I didn't expect to feel that much while reading that, but aww... Totally feel you on the anxiety & depression thing too. And I know this is coming from a stranger, but it's great to hear you're currently in a life and have this new person that's making you happy. Congrats to you both & hope the love stays strong. 💛P.S. you two are a good looking couple!
I don't know if that feeling is love, how long things will last or if she is "the one" but I can say for once in my life I am genuinely happy and can look forward to tomorrow.
:) That's beautiful. Just enjoy the moments. You never know where love & life can lead!
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Congrats, ChessPie!
I hope it'll all work out for you.
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To be honest I have never been through any personality test to know how to answer. But you did interest me, so doing some brief research just now, I will say I agree with or align with the following:
- Primary goal is to find out their meaning in life, driven to help people and make the world a better place
- Thoughtful and considerate, reserved in expressing emotion, have a very deep well of caring
- Do not like conflict, place little importance on who is right and who is wrong
- Function in their well-developed sides, rarely give themselves credit
With the relationship at hand, I sometimes wonder do opposites attract? But, like I said in another comment: we enjoy spending time together and for me, that is what matters most.
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I just took a guess because everything you describe of yourself is spot on me haha, although I'm 8 years younger.
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Best of luck to you, I hope you find what you are looking for!
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Thanks, all the best to you too. Just remember that no matter what happens, is meant to happen. So cherish those timeless moments you will have, and don't dwell too much on what could have been. (I'm not referring to your relationship but take it as a general advice.)
Oh if you want to find out your personality type you can go to 16 personalities for the free test. It could help you understand yourself better and improve yourself.
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Myers-Briggs is crap tho. A tad bit better than your Elle (or whatever teenage girls read these days) personality test, but still.
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Hey, that's really nice to hear! :)
Really happy that things seem to be working out here, best of luck to you guys, in all honesty!
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Congrats! That's awesome!!! You two look so good together!
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I want to share my happiness with you
the nice threads you peeps are writing... <3
(typical sign of a dying site, btw)
i also really like your smiling, we kinda can see you shouting internally "...look! look at her eyes!", those lil' dumb things you can never have being alone. enjoy, big bud, every single moment
(it really doesn't matter if she's not "the one", imo... grab those vibes and... enjoy)
thanks -so much- for sharing!
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That's wonderful, congratulations! And what a cute picture! ;-)
Unsolicited advice: take it slow, these things are complicated. Put her first, unless/until you think she's taking advantage of you. Give her space if/when she needs it-- it doesn't mean she doesn't like you, she just may need to figure some things out. If she really turns into something special, something longer-term, then try to make her feel special every day of her life. And if it doesn't develop into anything or goes awry, then the most important thing is that you put yourself out there, changed something in yourself, and probably learned a ton about yourself and life in general.
Good luck!
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Wow honestly, thank you for the advice! And you're right, it has been just over a week now so I do want to continue to find that happy balance showing I am interested but not moving too fast. I have been consulting my sister at times and sometimes just going with my gut. For now we enjoy spending time together, and that's all that really matters ^^ Also, good outlook on the bigger picture! Thanks!
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Looks like you have a great attitude and approach going on, and a RL support network. All important things-- good luck!
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That's some solid advice from trent there, and I just wanted to echo the "take it slow" part. It can be way too easy to get a bit obsessed with someone, especially if you're not used to dating or being in relationships, and that can often sabotage things and push them away. For example, confidence is considered to be an extremely attractive trait, while overconfidence/arrogance is not. In the same vein, being interested in and wanting to spend time with someone is awesome, but becoming overly clingy and smothering is definitely not and could evoke him/her to run. Like you said, find that happy balance and simply enjoy spending time together. The rest will fall into place on its own. Also... congrats, and thanks for sharing the happy feels with us! :)
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Great advice and really well put. Thanks for sharing!
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Thanks for sharing...totally made my day and now I'm cheering for you. Go for it
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Congrats for reaching that milestone. Up to the next! ;)
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Hey, both of you look pretty cool and everything seems going fine. If you need for some advice don't hesitate to ask.
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Doesn't it suck that it only feels like your life has meaning when you're (romantically) with someone? Man, fuck genetics. This is...
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I had a similar story myself, always extremely shy, introverted and major depression, always been pretty much a loner, even when I was "friends" with other people I never really felt any kind of human connection, always felt as if I was so different from them. Not with friends or family or anybody. I had accepted that's just how life goes. Fast-forward, I'm about to turn 30 and met a woman online, instantly felt like we've known each other forever. We joked that we "share a brain" because we were always thinking the same thing... and especially the same sense of humor (this is perhaps more important than anything else!)
We've been married almost 10 years now... I'd say that's a happy ending, but the ending isn't to come for many many years still :)
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That truly is a touching story! Thank you for sharing it here~
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damn this would be wonderful, sometimes i wonder if anyone as the same humor as me (i met people, it happened before, but it is very very rare and even if it work for a day, will it work for a life ?)
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Aww that's sweet. Pretty much had the same experience. It just felt almost right away as if we'd known each other forever.
I'm glad you met your Person and I wish you all the continued happiness you can handle ;)
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That takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there when you're naturally introvert so good on you for taking a chance and congrats on your new budding romance. Life is way better when you have someone to share it with! You 2 makes a very cute couple <3
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Not that I'm super active on here but I'm about to share more in this discussion than I have with even some of my closest friends. I am like most people on here introverted by nature and always preferred working rather than socializing in high school. This continued through college, and even still to this day I would consider myself partly "Forever Alone" (/r/foreveralone for the uninitiated). But still it is inherent in our genetics to want to find a mate to share our life with.
I have never really dated before because I will admit it, I AM LAZY. It takes effort and some money; simply put: you get what you put in. But now at 28, it finally clicked I was ready to meet someone. With no dating experience or self confidence, lingering anxiety and depression how bad could things go? Well, thankfully I am not completely socially inept so making profiles and casual conversation through the dating app scene wasn't a problem. Eventually it did lead to a few first dates; I thought they went well but never heard from them again. It hurt but I knew it was par for the course. And then I met someone who is looking for the same thing I am, has the values/interests, can make each other laugh, and are attracted to each other. Even after three dates she still makes me feel a way I cannot describe. I don't know if that feeling is love, how long things will last or if she is "the one" but I can say for once in my life I am genuinely happy and can look forward to tomorrow. So with that I want to share my happiness with you by giving away some games:
Immortal Redneck [Level 0]
Spoiler Alert [Level 1]
Metal Slug X [Level 2]
Airport Madness: Time Machine [Level 3]
Fahrenheit: Indigo Prophecy Remastered [Level 4]
Catlateral Damage [Level 5]
The Last Leviathan [Level 6]
Geometry Wars™ 3: Dimensions Evolved [Level 7]
Alter Army [Level 8]
I am not really trying to create any sort of discussion here (I will probably close thread once giveaways end...) BUT if you want to leave a bump if you choose to enter any of the giveaways, that is always appreciated.
Bonus picture, for those curious[Removed due to advice of some comments. Maybe once we are further in relationship and I have consent to post I will share more an update and more photos]Comment has been collapsed.