Working Out (how does one do it?)

Are you trying to lose fat? Bulk up? Or a combination of both?

Do you even like to go to gym ? maybe it would be wiser to take up a sport you like.. maybe running or swimming, cycling is great. Or take part in some group exercises or group sports like football or basketball. All these sports are great for keeping good shape (when combined with diet) and are even better towards your stamina then gym
Gym has to become a habit. Something daily you look forward going to. When I went to gym I really looked forward to it, I even went in the morning before work or studies. A friend of mine said that habit can set in after doing something for 21 time. So keep on going if you are determined.

To be honest Id say one of the best sites that can help with dieting and gym programs is bodybuilding [dot] com. Under workout plans you can find different programs for weight loss, for muscle growth, transformation programs. And all from certified and world-wide known trainers. I started with Kris Gethins 12 week program. I was skinny and with no strength whatsoever. After the program I was completely transformed. Being a student and short on money I couldnt really follow all the protein intakes but I tried to stick with eating properly at least. These programs give you very precise nutrition programs. Exactly what and when to eat for best results. If money allows - go for some program on bodybuilding site.

How do I eat more healthy? Any Diet Plan?

Honestly, unless you want a diet specifically, you won't need a plan really. I recommend you download "MyFitnessPal" and start keeping an eye on what you eat and drink. The app has a handy barcode scanner and most foods are already entered into the system by other users. You scan the food you've had, you enter the amount you ate and that's it. You can see how many calories you've consumed and what micro and macro nutrients you've had over the course of the day.

You can also log your exercising into the app, but for me it was too fiddly for that and I never really bothered, instead using the app "Runkeeper" and syncing it to the app, so every time I exercised, I'd use Runkeeper to track the routine and then it'd automatically enter the data into MyFitnessPal.

Don't worry about your diet too much. Just keep yourself relatively constrained to what you've planned. Not every day has to be a perfect win, just as long as you're healthy overall.

How do I stop my self.. from.. stopping?

It's hard to build a habit, but it definitely helps you to enjoy what you're doing. Did you enjoy your gym routine? The goal shouldn't be to lose weight or build muscle mass (unless you're extremely desperate for it), but instead these things should be the byproducts of your habits. Find exercises you like doing and start doing them. Build a habit on them. Perhaps you like the feeling of a cold shower after you've finished, if so then use that as a motivation too. A good habit is more of a desire than an obligation. Once you've gotten the habit for going to the gym and doing the exercise(s) you want to do, start expanding. Try out a new exercise every once in a while, perhaps you'll start liking it and so you'll add it to your regiment.

I used to have a gym membership and I had a personal trainer for a few sessions. With him, things went smoothly and I felt I learned a lot. But I knew it wasn't a viable strategy, so I stopped his services and started doing it independently. I basically stopped after two sessions since the various machines freaked me the fuck out and I just felt really anxious. So I went another route. I stopped going to the gym and instead started cycling. I cycled every 2-3 days and basically exhausted myself each time. Sure, it's not as good for you as a full workout is, but that's not the point and if anyone says it is, then they either never exercise or they already have a regiment they're comfortable with. Do what you feel is the most fun and most exciting. Exercising doesn't have to be tied to the gym. You can exercise at home, you can exercise in a park, you can run, you can cycle, you can train your biceps through vigilant masturbation schedules, you can do whatever. As long as you're physically active.

Like most professionals say, healthy living consists 90% of healthy eating and 10% of exercising. If you want to go for that extra 10%, then make sure it's the 10% that makes you happy and satisfied and less of an obligation.

Perhaps this helps.

You don't need any trainer or gym exercises, just stop junk food, carbonate drinks/extra sugar ones, eat 1 piece of toast /per eating & start biking A LOT.
You must drive fast to raise your pulse & start burning fats.
Start riding for 20 minutes, but fast, then 30, 40...
You need patience and persistence, you'll not lose fats & kilograms for few days, it's a slow process but natural and cheap one.

I'm using Xiaomi Mi Band 2 bracelet + Mi Fit app to measure my pulse, calories/fat I burned, distance I drive & more functions
Believe me, biking is the cheapest & effective method for burning fats & lose weight.
Start today, you'll not regret!

