I need advice for a personal problem please

Quit. Life is too short to suffer through. Find a new job.

Go see a psychiatrist/psychologist. If you don't like the vibe, go to another one.

I don't know how old you are, whether you've rent or whatever, but you clearly need to change out of your current situation.

First - there's never any reason for one person to yell at another, especially in a work environment. Nothing good ever comes of that.
Second - it's 100% normal to feel the way you do about it. Not many people (if at all) enjoy being treated poorly or being yelled at.

There are several ways you could approach this --

You said you work for a temp agency -- perhaps you could talk to someone there about the situation. Chances are, if this supervisor is doing this to you, they're doing it to others or have in the past. This person may have a prior record of treating employees like this, and you may find you'd be better off seeking better employment rather than dealing with the abuse.

(This one will probably be outside your comfort zone, but it's what I would do) Talk to your supervisor. Show that you're interested in improving things - not only your relationship with him (and other employees), but also at work in general. A lot of places treat temps as less than human until they prove they want to be there and care about the job/other employees. Seek ways to "go the extra mile" at work. He'll either respond positively or he won't - and you can go from there.

Start looking for another job. That one's simple enough. Believe it or not, sometimes it's worth it to take less pay in order to work in a better environment. Perhaps the temp agency has other openings available elsewhere?

At any rate, good luck with that whole mess. Been there, done that, and it sucks.

If you think this is cluttering up the forums, you haven't read the forums lately. :)

I think sometimes getting stuff like this out in the open (even if it's just on a semi-anonymous site) can help. How do you feel after putting everything down in writing? What do you want to do? One thing you can try is to say each thing out loud and see how it makes you feel. So for example:

"Tomorrow I will go to work my regular shift and hope things get better."
"Tomorrow I will quit this stupid job."

See how each one makes you feel, and use that information to make a choice.

I know a little bit about how you're feeling, it can be very hard when you feel like no one likes or understands you, and/or you don't fit in.

One of the things that helps me sometimes is asking -- who are these people that don't like or understand me? Are they good people, worthy of my respect? What is the group that I don't fit into? Is it a good group, worthy of my time? More often than not...the answers will be "they are a bunch of clowns, and I wouldn't want to spend any time with them if I wasn't getting paid to be around them."

Of course random internet advice is worth just about nothing, but hey -- hang in there, and if posting this stuff here helps you, there are absolutely people who will read it and take it seriously.

just ignore him. a supervisor at my work accused me of lying yesterday even though I wasn't. it sucks but I just try to have thicker skin because these types of problems will always occur

Read it... don't know that there's much I can offer in the way of help though. Work, especially retail or generally any truck processing style job is going to be very gruff. The managers/supervisors/whatever for those positions are generally chosen for their ability to be loud and a smidgen aggressive or at the very least pushy about getting things done quickly, on time, and the right way. That's pretty much never going to change unless they're doing it in a way that is 'too' aggressive and causing problems for their entire team. So my only real advice for you is to try and just accept it and maybe look into solidifying your own personality and self-worth (easier said than done I know...)
I used to be a shy mousey person up till about age 18, I got kinda sick of being that person and made it a point to try and get more confidant when I moved halfway across the country to be with my significant other. Now at 33 that kid in highschool is really foreign to me.. its kinda weird. One of my college courses was the biggest help, it was technically more about learning to be a good student (which I was annoyed about because I felt that I didn't need it.) But it also involved things about how to have good study sessions, and those involved public speaking lessons and such, and THOSE helped a lot. I took the whole "Literally none of these people 'know' that version of me... and they HAVE to listen to every word I say" and just kinda ran with it, it was fun, it was liberating. Eventually I took that side of myself and stoked the flames on it until that was the primary aspect of "me" that dominated my every day life, this loud and a bit silly person that will get very serious about things when they're important. Now I'm in a management position in a retail furniture store, I'm not the loud scary truck manager though.. I'm way to mellow to push firmly for goal times. I'm the friendly training manager though?

But yeah, I dunno, I'd seek out a class or a therapist to try and help raise your self esteem and boost your assertiveness.

Firstly, your emotions and feelings are valid - you're entitled to feel the way you do - no one likes to feel rejected or unwanted - and it upsets them when they are. Maybe you feel things a little stronger than others - I can relate - I'm the same way.

Society says sensitivity is a sign of weakness; but it can actually be a source of strength - you just have to channel differently - draw your strength from them in whatever passions you have. Granted, it can be tough for people to deal with and work with sometimes, so you do have to find a way to try to temper it a little - but never ever think that your feelings and emotions are a sign that you're weak - it can be quite the opposite - it shows how human you are.

