I actually felt hurt.

That's very immature of her but some people are called "Avoidants" and always want to feel very independent not relying on anyone. So if she got too close to you or she feelt you were any clingly she would block you right away. Let me help you :)

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P.S. I'm done spamming your messages for now, I'm off to play a game, or eat, or watch anime, or... something else, who knows?

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^- wise words over there.

Either you (kapy) were a massive twat, too clingy, or she just moved on. I just don't get the blocking. It's immature even if deserved.
It'll sting a bit but will pass.

Source: been on both sides of this

You better be, or I'll come up to Canada and sing Nickleback to you until you are again.

And trust me, neither of us wants me singing Nickleback. :D

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My self-conscious betrays me all the time, or maybe it doesn't betray me, but he's not a friend, he's a jerk and I hate him... Either way, it doesn't matter. ArchiBot will never betray me, unless you count !roulette, in which case I have him betray me all the time. ;)

I don't know. If I just randomly chat with somebody and they, for some reason, become unpleasant to me, I don't feel I owe them a thirty page essay about why and I'm simply not going to bother. I believe an explanation is proper only if there is already a relationship or if your act somehow influences the other person's life. Even if we have had some deep conversation at times, it doesn't mean we are now friends, you can have those with stranegrs too. I fear I might be biased though, the story the OP told, actually, made me remember when a person added me as "friend", gave me a lot of unwanted gifts and then started heavily hitting on me and making demands. At that point I just cut them off. I know it's very unlikely OP is somehow at fault in this case, but I still think explanations are not always owed.

Totally off topic, but look at you, being Support and all :3 congrats (or something)!

Confucius once said "love me when I don't deserve it, because that's when I'll most need it".

I try to live that way with everyone, because I think it's the strong path.

But people just don't do the same, what can I do? The worst thing: they hate you because of stuff you did that was less than what they did, even after you forgave them.

People just want you to put yourself on their shoes all the time, but they never put themselves on your shoes. So I just stopped to care. Now I can be an angel when I know someone and a demon when that someone is doing something wrong for some time.

I'm free now, and if someone doesn't like my way of dealing with those people, most likely they are not worth too, so they can also stay out of my way automatically. That's another advantage.

People Put anime case on it and call it their waifu.

Hmm. Well if you describe yourself as someone who is hard to be friends with, that does make me wonder why. Giving forewarning can sometimes be taken as self-consciousness rather than an accurate assessment, y'know? When they accept who you are early in getting to know someone, it means they accept what they know of you, and are at least willing to give you the benefit of the doubt.

You did say that they halted contact after a CS:GO session, so I'm gonna make a total guess here and ask if you're a pretty firey gamer? As in, smacktalk and biting insults? Because if so, there's a chance you might have gone too far, and rather than confront you about it, they might have been repelled to the point of severance? Sorry for the assumptions here. I mean, if these things are the case (and the way you openly say you're a hard person to be friends with), then rather than taking a "Take me or leave me" approach, maybe you might need to ease into fresh relationships slower so that they can get a better handle on you?

idk

Agreed - it's not easy! ;-P
(but it is worth it)
You know I love you, man.

TL;DR: Don't feel bad, don't expect explanations and don't change. :-D

Like others have said, the way people treat you speaks much more about them than it does about you. It still doesn't mean that she's a bad person, though. Not many people enjoy conflict, and particularly when people are not feeling strong, they'd rather try to slip away quietly than have to try to summon the energy to argue or to explain why they don't want to engage with you at the time. I notice it more from women than men. I realise that this is a stereotype, with all the intrinsic errors and exceptions, but in general, I think us men have more of a need for things to be addressed directly, while women are far more comfortable that a feeling/emotion is a conclusion in itself. In my experience, sometimes they will resume communication sometime down the track (e.g. months later) but often they won't. It's far more likely that they will try to pick things up again if you're friends in real life, especially for several years, because there is more emotional investment in the relationship. I think people tend to treat online friendships, particularly new ones, as a bit more disposable than real world ones (it's a self-protection mechanism so that you don't get too emotionally invested before you have confidence that it will progress).

When chatting online, you come across as having a lot of energy, mainly because you type quickly and break up long messages into multiple lines. You also don't mind arguing passionately about something but you are quick to move on afterwards and don't harbour any malice to the person you've been arguing with. It's a personality trait that I've seen a fair bit of in successful construction project managers - you have to take no shit from the contractor and kick arse when necessary, but not let it spoil the relationship. Again, it's a generalisation, but most women (most men too, to be honest) find it difficult to remain emotionally distant from a passionate argument, which means that afterwards when you've happily moved on, they have a lingering subconscious feeling that you have judged them negatively and don't like them, when for you the argument was just about the idea.

In terms of your communication style, from the other end of the conversation, they see:

• kapy post
• kapy post
• kapy post
  in rapid succession. If someone's already feeling run down and wants to avoid a confrontation, that might be intimidating to them because they don't want to have a terrier chasing after them for an explanation (none of this has to be a reality - it's just a possibility in their head), which might be why you feel like you're seeing this a bit more frequently than you should. BTW, I'm not suggesting you change anything, just trying to come up with an explanation for how others perceive you.

There is another aspect of your personality that also might mean you get more ghosts than average: you're very caring and like to help people when they need it. What this means is that people who need help to sort their shit out will clutch onto that assistance when you offer it, so you develop more relationships with people that are having a tough time than the average person does. Unfortunately, these are also the people that are most likely to withdraw so that they can digest and process the suggestions that you've provided or just work on things on their own to sort things out in their lives. Some of these people might contact you again when they are feeling more settled but some won't.

I like you, Kapy, and I don't think you should change anything about yourself. Your apparent energy level or intensity can be a bit daunting when I am tired, so you just have to accept that sometimes I won't feel like chatting, but I think we have a decent understanding of each other. When I'm not tired, I love the energy that comes across the chat, so I'd hate for you to try to hide it. I don't think you'll gain much by pursuing an answer on a case by case basis. If you do want an explanation, I would suggest a single short message, such as, "Did I upset you?" or "Sorry if I offended you - what did I say?" and then just metaphorically walk away without expecting a response. Consider any response as a bonus. I personally also find it very painful to deal with the "unexplained break in communication" technique (I told you about my friend that I got my phone from), but all I can offer as consolation is my logical speculation about what's going on inside their heads and why you're seeing it. If I had any advice, perhaps you could just treat online relationships a bit more cautiously, allowing them to develop over longer periods than real life relationships where bonds are consolidated by seeing and touching each other and sharing a variety of experiences, and trying to consider them more disposable for longer, in recognition that this is how others seem to be treating them.

;-;

You dig for gold, but after all the mud, you manage to find a hidden diamond. Aka someone better than just a friend among the unworthy.

Be glad it's diamonds and not lemons!
Muddy metaphors are always a crapshoot. When panning for gold gives you diamonds, you make martinis!

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