The best advice I can think of for getting better at working out is to find a work out partner. We're social creatures and getting motivated to do something completely alone with just your own self-expectations to meet can be tough, so it's super helpful to have someone to push you and have notice your progress (since we justify ourselves largely by others). If you haven't got any friends to bring this idea up with, consider joining a group/club--of any fitness kind really. There's a few of them in just about any good gym and even if it's just a once a week commitment, it's a commitment and one that makes it harder for you to completely slip out of it all. That and it can serve as a good baseline to propel you to do more--just doing one thing a week makes you feel a whole lot better than doing nothing. Plus it's an assurance that deep down you know people are seeing you. And the effort you put in and the progress you make is thus proven by that.

Another thing I can suggest is to not beat yourself up too much about falling behind. Negativity is a slippery slope and if you keep telling yourself "I failed this week..." instead of "at least I did this!" you're going to very easily adopt a defeatist attitude and find it much harder to do anything. I don't know if it's the case for you, but when I was like that I'd quickly justify wasting a whole week away through the train of thought of "oh, well I've already fucked this week up... Might as well restart it properly next week". And this... is a deceiving attitude that just grows worse. Focus on the present and just doing what you can, and prioritize being proud and happy of what you did get done. Even if you're disappointed in yourself--which may be justified--try remember that positivity is a much more powerful driving force. Two, three weeks of only working out for a few hours is still you continuing to workout. It's still you pushing yourself. :)
Focus on those good feelings you felt and feel, not your disappointment. Be proud of what you did--a few good weeks of solid work--and use those feelings to get back into it again. Focus on chasing that. I know it might seem that being harsh on yourself here is the answer, for discipline's sake, but it's not. Not in this case where you're alone in your thoughts with this goal and routine. It's the lazy thing to do--to beat yourself up about your failings and then dwell in your disappointment--because you're making yourself busy dwelling in that disappointment instead of just working out and doing what you can!
You're attacking yourself so much right now to serve that one part of your mind that's hungry for lazy idleness and a justification for it. In the words of the great DJ Khaled: you're playing yourself. You gotta push these negative thoughts and feelings away and to stop using them like you are.

As for diets (which is a matter I'm not too knowledgeable on so take my words with a grain of salt), a good, no bullshit diet plan I can recommend for both losing weight and putting on muscle is intermittent fasting. It's relatively easy, accessible to just about anyone and you'll find tons of good stories about how it's worked for people, and many say it's a more natural way of eating (being that we're hunter-gatherers). I do it, though not to lose weight (I find it helps with my energy and concentration). It mostly just involves having a focused eating window each day, for example I do 18/6, with my eating window being 4pm-10pm after an 18 hour fast. But others do 16/8 or even 20/4, with their eating windows being in the mornings, afternoons or evenings. And it's something you can break occasionally if you need to without much stress or loss, since it's mostly just the habit that's beneficial with your body getting trained to properly focus it's insulin levels at a specific, more narrow period (as it's been built to do).
You can find more about it here if it interests you: https://www.reddit.com/r/intermittentfasting/
If you desperately want//need to lose weight Keto might be an idea, by itself or as an addition to IF, but it is tougher I think--especially if you like carbs like I do. Definitely works wonders for many though.

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If I were you ( and I'm doing it myself so I know from my experience) I would stop going to the gym and doing it at home.
I'ts called calisthenics workout. Look it up. You don't have to pay for anything , you doing it at home alone so no one will interrupt you or feel ashemed of someone looking at you etc. Much easier to get start by ... put on your fav music and do it 1 hour every day.

Not much focused on workouts and diets, but I think that a couple of things that may help you carrying out your project can be a precise timetable schedule to follow; and a stick-and-carrot approach, maybe more centered on the carrot part (you choose a simple goal to be reached in a certain time, and you reward yourself when you reach it).
Not sure if this could help, but it worked well for me in different situations. :P

Get a bike and ride everywhere you go. Trust me you'll feel better after a while. It's great for cardio which a lot of people ignore when they go to the gym. It's great to build resistance. It's great to burn calories. And you don't even need a lot of extra time like other sports would. Plus you get to be outside instead of inside on fluorescent light, techno music and sweat.

As for a diet plan, it really depends on your metabolism. There are a lot of resources out there but if you really need help, see a nutritionist. They'll be able to determine what's best for you, much better than websites that pretend to know or just assume everyone has the same metabolism.

