our questions together, and sometimes discovered we had the same thing on our mind, and sometimes I or she never thought of. I would suggest taking some courses too. especially about labour and one about breastfeeding. we learned a lot from that.

I talked a lot to my son when he was still hidden away. but he started reacting to my voice. If he was quiet, he began moving, or vica versa. when he was born he recognizes my voice immediately. So my advice is, let the father to be part of it as much as possible.

We easily take pictures of our child, when it is born, but forget to do so when she is pregnant. I took some nice pictures of my wife, as well as my sister in law. So you have a nice remembrance of that.

When your child is born, it's one of the nicest things that will happen to you, take your time together and enjoy these moments.

It will be a steep learning curve, but you will do fine.
A few things I would give with you. listen to your mother instincts, they are usually right. How often have I heard my wife not say, why didn't I listen to myself.

one of the most important things you can give/do for your child is breastfeeding. It's the best food there is. it supports his Immunsystem. As well you will bond even better.

later he will let you know he wants to try the things you eat is. the first thing I ever gave him was a few drops of the juice from my melon. He loved it.

Search for Dunstan baby language.
Buy the book Les semaines miracle (in English the wonder weeks) it explains the mental development of baby's.

Give lots of loves, but let him go exploring as well. He knows when he is ready for something new.

Sometimes ignoring (not giving a big reaction) what he is doing is the best thing you can do.
our son did throw his food beside the table. I got quite annoyed. But when I focused on eating my own plate, and not saying things to him, he stopped doing it and ate naturally (for a baby that is.)

encourage him. When I say he is doing the right thing he repeats it as many times as long as you keep being supportive. for example he put his bottle nicely on the table. I said well done. he took it off again and put it back on the table. I said well done. several repeats later he started doing other things.

He copies you. f.e. at a certain stage he wants to use the spoon because you use it. so be aware that if he sees you doing something he might repeat it. the bad as well as the goods.

he will tell you when he wants to try out new things. You'll discover when

We use both kind of diapers. If your afraid of pee and poo, don't use washable diapers. If you want to use them, there are many kinds. all in ones, all in twos, prefolds and many more. You might need boosters at night most pee comes out at ones. And then you need something that can hold a lot and absorbs a lot. If you want to know more, feel free to add me.

about cleaning a baby boy. be aware he can pee to all directions at all times. the easiest way to avoid this is put a washcloth on him while cleaning the other bits. If he needs it will be absorbed immediately, and you'll be clean as well.

The last thing is very important, kids aren't meant to be clean. you can tidy him up. But somehow he will become dirty again. it's part of his discovering. although they love baths and showering. So it might be a big scheme.

And I can tell you so much more, as I probably have forgotten more of it. Do enjoy your time together. love him. Be the mother you need to be. Feel free to ask for help. you'll learn fast. don't look things up on the internet, you'll find mostly horrorstories, and not the helpful ones you really need.

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Thank you for the videos :-)

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Congratulations! The most important thing in your life will happen in about four months.

About the 4 first questions, just don't worry at all. It's a day-to-day routine, you'll get used to it in no time. It's nothing difficult, it's just time consuming - but seeing your little boy smile will make you say it's worth it.Your doctor (paidiatrist) can give you a ton of advices about everything. (babies sleep a lot the first months, boys are more keen in breastfeeding, solid foods after 6 months-mushed of course, nappy is esseintial, etc etc) If you have friends who already have babies you can learn from their experience. Just don't forget to have fun with your child. In fact you can make everything a game, which you will both enjoy.

About the last 3 questions of your, I have one simple advice for you: BE the person you want your child to grow into.

No amount of advice, teaching, speaking, lecturing, scolding, punishing, hitting, time-out, etc, can be more influencing than the example you give to them. If you tell your child to be nice to others, he will think "Ok, that's correct, I'll do that" and then he will forget it in the next 2 minutes. If your child sees you being nice to others, he will never forget that, and will do the same when the time comes. Children might learn from lectures and classes but they will BE whatever they see in you.

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Thank you :-) <3

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I can't give any advice, congrants for your baby boy XD
hope he grow up healthy ^^

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Congrats, that's awesome!
I don't have any children, so no advice, but given your concerns, I think you're on the good path ;)

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This is fantastic news, congratulations! By the way are you going to be a mommy or a daddy? :)

I don't know the first thing about babies, but seeing how my friends handled it, the first three months are the hardest and you can come close to losing your mind, but it gets a lot better afterwards.

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Congrats man!

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