Like reading a page from the book of my mind.
π€ Hope you find what you seek β
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Hmm... Maybe I'm just weird, but I don't really strive for the r/GetMotivated grind life and those not-so-realistic morning routine YouTube videos.
I'm probably a pretty motivated and accomplished person in many people's eyes. I'm working hard at my STEM university studies, I'm active in a circle, and try to make plans with friends whenever I have the time. I do have things I need to work on, mainly my diet and exercising more often. But I still spend time unwinding with pointless Internet browsing, video games and watching anime every day, and maybe once a year I spend some money on a worthless plastic figure to put on my bookshelf. Because life is about the balance between the things you need to do and the things that make you relax. The thought of being on the grind constantly just exhausts me.
I think it's wrong to say that the relaxing things in life is a waste of time. Of course, if you truly don't enjoy these things anymore then you shouldn't be doing them. And there's nothing wrong with soulsearching and aiming for the stars, but life is a marathon, not a sprint. Take it easy.
It's fine if you don't agree with me, I just think that you're maybe being a bit too harsh on yourself. Take care, I wish you well.
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I think the relaxation and quiet moments are important.
To me, it's like a meal.
Yeah sure, I like pepper, parsley, maybe a little cayenne in there. But too much of it ruins the meal and spoils the dish.
Or maybe I like the spices on the dish but don't enjoy the actual course itself.
Maybe I enjoy chicken, but I don't want it every day, or maybe I want a break from chicken for a few months and try other foods.
I think finding what makes life worth it to you in the moment is important, but it's also important to listen to your body when it's looking for something else, even if that something else is short lived. It's important to be flexible and adaptive to what makes you happy.
But yeah I mean video games still make me happy, i'm never going to get rid of them. But my life needs to have less of it, in it now so I can thrive.
Routines and grinds imo should be taken with a grain of salt. It works for some people, but I think it's a little metal and unrealistic to how most humans are going to live their life and drum the energy in their life.
Just don't let anyone tell what makes you happy is wrong, they've not the right. You decide that, not them. And if you find you need something more, don't be afraid to go out and get it.
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Ah, then I guess we're on the same page :) You really did make it out as if you were dropping everything and going 1000%.
I felt the same way regarding exercise. I had been doing regular gym training, but I ended up being sick of it. Not only did I not have any motivation, I didn't even see a goal with the gym. I felt that I wanted to actually become better at something, and just putting on heavier plates on a bar did not feel like improving. I ended up enrolling in an indoor climbing course and ended up liking it, it's very rewarding to actually feel your body becoming better. (My living situation and the pandemic sadly makes me unable to go climb as often as I would like, though.)
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oh shit that just reminded me there's a indoor climbing place near me. I should go there!
Also I hope the pandemic cools its heels sometime soon so you can get back to that. Sounds like a really fun pastime that's a shame to miss out on.
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Pretty good perspective here. It's all about balance.
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Your post was pretty much me 10 years ago. I realised I was wasting my 20s playing stupid MMOs and spending too much time online in general. My thought was "why do I feel responsible for what happens in the clan. These people won't live my life for me." I left the game, got off my ass, went out and got back into my old hobbies. Art and musical theater. I met some new people again and found a couple of new local friends. Me getting a disc prolapse threw a spanner in the works for the theatre stuff for a few years, but maybe when restrictions lift, and I am better of the other crap that came knocking (cancer), I get that part of my social life back.
I play computer games here and there now, but I have stayed away from MMOs. They are a time sink and you could waste your whole life on that kinda shite if you're not careful.
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Right? I can't imagine how many hours I have spent on RuneScape getting 99 in all skills (then they started to raise the max levels to 120, and I didn't go back)
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Exactly, they're meaningless numbers on a computer screen that will never actually mean anything in the real world. They only rose the max skills to keep the addicted... addicted. Glad you were like "screw this."
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God I feel that. I have I think like 1800 hours on tf2.
One game i'm never touching again is Gary's mod. I accumulated 350 hrs, and I felt like I only played it for a couple of weeks. Legit scared me so much I uninstalled it decided to never play it again. Games are fun, but when you can't keep track of the time you're playing them, that's a problem!
