When sorrow Ends?

I'm so sorry, mate. I hope you find the strength to get through this. Cry, drink, do whatever you feel at this sad moment and that helps you.

I am sorry, my friend. I can only imagine what you must be feeling right now. Find someone you can talk to, and if it's too much to carry, then I would suggest going to the doctor to get medication or therapy.

When we drink, eventually we sober up, and we still have to handle the problems. Good medication doesn't make us forget why we are in pain; it just helps us handle the pain through the process. Drinking tends to be a temporary solution, not a permanent fix. And if we lean too much on that delay, we may never stop drinking. And I've lost friends to that, which deeply hurts.

Be well. You are not alone. Get the support you need.

you have a father and a friend who listen and talk to you
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X_-q9xeOgG4

The sorrow doesn't end, you just learn to live with it and get busy with life instead of focusing on your feelings.
I suggest taking it the dry way but if you must, then alcohol is better than Diapam.

Luckily, I have never been in such a situation. But in my opinion, you should try to take it sober.

This pain is proof of how much your mother meant to you. Don't shut it out. Take it in, accept it. But don't let it consume you.

Im so sorry for your loss. 🫂
Idk how I'd take my mother's loss, so I cant offer any wisdom. I would be shattered just as you are. I feel the sadness is testament to the fact how incredible your mum was, how cherished and loved she was. You are a good kid. TY for sharing with us, takes courage to open up.
I hope with time...the sadness changes into sweet remembrance of your mum, always in your heart.

I'm sorry for your loss.

FWIW, listen to neither your friend nor your father on this one, sorry.
Meds and alcohol will numb your pain for now, but it''ll come back later.

My 2 cents are this: Live your pain.
Cry, bleed, remember your wonderful times together, and cherish her memory.
There's no way around it.

I’m truly sorry for your immense loss.
I know there’s little comfort in words right now, but I believe your mother wouldn’t have wanted you to turn to alcohol or medication to cope. She would have wanted to see you find strength, heal over time, and go on to live a full, happy life - the kind she always hoped for you.

Hey man! I also lost someone close a year ago. So my condolences for your loss. And stay sober, that is the best option imho. You will relive your emotions, feelings, thoughts and memories and that will stay with you.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine what you're going through right now.
Everyone deals with the loss of a loved one differently. For me, for example, I can't imagine trying to drink myself into forgetting, or taking medication, because there’s always a new day that follows.
The awareness of such a loss and the feeling that the person is no longer here is, unfortunately, endless — but in time, it won’t hurt as much.

I like a quote from a book: "In the end you say goodbye, but the truth is, you never really let them go."
With time, the pain will faded, and all that will remain are the beautiful memories. Hold on to them.

The most important thing is not to be alone — even if it’s just chatting online. Loneliness only makes things harder.
You’ll get through this.
Take care of yourself.

Thank You for Every Reply.
Reading... Those Help!!

We all walk with each other one path of the way. The time spent together matters. What helped me, was drawing and writing down all the emotions to get them out of me. The outcome doesn't have to make sense. Most of them I've never shown anyone afterwards. What might help too is to watch movies, play games, do sport s... all it takes to get your brain focused ob something else. Time might handle the rest of the burden.

Regarding when: never. I still see people I lost on streets. Years after they gone. But these feelings dull over time.
Regarding being sober: As someone who went through some shit and was trying to cope with situation both ways (alcohol first and medication after) I would recommend medication if you notice you can't do stuff, even eat or sleep. Only that helped me restore sleep, eating and functioning. Alcohol, while it felt like it helped, made everything worse. So skip it and, if you need help, do medical drugs right away.

you need time

No alcohol and no drugs.

Your mother would want for you to be strong so remain strong. You need time but using alcohol or Diapam will only slow down your thinking and prolong your suffering. You have to work this one out in your head and heart. Any outside influence - drugs and alcohol included will only make this worse for you.

First of all I'm very sorry for your loss.
3 weeks is incredibly fresh wound so it's not weird that it hurts a lot.
My opinion is go see therapist. Honestly. There's nothing shameful about it. Grieving process takes time and it's a winding road so it's good to have someone to guide you through it. And I'm talking here from experience. If you think you can wait it out or drown it down. You can't. It will only ease up if you deal with it correctly. Facing it on, understanding your feelings and letting them be.
If not it'll probably taint other areas of your life.
Sending you big hug and keep strong. Just not strong enough to not ask for help.

