Anti-bullying

I was never bullied and never witnessed bullying that I could interfere with.

I dont think you cant fight bullying. A lot of people are insecure and try to make themselves feel better by bullying others. That is just how the world works, and not only in schools, but also on the job and on other places. Its a sad world......
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So where exactly is bullying still a thing?
Such things didn't happen in my country back when I was in school.
We were one community and thus we sticked together.

You gotta be pretty dumb to bully other people for no apparent reason whatsoever.

idk why, maybe because we are a lot on western/usa sites. but i have the feeling that bullying happens a lot in the USA... im probably totally wrong. Just have that feeling :/

Bully hasn't really been a thing at my schools, besides a couple times some of the people with mental disorders got picked on. Adults have always been worse than other kids.

There are a couple things that happen that some may consider bullying, we don't really, but most can adapt and ignore other kids, especially here where it's not bad, but can't really do the same with people who have power over you.

http://www.stopbullying.gov . US-centric, no doubt, but here are a bunch of resources & info on the topic.

Bullied alot as a kid, go figure, I grew up to handle assholes/meatheads easily.

I personally believe these anti-bullying crusades are very much a double-edged sword.

What happens when all these children grow up thinking someone else is gonna take care of their battles?

I have been bullied, I saw bullying, I bullied others... I don't know if things will someday change in our societies, but in my country's schools it's pretty much "the law of the jungle", only the strongest survive and it's a horrible cycle to continue.

Then again, the gangs problem is at an historic high with dozens of deaths each single day, so living in the midst of such violence will either make things worse or get people to stop being so violent (at least in traffic people have stopped cursing and honking each other most of the time).

Well, I might have kids in school in 10 years or less, I might find out then if things are getting better or not :/

Since this is pretty western centric, I'd like to know some asian perspective.

I really didn't experience or witnessed bullying. I think instead of bullying, we either shun out people we don't like in our group circle and just ignore/interact less with them. And if someone is even being bullied in a western sense where people bandwagon on 1 person, calling him names, It's normally in a friendly sense I.E: you're the last in the race, most useless person in basketball team, feeder in a MP video game, etc.

The only close definition of bullying I can see was is in gangs when someone had a fight with a member of the gang and they bully that person back. Or when someone was trying to steal their girl lol.

I was around 7, when somebody attempt to bully me, I got really pissed and punched them in face really hard, he ran crying.

Nobody ever tried to bully me after that.

So yeah, don't be shy, if somebody messes with you, give them a good taste of punch in face.

I went to a small school in a small town when i was growing up so i never seen bullies at a yong age, My first experience with bullies came at the age of 12/13 when i changed to a school 10 times that size and at first i didn't know how to deal with them , then i started using humor to get close to the bullies but at the same time far enough not to become a bully , it worked for me and it help everyone in my class since they wouldnt mess with them because they were in my class. I never needed to get in a fight and was always able to reason with most of them sometimes using humor , sometimes a soccer ball , sometimes anything else that would interest them. In big schools a " Us VS them" culture is easy to become a reality and promoting activities where kids can work together really helps , they won't bullie a guy that plays soccer with them , they won't bully a guy that helps them in a school project , i guess if you keep kids working together with a common goal you will eventually keep everyone safe. Problem is , schools are not funded the way they should , teachers don't pay enough attention and the ones that do are overwhelmed.

When I was younger I was bullied a little, but I stopped it pretty fast when I became hostile towards anyone who annoyed me. (It's a negative trait I've never really gotten rid of, sadly.)

I switched schools for one school year before going back. I had this friend I stopped hanging out with for a few days because he always acted like a child whenever I accidentally bumped him too hard while we were playing (he would scream in my face, run off, and cry.. but in his defense we were probably around ten years old). Well, during this one time I stopped hanging out with him, I started hanging out with the kids who bullied him and halfway tried to bully me (it was actually pretty pathetic, tbh, especially since one was in a wheelchair..... no offense to the handicapped, but hey- anyone can be a bully). After one day of strutting around like we were tough shit, I got bored of it and their attitudes, so I went back to hanging out with my friend.

After apologizing, of course.

It was a small thing, but I did feel bad about it. I want to be clear, though, I'm mostly just sharing because you never know when it can help (and I like to vent things whether or not they bother me). I don't want or care about forgiveness. We all made dumb mistakes, especially when we're kids. What's important is that we learn from them and never let someone convince us what we know is wrong, is actually right. (Of course there are exceptions, but that's another matter entirely.)

Anyway... my friend and I stopped hanging out when I moved back to my old town and I haven't heard from him since. I can safely say, though, that bullying sticks with you. On one hand, I think it can make you stronger, but that doesn't mean it's alright or that we should let it happen. It's the simplest moral decision, no one should mistake it as a "necessary evil." It's wrong. Like stealing a candy bar, it's not complicated, but you shouldn't do it.