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I agree with that. Honestly, there are a couple of games that I played 10 years ago, and they didn't keep track of the time you spent on them. I've probably spent 1000s of hours on them. To give perspective on it, I became one of the most well known players on the server because I spent enough time to get really good at the game. People don't like you when you get good. Accused me of botting, but I was cleared. I was just living the damn game, so worked out all the maths needed to defeat waves of troops. Yeah... I was a total loser. Hahah! I did meet some lifelong friends that I added on social media when I left. So there is that.
My Steam games are single player and have no where near that, and my most played games are generally spread out over a long period of time. If I spent 300 hours in Slay the Spire, it's over the course of 2-3 years. (And I have a habit of leaving a game running while I go make dinner, or something.)
I'm much more in control of my gaming habits nowadays.
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The best part is when you gravitate towards your reality, the more likely you will find a friend that shares the same values.
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Hope you manage to get what you want out of life, starting to taking steps towards a goal is the only way to reach it so it's good that you decided to do that.
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honestly I try to tell myself that a lot, so I stop stressing about the time i've wasted.
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Very well said -- time is the most precious thing we all have (some less, some more); you absolutely should spend it in the way that brings you the most happiness. Material... stuff.... is only helpful to a point, we often forget what is essential and what is not.
Good luck in your future endeavours! May you find your happiness in them, and may you bring happiness to those around you!
Cheers!
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Hope you find contentment and happiness in whatever you decide to do. Life is indeed too short to waste but you have plenty of time yet.
All the best and i hope you and your family have good health!
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Good luck. Don't be so hard on yourself that you lose motivation. Cracking a whip and going for a 180 degree change works for some people, but others break down with such high goal. I don't know which kind you are, but just be mindful with how much you're handling and don't be afraid to seek out help when needed. Cheer! :)
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Trying to be mindful of that. It's really easy to want to go cold turkey from living a really unengaging life to a interesting and dynamic one. But i'm trying to not demand too much of myself, and give myself the room and space to just, float around and try things.
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Best of luck. Glad you want to do more with your life and find more meaning to it. I believe you will. I'm sure it won't be easy. But remember, games can still be fun and a side entertainment. But if you just balance things out and keep your priorities straight, I think you will enjoy life more.
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Yep, I've been there too. When I realized my life wasn't going anywhere because I lived it in a box (i.e. teh interwebs), and all the wishing, wanting and waiting wasn't going to change anything. It had to take action on my part. So I put my hands on the edge of my desk and pushed. It's not always easy to unplug, but nothing would happen unless I had a goal and took steps to get there... living and enjoying life along the way. Things started to happen after enrolling into college and even though my life is nothing like I thought it would be once I started, going with the flow was probably the best decision I ever made.
Congrats on your decision for choosing to live life! I'm not going to say it's going to be easy, but I think you'll be happier once things start to go into motion. And my personal advice is to always pay it forward.
May 2022 be the beginning of an awesome year for you. Good luck and stay safe!
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This reminds me of my friend, this sounds like something he would say.
Also thank you! I'll try! Thank you for the message : )
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I'm rooting for you, buddy! Hope you'll achieve what you're aiming for. Stay persistent though, I went for my dreams too and I know there's a lot of hesitation during this journey. Just keep going. And feel free to talk to me on Steam when times are rough β they say I am good at motivating people to keep going :)
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Life's a path along a series of long, winding roads, with many intersections, and it's all about the journey; if you're not happy with the current road, you pick another at the closest intersection!
Best of luck in your future endeavors and may your next roads make you happier!
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The Journey of a Thousand Miles begins with but a single step. And you my friend are a few hundred miles in. I hope your path ahead leads you to that fufillment of which you seek.
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We didn't know each other, either, but I wish you all the best on your journey; such an undertaking can be very exciting in both a good and a bad way, especially if you don't know where it may take you. That can be scary, but it can also be a good thing; so many people are so focused on long-term goals, or even coming up with long-term goals that they miss a lot of cool things all around them. Take it one day at a time, and don't be afraid to explore!
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this hurts hard. i might have to do something about it as well.
wish you good luck with your real life though!
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[Regarding the video (you don't have to read it)]
Excessive self-improvement is only a dead end in life.