Missing a gym day or any other activity day that you arent much of a fan is really easy and can happen on anyone and if you enjoyed your time away from the gym many more will come. The main reason that you skip a work out is because humans love comfort zone, we dont want to take risks or have to do anything that make us feel uncomfortable and thats what you should try to fix at least to avoid skipping the gym. An interesting solution to get out of your comfort zone an hour/ half an hour before the gym is to get a cold shower. Not too cold that you cant stand it and you burnt out immediately but cold enough to wake you up, make you feel uncomfortable. Of course there are other ways to achieve the same thing but this works for me so i think you should give it a try.
EDIT: About the food part, a phrase sticked to my mind a few years ago that means a lot. You are what you eat, you dont want to be shit so stop eating shit.

It's hard to get back to the gym after a break, but the first step is just going there. Don't worry if you're doing less than before, or you don't spend a long time. The important thing is getting there. Getting back into the habit of going is most important.
If you can go on the same days at around the same time each week it will be easier to get into a routine, then most of the time you won't need to 'decide' to go to the gym, it will feel like what you're supposed to do and there'll only be the odd day when you're particularly tired that you actually think about it a bit.

There has been a lot of information posted about food and workouts already. I don't want to repeat what other people have put, so I'll just post a website that I think has a lot of good information. It looks very commercial, but don't be fooled. You don't need to buy anything and it has useful information on nutrition, routines, and some technique videos. (https://rippedbody.com/the-big-3-routine/ this is a good simple routine, but look around the site for other information)

My own tips! :)

• If you're changing your diet, plan or prepare your food in advance to make it easier to stick to. If not, you're likely to just go back to what you usually eat or get convenience food. I cook most of my meals for the week at the weekend and refrigerate/freeze them as I can't be bothered after work.
• Don't try and change too much. If you decide you're going to workout 5 times a week, completely change your diet, and only drink water...chances are (unless you are very, very disciplined) you won't stick to it. Pick small goals and work from there. It's better to succeed at small things and build up.
• Keep things simple. You probably don't need 10 exercises for different body parts. Do compound exercises that work many muscles.
• Try and find something you enjoy. If you don't like working out alone, try a class. If being indoors in the gym doesn't suit you, try running outside...

Good luck!

Edit One more thing I just thought of. This app might help, depending on what motivates you it gives you points and levels for working out. It's a good way to record your workouts too. I use it and check what I did the previous week. It's nice to see your own progress too :)
https://www.fitocracy.com/

my advice for 1st time, just go to the gym, workout for yourself to get into things, dont follow any programs, just have fun there and try things,
later, about after a month ,session must be maximum 45-60 min, intensity is the key, sleep about 8 hours a day, try to eat as much as possible, you must not be ever hungry, if there is some questions feel free to ask.

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I play pokemon go to make me walk more. :P Yeh it won't make you muscled, but it is still healthy. I really don't like the gym, it is just too boring for me.

I used to have huge problems on this matter, but a year and half ago i resolved everything: now I work out at least half an hour everyday. The secret for me is do something that I like while I'm doing something that I hate (working out). I watch stuff on youtube, or dvd/blu ray extras, a thing that otherwise I wouldn't have the time for (job, family and everyday routine leave me with a very small amount of spare time). While working out in the last year and half I watched all the episodes of the angry videogame nerd for example. It's a great incentive for me

In my experience, trainers help because besides changing your exercises so you don't get bored that much, they make you follow your workout plan. If you don't have the money right now, you'll need extra discipline.

Working out is truly boring, but it's also very rewarding. I've been going to the gym for ~5yrs now and I only started noticing changes a year ago. It takes time. A lot of time. Don't give up so soon. :)

There are a lot of really informed youtube channels that helped me a lot to understand the human anatomy. I know it's not what you're exactly asking for, but understanding what I'm doing in the gym has given me the motivation to go again because I know what I'm doing. Notable channels I watch and recommend: AthleanX, Jeff Nippard

Most important things have been said before me. So i just write my personal experience.

Meal: First i replaced the standard bread to whole wheat bread, then the rice to brown rice. Chicken breast, turkey, fish, vegetables, oatmeal, puffed rice. Water. Lots of water. One by one. And i'm used to it. My diet is still not perfect and probably never be... but i'm working on it. I know i'm on the right path.

