No motivation to actually play games. Help?

(I think) I know that problem. I get this fed up feeling whenever I finish a rather big game and get the post-game depression. Also I have a stressful job that with 12+ hours of work a day and when I come home, I can't bring myself to start a new AAA game. That's why I organised my library by game length and whenever I know that I don't have much time, I just play something short like a HOG etc. After a while the appetite normally returns! :)

I find that when I play games I tend to enjoy them, I just don't feel like getting into them. I think it comes partly from not being able to immerse myself in a game due to distractions. Having a family has over time got me into a habit of 'being on alert' too much. Even when I can spend some time doing something, I always feel like any moment I'll have to do something else. That's probably why I end up playing those hero/waifu collection games on Android, that mostly don't require any real attention.

It's not only games, either. I can hardly get into any TV series or continue it. I watched two episodes of The Witcher, and I generally enjoyed it, but still never try to actually get some TV time to watch it.

I still enjoy playing some games on the Oculus Go. Perhaps that's because it puts me in another world where I can more easily ignore distractions (not that they don't happen just as often).

Hey bud, I know what you're talking about because a lot of people around me get in this state from time to time. I'm not sure if it's the same case with you but, most of them treat their games like a chore rather than fun.
They become obsessive about the game, playing only that one game for weeks and months exclusively and the result is this "gaming burnout". The people I'm talking about are primarily MOBA and MMO crowds and seeing how you have over 7,600 hours in PoE, that might be the case for you as well.

Personally, no matter how good the game is, playing it for that long is most likely not coming from a genuine desire to play but maybe from the "fear" (and I use this term loosely) of loosing something (which is by far stronger than the jolt of dopamine that we get when we gain something) like an in-game item or perhaps a part of your daily routine?
I'm not a psychologist so I won't pretend that I can diagnose you but that's what I've noticed. Also, remember that dopamine is driven by novelty, and after 7,600 hours of any game, I don't see how you can have any novelty at all...

Anyhow...
I'd say don't force it. If you don't feel like gaming, don't force the games on yourself. Let the desire come back naturally. Don't play for anything other than your own enjoyment.

Seriously, if friends want to play and you don't feel like playing it, fuck it, skip it and play it some other day. Don't play for anyone's enjoyment but your own!

If you're grinding for an item or forcing an event or a challenge on yourself just for the achievement or that missable item, you really should not do it. Perhaps it's fine to do it once or twice but, playing like that more than because you genuinely want to is a problem and might as well be the cause of how you feel about games right now.

Personally, I wouldn't worry about it too much. I lost interest in gaming until I stumbled upon Mabinogi. I haven't binge played like that since Diablo 2 because it is so unique compared to everything else I've played. If gaming is starting to feel more like an obligation rather than something you enjoy, it doesn't hurt to take a step back and find something else of interest... perhaps something else in your life you might have been neglecting or curious about.

i played very little last year. surprisingly little actually.
i was busy with working out, dealing with bad health, trying to get various problems under control or at least deal slightly better with them.
success was mediocre though.

i played a little more this winter due to really shitty weather but it's kind of hard to get excited about it.
you feel like you have seen it all and done it all before. at the same time you feel unsatisfied and restless like something is missing or not quite right but you have no idea what the heck that coud be. or more like everything is not quite right but you have no idea how to fix any of that.

even after more than 2000 hours i still play killing floor 2 every now and then. it's still fun but no challenge at all. you know whats coming, you know how to deal with it, no nasty surprises and no need to learn something new.
kind of like life when you get older.

could this be midlife crisis? maybe.
maybe it's time to try something completely new. but it's kind of hard when you're limited in various ways. and have no idea where to start.

also i feel like i'm talking to myself now.
i guess we could both use something new and different.