Except unlike that candy bar, there can be a seriously bad side effect of bullying even if you're not caught.

I used to bullied a girl on my school, but was because a) when i was kiddou i was crazy as f**k, b) she was pretty and i liked her (was with like 7-8 y/o). Some time later i had some kind of romance with a girl from her class and she told me about that the other girl told her that i was some kind of monster... tried to apologize but she doesnt want to speak with me (tried on Facebook also a couple of years ago without success). Also in my first year of high school a guy from my class that was repeating the year was bullying me, we had some kind of fight and then he stopped.

I'm bully, but I only bully bullies.

You know, all of that info and all of that motivation above is really great, and this could be really moving force...until you face "them" again. You can say loudly "NO! STOP IT!" and you can be supported with dozens of people, but eventually you will meet "them" face-to-face in the toilet, and you're gonna be alone...and it would not just ruin everything that have been done before, but it would even make it worse, because it would give you this "no matter what you do, things won't change, your efforts and little victories are useless and nothing" feeling. In my opinion, all of these "Let ME explain to YOU how YOU should fight with YOUR problems - I'M supporting YOU from distance" almost never works. It's really great, that people keep talking about this problem, and some are actually trying to find solutions or ways to fight it, but as for me, it always looked like people trying to ban weapons after some mass shooting, you know, deal with weapons, not with person and reasons.
Bullying is really bad, because it could (and most likely will) affect your whole life after. It's brings constant fear, lack of self freedom and so on. I've been bullied back then, can't say that I've grown it up completely, sometimes it still haunts me...

Ufff.... This is blast form the past... I was one of smallest kids in my class; so, I was target of the bullies, few times. My class was also probably only one who bullied its classmates. Was attacked 3-4 times, but managed to escape a few, but I knew that it wouldn't stop. So, last time they tried to attack me, I tried running away again, but 7v1 is not really an option. When they caught up with me, I just had it enough so just grabbed first guy for the throat, nailed him to the wall, and said that I''l kill him and later all others if they don't stop. And that did the job, but few days later when bruises start showing and my parents noticed and they reported it to teacher. Bulling was still at its infancy at that time so teachers not other school staff didn't know how properly to react, but in general they managed to stop bulling in my class.
Luckily there weren't internet in my country at the time.

Little later, in high school some classmates tried to bully me, because, now not only that I was again one of smallest, I was professor's kid too. But this time I didn't wait for anything to happen to me before I react. So I just grab first guy for throat, and nailed him to school desk and keep him that way till professor didn't arrive to a class. They tried one more time again after classes, but I was meeting with my rowing friends, and most were last year of high school, so it was funny watching them sweat while my club-mates "bullied" them. XD

P.S. For those who don't believe me that I wouldn't just kill those bullies right there, you are right. I would first warn them with broken arm or leg and if that doesn't get to their tick head, then I would euthanize them.

P.S.S. I didn't stayed smallest kid, two years later grew to be one of top 10 tallest in my the class.

tl;dr Confront your bully, if he/she doesn't stop, make them fill what they are doing, then they usually stop.

Shit, I'm nearly 30 and I still get bullied.

and they say violence is not the answer, no one dare to bully the one who dare to deliver a punch to the bully face, even when he know that he will fail to the differerent in number or strength

I support anti-bullying.

My experience with bullying lasted years and was the worst point in my life. It was before doctors were able to find out I was disabled and still believed because I Was young I must be lazy (I was a bit out of shape) So getting used to constant pain weakened my resolve. In doing so I became withdrawn. Even more so when my friends from elementary no longer saw me as worthy of being in their clique. It was junior high and daily bullying was pushing me past the point I could handle. I kept talking about suicide too the few people I talked too. My only saving grace was everquest. In playing that mmo I made friends that helped at least mitigate the emotions I was experiencing.

It was not till my last year of junior high, not that i acted out of courage when confronting one of the bullys. It was more I had nothing left to lose, even being knocked on my back, feeling ashamed and embarrassed in front of all my peers while the teacher was out. I struggled and wrestled with him though the fight was brief. The others in his group suddenly acted friendly towards me. It may not work for everyone, but sticking up for myself was all that was needed. But I let myself be hurt and broken for so long. I had regretted not doing it sooner but it really taught me a lesson.

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I think at one point or another most of us have been both the victim & perpetrator. Most often than not the consistent bullies usually have issues at home, somewhere else, or feel inadequate for some reason or another &/or just do it for the attention.

P.S: I think the worst kind of bullying is that caused by peer pressure, where you are bullied into doing something, whether it's something you might not want to do (drugs, smoking, drinking, dare, etc) or the need to back up the person doing the bullying. Luckily I never caved into stuff like that, unlike a lot of my old friends from high school.

I have been bullied most of my child/teen years, I have bullied some people in my child years, trying to cope with being bullied.
In my teen years I have protected other people being bullied by trying to become the target, since I would defend myself not like the others I would protect.