It seems that without enough food, clothing, and entertainment, people today are unable to be polite and calm in their contemplation.
As we often say, we do something in these ages, and people grow old in these times.
That kind of talk is ridiculous.
Even if the upper limit of life expectancy is disappearing, they won't tell people about it for the sake of exploitation because if they do, they will lose the will to work.
Some countries encourage people to live alone and be independent, while others do not encourage those things.
In the end, it seems like a video that imposes a "stereotypical" "template" life.
However, for people who spend their whole lives looking for answers, religion and the opinions of others can be one of the easy answers that they don't have to think about themselves.
At the end of this video, he introduces the "most important thing" and that's probably the only thing that's true.
The reason I'm a little harsh on this video is because various emerging religious groups, such as the Aum Shinrikyo case, the Dharma Flower Sanpo event, and the obstruction of speech and publication case, have been claiming the same thing to gain followers, attracting people with gaps, saying they are not religious groups but circle activities, and eventually causing large-scale incidents.
Just remember to spend your days without giving up thinking for yourself.
In spite of the principle of separation of church and state in the constitution of a country, there seem to be many cases all over the world where political parties conduct propaganda activities to guide public opinion.
This kind of iridescent behavior seems to be the real culprit in the creation of "people wandering through life," and it is frustrating to watch from the outside.
I have seen people who have been tricked by them into committing crimes and fleeing to the vicinity of their homes, only to find that they could not return home and had to flee again as fugitives.
The faces of these fugitives were full of sadness, despair, and exhaustion.
I guess I can't go see them because I've become a bad person with no intention of doing so.
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Oops, back to the story about you. My thoughts about the video were too long.π
Just remember that there are bad humans who exploit lost people.
No one can deny your constant support and care for the SGCommunity. Thank you very much.(*p'Ξ'q)β€
You don't have to worry about your age.
Take care of your health on a daily basis and hopefully you will continue to seize the opportunity to do what you want to do.
Some people think that to be alive is to continue to worry and to continue to deal with problems.
There seems to be a stance called "Zen thinking."
βWorrying about "others," "the past," and "the future" doesn't change who you are, so you ignore those events.
I think your stance is more in that direction.
I look forward to the day when you come back to SG to have fun and interact with our community.π»
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Best of luck! Hope it goes well <3
tbh, I think we're in similiar siruation ^^" except I'm still lost
But anyway! I wish you the best and a safe journey! Hope to see you again one day <3
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Each passing time will make you a different person. I hope you will find what you want.
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(12/7/22) Hey everyone, its been almost a year since I was on this site. A lot has happened, it's been a very difficult, stressful year full of wonderful things, terrifying reckonings, deep depression, and acceptance of various grief.
To start, I think as a person, i'm a lot more happier and complete than I was 10 and a half months ago. From physical things like working out to be healthier, getting outside much more, developing my personality. As well as finding more of a place I belong in the world community-wise. It's been extremely hard. So much of how I perceive the world has been challenged, changed, and let go.
So much pain that no longer serves me i've had to let go. Learning to live here, in this moment, has been an extremely ruthless journey. One I still haven't come to terms with or fully accepted yet, but i've been trying. It's something that I had to learn to accept after my failure of trying to journey across America this past summer. I found that to do this, one needs to truly find peace with whatever the world throws at you, and to not try to enforce what you want upon the world.
But in my journey of this truth, i've found strength I didn't know I possessed. And because of it, I have been able to let go of so much. I managed to reconnect with my father, take risks I didn't know how they'd turn out, and put myself in scenarios that brought me great joy.
I've been starting to find the things i've been genuinely searching for my entire life.
I think the most special thing is that i've been starting to want things, been wanting to actually start a career, maybe go back to school. Try. I've been wanting to try again in life. Not just passively idle by on the luxury and seams of comfort and mild unsatisfying pleasures.
It's hard to say precisely what i've gained in the past 6 months of my life. But I know i'm a person so different from when I started my 6 month journey of fear, where I experienced non-stop dejavu due to inconceivable fear and recognition the way of life I came to know, of pre-determined safety and comfort at all times is fundamentally incompatible with the happy life I want to attain.