Workout: 6 workout (~1 hour each) every week. 3aerob treadmill + 3weight fullbody workout every week. 1 maybe 2 exercise ( 3*8-12) for each muscle group. But my exercises are absolute random. For me this was the easier. You know... "I have a dream". I had a motivation, a plan, a goal and small goals. Small goals are really important. The hard part for me is the STOP. I wanna do more. I wanna reach my goal faster. But thats not how it works... :( F***ing regeneration period... The time when the magic happens.

Supplements: Oatmeal with protein for first meal and protein shake after workout. Daily multivitamin.

My advice is do small steps if you are not ready for the big one. You can try to make one healthy meal everyday. Then twice a day. Start with 3 workout a week. Do a little more every week. Sleep 8 hours a day. Think of like this: Even a small step is better than doing nothing. No more excuses.

Considering your level of experience with this, getting a personal trainer was a possibly wise choice. Sadly it seems you got a crap example.
Don't know how good of a gym you have been giving your money to, but I'd see if you can get a different trainer who would actually do their job. Which should be helping you figure out literally every question and concern you brought up in the op, but tailored specifically to you. That's supposed to be why they are expensive.
If they cannot provide that, I'd request a refund for those "services" rendered and maybe consider a more professional gym.

Aside from that, there are a lot of smart phone apps for workout, meal, and calorie tracking / planning. I have at least one friend who lost enough weight to get asked by everyone what she did, and all it was was sticking with a calorie counting app.

Still, I'd say working out should hopefully fit into your choices. As some others have mentioned, really can help if you can make it more fun or entertaining in any way. Make it around a sport or activity, do something you can listen to music with, or watch shows. Probably the best motivator is to have other people you enjoy sharing time with doing the exercise around with you. I get bored fairly easy when I weight lift on my own.

https://thefitness.wiki/getting-started-with-fitness/

When you had a trainer, you didn't miss. When you fired your trainer, you missed.

Maybe hire a trainer again.

You may check yourself with a nutritionist, for me: Small goals are the best. Could be lose some weight, or shape the body a little bit. You may want to keep record of your progress with pics, and a chart of weight loss.

Honestly, I couldnt stand going to the gym either and had the same problem with blowing it off, so I cut the gym and took up hiking and long distance walking (things I actually like) with some swimming and canoeing. I replaced or cut a lot of refined sugar, added more protein and cut some carbs out. Main thing for me was cutting down my portion sizes. I went from 170lbs to 120lbs. Could lose another 5-10, but I like eating too much ;D and if I keep losing weight, its going to come out of places Id rather it didnt if you catch my meaning lol

So I guess my advice is if you really cant stand the gym, try something else. Walking or jogging is free and you could always do what my ex did, and buy some home workout equipment to bulk up with (he had a rowing machine, some free weights, and a pull-up beam that seemed to treat him well. And he got most of it on the cheap off classified ads). But that would also require you to make an effort to set aside the time (that youd have been in the gym probably) to actually exercise. Theres no way around making it a priority to get moving, but maybe finding an activity you actually enjoy could help you stay motivated, even if you do stick with the gym route.

Just my personal experience. Other people here have given you much more detailed advice regarding meal plans. I never bothered, I just did the obvious by cuting sugar down, carbs, adding protein, and keeping my portion sizes in check.

Personally and I'm not sure if anyone else has already mentioned this I've found my best motivation is to keep a record daily. I keep a record of the weights I lift (weight, repetition count etc) and the distance I've walked daily or repetitions on a walking machine. I then also keep a daily record of my weight (the aim was to lose weight as I was 130kg). I found without the need to keep the record updated I was doing the same thing that happened to you, I'd have a day off here, then there, then a week or two would go by... Now with the record I can see exactly when I haven't done exercise and it stands out in the record. I keep it fairly simple: date/repetitions/walking distance/weight and if I was sick or had another issue I record it on that day. My record goes back to the 1st January 2014, I've missed plenty of days in there but it has definitely been my most motivating factor to keep exercising. I'm still 112kg but I've got a lot more muscle than I used to have.

On a side note I am still eating what I want but I don't eat until 1pm and 7pm daily.

You can't expect to get results soon, also get a training program, without a program you can't really workout, also it is okay to rest one or even few days in a week, you just have to keep going to the gym after you rest