It took a long time for me to be a bit more confident and assertive - and it can still be a struggle. What helped me was finding something I was passionate about and volunteer - got myself into a position where I can make an impact in some peoples' lives - especially kids.
[noticed you mentioned on another post that being confident and assertive isn't who you are; I'm the same - I'm not naturally like that either - I'm pretty shy. But it just comes with practice. Little by little, and you will see you'll be more comfortable being more open and out there]

I'm not going to say that this is just a grocery job in your case, because a job is a job.. and money is money, but try to step back a bit and see the bigger picture - your job is not who you are - you're much more than that. It's a means - so don't stress too much about it - just go about doing your thing, and then off your off-time, try to do things that uplift you, or challenge you to improve on something you aren't good at or not used to.

Hope this helps somewhat - I sorta know what you're going through in terms of confidence, but everyday is a new day : ) keep working at it little by little and you will see yourself change for the better!

One time at work I really messed things up. I was working in IT and I was supposed to move a MFP (multi-function printer) into storage. Now, this is a big printer, and I was moving it on a rickety little cart down a hill and it hit a lip of the sidewalk and went flying. This is a multi thousand dollar piece of equipment, and I'm a student worker making less than $10 an hour. My heart sank. Fortunately, I got it back onto the cart, put the pieces back together (it hurts me just thinking about it) and moved it into storage. I hooked it up and printed a couple times and it worked fine, but for about fifteen minutes I was convinced I was not only going to get fired but have to pay a ton of money. I was terrified to tell my supervisor about it, and I nearly had an heart attack from the stress (and almost just walked off and didn't come back). Fortunately, my supervisor was understanding and since there was no serious damage (a bit of cosmetic damage, but it printed fine and the scanner tray was intact) I didn't get in trouble. It was still super stressful though, so I know how it feels to not want to be in a job.

There was also a time when one of the staff members (technically a student supervisor, but she only oversaw one student who was more advanced) yelled at me for doing something another supervisor told me was okay and basically said it was a security risk and that I was (not in these words) stupid for doing it. We had just had a security scare with passwords being used improperly and we weren't supposed to use certain accounts, but a supervisor had told me to just use it to get my work done, and she basically countermanded his instructions. I'm not even going to lie, after that I wrapped up what I was doing (basically cancelling what I was told I could do by the other supervisor) and ran downstairs to the bathroom because I lost my composure and was about to cry. I struggled a lot with depression in undergrad, and was often pretty close to a breakdown, and this tipped me over the edge, I spent about a week terrified of coming to work and talking to her because of a couple of things; for one, I really respected her because she was quite intelligent and she always knew what to do (even if she was a bit strict) and for another because I was afraid that she would tell her supervisor I should be fired for breaking protocol (I had two different supervisors and she was not one of them directly, though she was in the same position and had some authority), and finally I was just afraid she would yell at me again. I talked to my supervisor, and he encouraged me to talk to their supervisor. He passed along to her how nervous I was and she talked to me and we worked things out. She apologized to me for her tone (it was not her intention to terrify me) and for failing to understand what I meant when I said I had been told to do what I did (she assumed I was following old protocol and not that I had asked for directions after the update), I apologized because of my failure to communicate, and we started getting along better (although I was still a little nervous around her, it got much better). That's pretty much a best case scenario, but it's worth trying for.

I eventually quit that job over unrelated issues because the admin team basically treated my team like idiots without any nuance or even any interaction with most of us (some of the student workers weren't very good, but others like me were pretty savvy and often suffered the loss of privileges because other students messed up), and the only person on that team that treated the student workers as anything other than inept left It was super stressful, but that wasn't so much fear/dread as anger and I was about to graduate so I only had a few weeks left anyway.

I don't know what to recommend for you. Obviously, there are limits that shouldn't be crossed. Part of it is your supervisor; I would talk to your hiring agency or his supervisor if he has one. Yelling at staff is inappropriate, especially without proper communication. Misunderstanding your comment betrays a lack of respect though, so I wouldn't talk to him directly. It sounds like employment in your area is difficult, so I wouldn't necessarily recommend the nuclear option of just quitting, but if you need to, do. It's not worth developing or exacerbating a mental health issue over, and anxiety disorders can be pretty debilitating. Jobs can be especially stressful because you probably need the money, but it's not worth ruining your life over if you have family to help. It can be embarrassing to give your parents a phone call

I may sound sarcastic, but I'm not. Next time he screams at you, punch him right in the face. Channel all your anger and sadness, turn your brain off for a split second and do it. You'll be a new person.

Edit: blah blah violence is bad blah blah

You should consider changing the type of job really. I'm an introvert too so jobs such as IT and working where you don't have to interact with people too much is more really more suited with you.

Hey,

You have repeated twice you aren't a "tough" person.

But what are you ? Maybe you are sensible, and generally you don't want to hurt people. These are qualities.

Now, you might need some proper tools to enforce respect from others, while still keeping attention to what you are.
One of them is Assertiveness and getting related skills will help you handle most of case you might encounter.

