Sure! In the past I have used Tinder/Bumble but those weren't really about finding relationships. Also I am generally not in favor of dating apps, just a lot of constant rejection and the brain can't tell the difference from a broken heart vs a physical wound... Anyway, talking to a friend at an after hours event he mentions Hinge and how it is just night and day between these other apps. I honestly had never heard of it. But now after having used it and been on 5+ dates in a couple months I would have to say it works, you match based on interests and just kinda go from there. I do find it kind of draining spending time trying to write someone a personalized message as I am not one to stick with the same opener for everyone, but they are usually more receptive. But again that's just me. You do you. Let me know if you have any other questions!
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I'm inclined to agree, and I also don't like sending the same message to everyone. I live in a smaller city so I haven't had luck with less well known apps so far. Still worth a try though, definition of insanity and all that. Thanks for the advice!
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if it takes effort to talk then you are better off looking else where but a good sign is when talking is natural. as for "is she the one" don't worry about that and just enjoy them. focus on having fun with them and less on forcing a relationship.
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Thanks for sharing, I am happy for you. Though I thought I would comment on one thing you said:
Eventually it did lead to a few first dates; I thought they went well but never heard from them again. It hurt but I knew it was par for the course.
That can certainly be true, especially for someone with little experience, and I can't say I know things went in your situation but I just thought that I would point out that if you are a guy who went on a date with a girl then traditional social convention says that you are the one 'expected' to generally take the initiative. Hence the whole cliche thing in movies about the girl waiting for the guy's call following a date. I'm not saying it's right/wrong or even 'fair', but that's the reality in many cases. For heterosexuals anyway, women often tend to look to a male to take the lead and may find it an attractive/desirable quality that they seek.
edit: just realized you posted a pic. You're not a bad looking dude and I kind of feel like all of this could have come sooner for you, but hey, everyone takes whatever time they need on their journey of self-discovery. Best of luck to you both!
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Actually not to get in the weeds of it but I always did follow up ¯\(ツ)/¯ and sometimes it was a complete ghost, once it was "oh I'm moving I'll text you when I am free again" or sometimes it was "we are just at different stages in our life right now". Honestly it hurt in the moment as I thought they had enjoyed themselves. But now, looking back with perspective I am able to see that it was all for the better in the long run.
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Oh good, well that's all you can do then. If they aren't really into you then they aren't really in to you. Or maybe they could have their own issues or insecurities. The important thing is not get too discouraged and to get out there and try again, which of course you did and found a better match.
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Are you on the first few week "lovey dovey" stage?
Give it some time, bound to go downhill super than later ^-^
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Oh my god, what a happy ending to your post! Congratulations, ChessPie! Keep open and honest communication and always be on each other's team and you can't go wrong. Best of luck to you lovebirds!!
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Appreciate it, m8, though it's not necessary. I'm happy for you now anyways.
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I was shy and alone and managed to find the right person for me. 30 years later we are still married. congrats and good luck with the future.
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Not that I'm super active on here but I'm about to share more in this discussion than I have with even some of my closest friends. I am like most people on here introverted by nature and always preferred working rather than socializing in high school. This continued through college, and even still to this day I would consider myself partly "Forever Alone" (/r/foreveralone for the uninitiated). But still it is inherent in our genetics to want to find a mate to share our life with.
I have never really dated before because I will admit it, I AM LAZY. It takes effort and some money; simply put: you get what you put in. But now at 28, it finally clicked I was ready to meet someone. With no dating experience or self confidence, lingering anxiety and depression how bad could things go? Well, thankfully I am not completely socially inept so making profiles and casual conversation through the dating app scene wasn't a problem. Eventually it did lead to a few first dates; I thought they went well but never heard from them again. It hurt but I knew it was par for the course. And then I met someone who is looking for the same thing I am, has the values/interests, can make each other laugh, and are attracted to each other. Even after three dates she still makes me feel a way I cannot describe. I don't know if that feeling is love, how long things will last or if she is "the one" but I can say for once in my life I am genuinely happy and can look forward to tomorrow. So with that I want to share my happiness with you by giving away some games:
Immortal Redneck [Level 0]
Spoiler Alert [Level 1]
Metal Slug X [Level 2]
Airport Madness: Time Machine [Level 3]
Fahrenheit: Indigo Prophecy Remastered [Level 4]
Catlateral Damage [Level 5]
The Last Leviathan [Level 6]
Geometry Wars™ 3: Dimensions Evolved [Level 7]
Alter Army [Level 8]
I am not really trying to create any sort of discussion here (I will probably close thread once giveaways end...) BUT if you want to leave a bump if you choose to enter any of the giveaways, that is always appreciated.
Bonus picture, for those curious[Removed due to advice of some comments. Maybe once we are further in relationship and I have consent to post I will share more an update and more photos]Comment has been collapsed.