Cheating on your partner in Dreams (Your opinions)

stop being Beta now and you might not lose her.

It was a dream, it didn't happen. Everyone has weird dreams now and then.

dreams of this kind are pretty normal...for each man and women, if my wife would tell me she never would have any thought or dreams like that, that lying would bother me....

no.
no.
trust & honesty.

you can only be as upset as she would be in your situation.

still, its just a dream.

I would be bothered, but then again... I've had similar dreams ._.

Also, I don't think it's right to feel good about her feeling bad?

The fact that she tells you is probably a good sign, also I think this is a quite common phenomenon.
I wouldn't mind it too much in your situation, as long as she is not seeing this particular guy a lot (on work, school w/e).
If I were to take all my dreams seriously I'd be in a mental hospital right now :D

Actually I think she is kind of selfish. If she had handled the dreams herself you would not have to deal with a made up situation. As nothing happened and you can't control your dreams you are obliged not to feel upset but of course you still do a bit that is natural. She should have left it alone and you would be happy and none the wiser or sadder for not knowing.

I wouldn't mind if it was with a random guy (even if it was more than flirting and if happens several times), but the fact that it is always with the same guy, whom she had a crush on... I'd be a bit careful

We all have weird dreams. That doesnt mean it happens in Reallife. I dreamed that i have sex with a 80 Year old Grandma. Does it suppose to be im a weirdo and it is my biggest wish? No.
While having Sex with a Girl it happens that i think of someone like Megan Fox or whatever :D Its about Sex Fantasies which i really Love. Its not about you or her, or about her dream. It happens. If it is not reality i wouldnt even bother unless it wont happen.

Man, don't worry, a dream represents subconscius toughts that a person denies.
It's a "What if", just to make it clear. Nothing to really worry about.

I wouldn't worry about it in your case. Your girlfriend seems to be a honest person, if she says it's just in the dreams (which she can't control) and that she doesn't actually want the other guy but wants to stay with you I'd trust her.

It's possible she's attracted to him at a superficial level which is why she dreams about him. But it also does seem that she understands her attraction to him is nothing serious and that you're more fit partner for her.

q1: Yes of course ... if you care about her it will bother you - but you seem like the intelligent kind (to figure it out).
(being unfaithful in mind is no sin whatsoever ... were just pre assessed to do so - unless one forces it not to ~ silly)

• if you're still attracted to each other - all is fine, even though some things are better left unspoken of - since if there's
  no point rattling an empty cage (= nothing serious).

I'd almost think she's trying to test waters - and maybe figure if you get jelly.

Just because someone puts on a ring doesn't mean they can immediately flip an internal switch and lose interest in all other people.

I wouldn't care if my significant other was attracted to or dreamed intimately about someone else, telling them to not be attracted to someone is akin to telling them to love some random person and expecting it to work. It doesn't work like that. Similarly, telling a person to shun all their friends they used to feel something for just because is equally bad... it's simply showing a complete lack of trust in their partner.

What's important is the honestly and communication between both people in the relationship. Both are needed for trust, and as long as both people trust each other to make the right decision when they feel attracted to somebody else then that's all that's really needed.

The subconscious is a totally different beast. I would not be worried at all IMO.

You can control dreams, if you are aware of having lucid dreams. :D http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lucid_dream
Chosen or not I heard such dreams, even the hottest ones, are vitalizing the relationship as they reduce the desire to live these hidden desires. ;)

I think the fact that she actually told you about it is probably a good sign. If she thought there was something to it or came out of a desire/interest to actually cheat on you with him...she'd never have told you about the dreams.

Don't worry about it unless she actually cheats at some point.

Yeah I sometimes dream about Lefty. But Righty isn't mad at it. I sometimes do it together with both of them anyway.

Wait, but are you sure that it was a dream and you are now in reality? Maybe you are the one he cheats her boyfriend in dreams? Have you seen that Inception documentary?

I once had a dream that I killed someone, can't remember why, but just because I had a dream about it, doesn't mean I am or even want to do it.

lol seriously?
you might want to focus on the actual relationship, not a meaningless dream, because at least one of the people involved might have some issues

But... A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes! D:
Joking, I wouldn't be bothered by random subconscious thoughts. :)

A dream is a dream, it does not mean much, even if it is something she would have wanted, it does not mean she will try to make it real or whatever. Everybody has dreams of being with someone else once in a while, it is the need of wanting to feel wanted and free.

No. That reminds me, I once read that incest dreams happen because we want more non-sexual affection from those family members.

Well, if those dreams are lucid and she knows she's doing this and she does it on purpose then it might be wrong to some extent.

But if those are not lucid dreams then she can't control them. You can't blame her for something she has no control over.