My good friend, others indicated all the good things so no need to repeat them.

Just wanted to say, it is ok to be sober, and it is also ok to get a professional support. For majority it is expensive and people see it as unnecessary but sometimes it is the best thing you do for yourself and your loved ones. Even one session.

I can't even begin to imagine how that could feel. Sorry for your loss.

Sorrow never truly ends, you just learn to live in peace with it. About your mom, remember she probably wouldn't want to see you wasted, but instead seeing you strong and keep going as the time goes on and on. Sorry for your loss

It's okay to be sad. Take your time to accept the loss and also to appreciate things that still exist in your life, be grateful for them because now you understand how it is to lose them. It is a perfect time to do something valuable for you: any hobby, activity, work, maybe do something you wanted for a long time but never managed to do, make one of your small dreams come true, spend time with your dad, do something together with him you both planned for a while but had no time for it. I'm sure your mother would want you to appreciate the things you have in your life and do things you love. Sorry for your loss.

Talk about your feelings. Stay sober. Make busy, when thinking and feeling is too hard on you. Try to keep like this as much as you can, because it's much easier said, than done, and sorrow usually lasts for a long time, typically between 6 months and 2-3 years, though slowly decreasing in the intensity/frequency of attacks.

Find folks to talk and even cry with. Mostly not your family, because they are coming through the same sorrow as you do, and just when you want to cry, they may want to try for a while to forget about their sorrow. Best friends may also not be the best folks to talk with about your sorrow... my army buddies are not necessarily the folks, that I would like to cry with. And needing support we still need to try not to overbear on folks close to us. So likely look for new folks to talk with: new friends, self-help groups and even therapists, helplines.

Stay sober... as much as you can. In the worst case fight not to drink/take meds every day/regularly, cause that's the way to get addicted. If you really need a drink, don't do it with your father/family member affected like you, because it's also risking drinking with them more and more often.

Make busy. Myself I either play computer games or in a random company I take mountain hikes. If we don't disrupt it with alcohol and drug, mental healing works surprisingly well on the subconscious level, when we actually seem to forget for a while about our sorrow. And try to sleep as much as you can, as the same things are happening then.

It's a wound. It's painful. It takes a long time to heal. Mental or physical it's not really much of a difference. Maybe try to thing about it like about a huge on your leg, that will heal after a long time. Problem is, that when you walk, it's very painful, and if you don't regularly walk until it heals, your leg will be stiff for the rest of your life. If you don't live through your sorrow, it will handicap you as well. So you need to manage your pain, manage your sorrow the best you can, as much as you can, because nothing is perfect and giving advice is thousand of time easier, than living things through.

(I'm not a shrink, but I've spent a few years of my live as an addiction counselor, so I have some idea about what I'm talking about)

There are so many good advices here and I can't tell you anything better than I'm sorry for your loss.

Hi, I don't usually talk much here and I can see you've already got good advice from many, so I just wanted to share a different perspective:

Although I know that this is probably very normal in many parts of the world, I am surprised to learn the advice you got from friends and family, perhaps because I grew up in an environment where smoking, drinking, drugs, etc. were not glorified as an option towards anything good. Reading your post reminded me of a song that translates to: Don't drown your sorrows in alcohol because those should reside in your heart.

As for medication or therapy, from personal experience I can share with you a little trick: once you accept the fact that there are people in the world who are more miserable than you or are suffering/have suffered worse (I'm sure you can find little kids who lost both parents), you won't need either anymore.

Wish you good luck in overcoming your sorrow without much external support, but like others have suggested, surely talk to people close to you if that helps, and keep yourself busy with things you like to do.

Sorry to hear man, I personally chose to go to a doctor and get a prescription. He also functions as my therapist and we talk things out. This has saved me a lot of time and helped me get back on track a bit faster, in the sense that it made me more willing to chase the things that would help me bring back some happiness and move forward with my life instead of sticking too much to the past. Hope this helps.

I found, in my deepest sorrow, the only thing that would ease it, is simply being with. Feeling it. Crying my heart out, sobbing so heavily I would shake, so that I would feel in the deepest depth of my being the love for those I have lost, the pain that runs so deep, because that is the only thing that would keep them alive in me, the last straw of connection, for I would never feel them so intense ever again, because they're gone.
Personally I would not want to numb my grief. I want to feel it. Every ounce and every moment. For I feel it is respect for those who have passed on, and a celebration of our shared time and love together.
It gets less and less as time goes on.
I am sorry for your loss.