But before exploring that path, behaviors of your manager(s) are manifestly not going to improve in a satisfying way.
And it is already impacting you in an alarming way.

So at this point I encourage you to quickly change or quit this job in priority.
And to find solutions to recover from your anxiety.

First of all, you aren't breaking any rules so no worries there.

All I can say is, I totally understand you. The entire time I was reading that, it was like you were describing me. I'll try to give advice that I never follow myself. Realize that there will always be people who don't like you. If you were outgoing and sociable, there would be haters, and if you are quiet there are haters. People can hate you for being tall, short, fat, skinny, funny, serious, etc.

When you were describing how one of your co-workers hated you for no reason since you are quiet, it reminded me of a memory in high school. I'm a very shy, socially awkward person who is friendly to everyone. When I was in school I was sitting at a table alone once and I heard someone at the table next to me say "I don't like that girl." while looking at me. The girl next to her agreed with a "yeah, me neither."
I never understood why since I've never spoken or mistreated them, but I just now realize in adulthood that people can generally dislike you for no good reason at all.

I still have trouble getting work because I am much like you. Things don't roll off my back at all and there was a moment in my last job where I stood in a pantry and cried because someone would say something rude that I just couldn't get over. I've just gotten to the point where I've admitted to myself that I'm socially awkward and more sensitive then most girls I know.

Sorry I wrote a downer of a paragraph pretty much talking about myself, but I wanted to express that you aren't alone. It would be stupid advice to tell you to "let things go" or "stop being so sensitive" because things don't work like that. My advice would be to just push through it. Try to understand that you'll be disliked no matter who you are and hold in your feelings until you can get home a cry, if needed.

What I think you should do now, is (and I know it's hard), go to your supervisor and just say "Can I talk to you about something?" Sit down with him and explain "I think there was a misunderstanding the other day..." Just tell him what happen. If you don't throw blame at him I'm sure he'll be reasonable.

Anyway, good luck and if anyone gives you flack for this thread, ignore them. Forums and online communities are a great outlet for built in frustrations because hopefully you receive helpful support. Also, this may sound silly if you are a guy, but buy a diary (journal) and write things out. It just helps get the frustration out in a easier way so you dont have outbursts at work. Hope this reply wasn't a downer and I hope you have better luck. I would say quit, but the truth is with our kind of personality type, you will probably have this issue in a lot of jobs. Maybe one day you'll find one with a good group of people though :)

feel free to add me on steam if you ever just need someone to vent too. I'm much more social online xD

If people don't appreciate you in work or life, just move on to a environment that suit you most. I myself work as a Chef for pass 17 years in the field and i suffered the same like you do up till now, Foods and peoples are the same, as you couldn't please anyone in the process :)

Some work for experiences, some work just for the sake of money to support themselves and also some work for skills & knowledge to improve themselves each and everyday to see new things. I sometime got shouted and was laughed at when i don't pronounce properly because i'm Asian in front of other countries's Chef, some are nice and understanding, some are nasty and will find any means to make me look bad too.

Stay happy and cheerful in work and life :)

It seems to me that you might be highly sesitive, that is not a weakness oder something you need to feel ashemed of!

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Read your thread and I really hope you will sort this situation out. Sadly I can't give you advise since I've never been in a situation like this one. The first logical thing to me is to seek help from the guy over your Supervisor.

I read it all, but got nothing really cause everyone else said it :p,

Either way have a bump.

What country is this in? From your telling of your story, it appears to me that your supervisor is creating a hostile work environment, and depending on where this all happened, and thus the applicable labor laws, you may have a case against that supervisor. Something like this is also worth considering kicking upstairs, i.e., to your supervisors boss or higher.

Some would suggest talking to HR, but as always, you need to remember that HR's primary consideration is protecting the company, e.g., from lawsuits. So they may opt for the easy solution and find a way to terminate you, rather than having to deal with the supervisor. So my take on that is to tread carefully with HR.

thanks everyone for the replies, very unusual and uncomfortable situation for me, so getting some help was well needed. I was feeling very unsure of what to do.

Anytime someone makes an environment uncomfortable for someone else, that qualifies as harassment. No one should have to put up with workplace harassment. Remember, some people have a tendency to bully or abuse those that they perceive as different and that is simply not acceptable under any circumstances. Bottom line, it's not your fault.

Have you ever been tested to see if you might be on spectrum having Aspberger's or Autism? If that is indeed your situation, then your place of employment cannot discriminate against you due to your disability. Additionally, if you are indeed on spectrum, then it opens up a lot of resources to help you adjust to a world that is just a little more challenging to get through than for others.

Food for thought.

In case anyone is curious on updates, everything is fine at the moment, seems to be cleared up as a misunderstanding. Me being able to do it at all is owed entirely to reading the replies here over and over and just doing it. My supervisor was very understanding.

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