Getting something off my chest (dating and feelings and stuff) (also giveaways)

wow lucky dude, well have a great date :)

Damn, she is amazing looking! You are one LUCKY guy.

I haven't had a REAL date in 20 years. No one would want to be with me and you know what? I don't care anymore. I'm one of those people that is better off alone. No one out there for me. And even if there was, I know we met and she laughed me off.

Screw it.

Good luck to you, though. I hope you and her have a long and happy time together,.

Was thinking this was going to be a not so happy post given the title, so I'm happy it ended up happy!

Reading about you being happy made me happy. Thanks for sharing and best of luck to both of you. 🤞

I'm very happy for you; having someone that you care about and who cares about you can make a world of difference in your life. As for whether it's love, I don't believe in love at first sight, but that's because I think that people have the wrong definition of love. Love isn't that special feeling that you get inside; it's a pure, selfless devotion. The special feeling is attraction, and it's an important part of the relationship, particularly in the early stages; it is the glue that binds you together, so that you can build that love. It sounds pessimistic to say that the magic doesn't last forever, but I think it wasn't meant to; the thing about a special relationship is that the love is so strong that it doesn't need magic to keep it held together, and that's absolutely no less a beautiful thing. The most important thing in building a relationship is to pay attention, because that's how you get to know each other. My lady and I have been together since the damn Bronze Age, and it's to the point where she can read me extremely well, even though I'm almost impossible to read, and more importantly, she knows what to do with that. Even if it's not as dramatic as our situation - being able to tell when Wifey's okay to hug, and when that spetsnaz-like thousand-yard stare on her face means give Wifey some room, because she's having a bad mental health day (I swear this woman has the patience of a saint) - it's important in the long term to understand how best to take care of each other.

Anyway, the old bag has rambled on long enough; I wish the both of you many happy years together. 💗

Thanks a lot for GAs!

Congrats! You're a nice couple! 😊

F that forever alone BS - that's a self-fulfilling prophecy, and I'm glad you snapped out of it. You're a good looking guy with a gorgeous girlfriend, you should be high-fiving yourself all the time! ;)

Dating is tough, and I've never been successful at finding an SO when actively looking, but that doesn't mean you should give up. All my relationships happened to come together when I wasn't actively looking. But the main thing is to be confident in yourself - because other people pick up on confidence, and confidence is sexy. I am shy by nature, but you have to throw yourself out there, just as you did, and as you see doing so can yield great results.

And hopefully your relationship will be great and will last. But even if it doesn't. don't give up. The perfect relationship for you may be just around the corner. I had a 4 year relationship fall apart on me, but it was for the best, and now I'm happier than ever.

Keep on going like that, doing well!

That's a really cute picture. You both look happy and that's all that matters.
Thanks for the smiles and kudos on getting out of your shell. It's not always easy but the best things in life never come easy.
I'm glad you got rewarded for it with some happiness.

Good luck man, I hope it works out for you.

Good luck and many wishes to you 🤞🍀
You are a nice couple 👍🤞

Super Congratulations, ChessPie! I hope that all goes well!
As has been said earlier, the two of you look great together!

That is a cute picture of you two, and it is nice to put a face to your story BUT as long as you don't have her consent to post her picture on the internet, you should take it down ASAP!
For once because it is illegal to post pictures of a regular person online without their consent, but far more important: imagine how betrayed she might feel, finding her picture posted by you online without her knowing. This has the potential to end your relationship before it even really started.

Happy for you (which is rare - im usually just jealous).
I agree with the person above though, if you're still early into your relationship, posting pics of you together might be special to you, but very often it's not for the woman (that's how I felt). . Maybe when you're both still goong out in a few months time you can make it "official" and ask if it's ok to post something publicly.
Anyway, back to saying good things - enjoy the tome together, don't demand anything, don't expect anything, and don't worry if it doesn't last. Be happy during this early stage, and if she's the one, she'll make it clear to you in time ;-)

Not what I was expecting when I clicked the title. My situation was the same, too scared/intimidated/unmotivated to put myself out there through high school, college and then some. Didn't take long after some online dating to meet my now wife of ten years. I certainly wish I'd started sooner but if I hadn't, I probably wouldn't have met her at all :)

I wish the two of you the best of luck but most of all if it doesn't work out for any reason (though I hope it does!) that you get back out there again!

congrats

Congrats!

You look great together!
I'm also glad you have a very mature take on dating - you feel good when you're with her, and you look forward to seeing her again, and that's all that matters. Don't think too much about what will be of it, or how much time it will last, just enjoy it and allow yourself to enjoy it.
Being an introvert means having a less intense dating life, but it's in no way a direct ticket to forever loneliness.

Ugh.
There are times like there when I truly believe that the universe is trying to tell me something.
You even got the numbers correct.
So, I guess there's hope even for me.

Cheers man, I wish you continue being happy 😀

Bump

I put off opening this thread because the title made me assume this was going to be a sad vent about miserable events, so I'm delighted to see it was the opposite. I won't get all preachy since I noticed others had already given you some nice advice, but will also encourage you to remove the photo if you haven't gotten her consent to post it. Other than that: congratulations and hope it continues to work out for you!

Good luck
I hope I could do the same sometime in the future

That's awesome ChessPie. I was truly touched by your story and It's great to see such a positive post in the forums. I hope you two have a beautiful life together.

I hope you two enjoy your time together :]