I'm finally walking away from my dejavu potentially, it's hard to say. But i've been gaining the courage to accept each moment as it comes. Truly every moment is uncertain. You can't even precisely predict what will happen 30 seconds from now let alone a minute from now. The world has shown me at almost every turn, so many of my ceaseless predictions would be wrong.
This all sounds a bit strange, but yeah. I don't know. In so much of my internal chaos, i've been starting to find community. I've been finding that so many people find my spirit and self beautiful.
In this time between now and this coming summer. I'm seeking to learn how to learn and live in pursuit of new experiences. To learn how to engage with the community and world further. To challenge myself and try to increase my skills and expertise in the things that truly interest me. As well as stay committed to new hobbies that my heart found in reading, photography, playing the guitar, solving puzzles, dancing & singing.
To anyone who originally started trying harder in life due to my past message. You're doing great. And even if you fell off, it's ok. Dust yourself off, it's a part of the journey. We can still make it to our goals. You just need to find the strength within to keep walking a little more each day, to believe in yourself and your dreams.
Keep walking, I believe in you.
(1/22/2022) Alright, I won't be checking the messages here anymore. Thank you all so much for the uplifting and kind words you've shared with me and candid advice. I really appreciate it! I hope maybe you guys can use this thread as a place to talk about moving forward in your lives, whatever that means to you. I wish you all well! thank you for the 8 years of games, threads and discussions, and community posts! Good bye everyone!
Since my post's blowing up, i'm putting these here for some people who want a frank, candid, brutal talk about life.
Clean, facts-based, rated E for everyone informational: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JXeJANDKwDc
Grim, filthy, crude, rated R for Adults version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H285s4HYv3c
There's a lot to criticize about the lather, but I think it's important to use it for what it's worth. It's very raw, and raw things aren't meant to be pretty to look at.
I recommend the former, but I recognize the lather can be useful for some people. It's a great wake-up call video
I know nobody really knows me or anything, but i'm leaving SG.
Over the past year of my life i've been finally taking the time to seriously look myself in the face and ask myself what I want from life, what I want to do with my life.
It's so incredibly easy to just keep exchanging time for comfort when you're young, because at that point in life you're rich with the stuff.
But i'm nearing 30 and like, I recognize I have not only nothing to show for it, but all my years of self-pitying and wishing and wanting but inaction and indecision to actually try to carve anything worth a damn out in this life worth experiencing has left me ten years down the track that I minds as well have not even bothered existing.
I'm doing a major restructuring of my life and letting go of the past and trying to figure out what I want to actually achieve and get out of life.
Money and fancy tvs, nice cars, expensive clothes, has never been a motivator for me in life, i'm much more of a person who lives for the experiences I share with people I care about.
It's all super confusing for me and i'm not sure where to start, but I know I need to start, and so start I have been doing.
I have so much pointless excess in my life, from video games, to books and graphic novels, worthless plastic figures and all this stupid junk I surround myself with that adds nothing to my life but be a vain attempt to fill a hole i've been neglecting to meaningfully fill within myself for years.
So in all that excess, i've been getting rid of a TON of my belongings over the past months, and videogames has been up and coming on that chopping block for awhile. It started with deleting my fanatical account, cutting my wishlist from a massive 300+ games to a cool 33 (trying to make it lower!), and now i'm deleting my humble bundle account and leaving here as well. After this i'm gonna go through my library and delete a s-ton of games that I don't think would be meaningful to me and interesting uses of my hobby time.
So, this is farewell guys. I've been frequenting this website ever since I was a teenager in college, but it's time I open a new chapter in my life and find something worth doing this thing called life for.
Nothing scares me more than the fact of how much time we all waste every single day, and I want to find a life that's more interesting and meaningful to me than the endless rat race and grind that is modern work culture. I get to everyone it's just some fairytale dream, and I know it's not going to be as cracked up as movies and media portray a alternative life style to be and i'm still going to have to work just as hard for it. But still I just think there has to be a life out there that's more worth it than the crap i'm doing right now, because I just can't face myself and the grave of living a passive empty life like I have.
I wish you well everyone! Here's some GA's for the road!
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/iQYOe/rad
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/iVH9M/brothers-a-tale-of-two-sons
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