don't know if you are spiritual, believe in God or what. but praying for the strength to get you through one day at a time does wonders. thank you for the giveaways and have a pleasant cake day. (i wish you a happy cake day too, but under your present circumstances perhaps you're not feeling as such. give it time) i'll be praying for you
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happy cake day!
hopefully you'll find a place of your own soon and will find new joy and hapiness in life!
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All i can do is pray for you and hope that the worst is behind you and wish you for the journey ahead.
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First step into bringing some order into your life is acknowledging all the issues and bad influences and taking action.
But, things aren't always in black and white and sometimes, no matter what choice you make, it'll seem to have a bad side to it.
It's very important to understand that many things are beyond your control and you can't do anything about it. What matters the most is being able to do something about those things that are under your control. Take baby steps if your actions are limited and don't procrastinate.
Try not to live in the past. Once you make a decision, own it and move on. Focus on the present and look towards the future.
I think one of Steve Rizzo's quotes fits very well here: Don't wait for the storms of your life to pass. Learn to dance in the rain.
I wish you a better life and a Happy Cake Day!
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Good quote!
When life throws you lemons, you can get sour, throw them back or make lemonade!
Skipping the first options for sure.
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I've been where you are with both mother and husband, but not at the same time. Can't even imagine the pressure of that. I admire you for doing the right thing by your husband even though it's not a loving relationship. And I can understand that it's important to do what you can for him for yourself too - so you don't have to carry regrets and guilt further down the road. But of course, that doesn't include living with him, and probably shouldn't, since you have your mom to think of and how do you care for her if you're falling apart. So glad you found a space for yourself come February and I would also say don't be afraid to go out and have a drink and a laugh with a friend now and then - it really helps. As for yoga, I think it saved my life both during and after the time I lost them both, so please don't put that off another day. I have a link to a really good instructor on youtube that can ease you back into it if you're interested.
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I agree, yoga really can be a life saver!
it already did that for me, about 4 years ago when I started it.
Which yoga instructor do you use?
I am using yoga with Adriene, I love her channel!
Even went to a masterclass with her when she was touring and she visited Amsterdam.
I also bought 2 classes/courses with Schuyler Grant, had to really get used to her voice but the classes were well worth it!
If you have another yoga instructor you can recommend, please do share it with me!
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doing the right thing is difficult. that's why most people don't do it.
i've been thinking about what to write here but i'm no fan of motivational speeches.
instead i'll drop a song that always helps me to calm down when i'm about to lose it.
also i'd recommend night walks near the local park & lake to get your head straight. i know, easy to say for a grown ass man but for a woman not so much.
either way it's always strangely calming and reassuring to see how it's just as dark outside as it's inside.
good luck & best wishes to you!
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Thank you, I am always open to new music suggestion!
That was an impressive movie too, remember watching it!
I do like the peace and quiet of evenings and nights, it doesn't feel to me that it is just as dark as inside then.
To me it feels that the world has quiet down finally, it is a peaceful time to me with little to no demands on me.
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for years i've been wanting to watch that movie. looks like fun! sadly i'm too good at putting things off.
either for the dark, for the cold or because you're the only person around walking the streets. doesn't really matter. finally you get the peace and quiet to truly be yourself again.
pro tip: if there's a playground around, get on the swing!
also science says walking 3 to 5 hours a week in the forest greatly reduces stress. i always liked that even as a kid but the forest is not as close as lake & park.
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I certainly didn't expect that when I stopped in here, but I'm glad that I did. That's a rough couple of years, and I can speak from experience about some of that; my lady's father died from pancreatic cancer not long ago, I have OCD (for real OCD; not the kind people say others have when their house is clean or they're just quirky), and there is a chance that I may have seen my share of abuse at the hands of someone I was supposed to be able to trust. I've also been in pharmacy for over 20 years, much of that being in long-term care, so while I don't have a ton of firsthand experience with loved ones being in nursing homes, I've been partially involved in the care of thousands of elderly patients, so I've seen how hard that can be, at least secondhand. I don't know that I have any sage advice on being broken, other than that you can make yourself much stronger from it, but if you ever feel like you need to talk to someone, just add me on Steam. I'm almost always just in invisible mode, but send me a message any time, and I'll get back to you as soon as I'm on. Things will get better, of course, but I hope that's soon for you. ❤ Thanks for the chance at Road Redemption.
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Thank you very much!
I am always moved when total strangers offer me their time, their ears, their shoulders etc.
I am mostly in Ninja mode myself too on Steam, have to sometimes remind myself to reach out; if only for some small talk or a game together.
Thank you kindly for your offer!
Good luck with Road Redemption!
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There are always big charity organizations to help the impoverished, the malnourished, the criminally insane, the unadopted pugs, and what have you, and they're wonderful, but I feel that the most valuable thing that you can give as a single person is support to that one person in need, who's going to slip through those cracks, so really, hit me up any time.
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Stay strong, little cat :)
I hope everything will get better soon :3
And happy cakeday! :)
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Happy Cake Day!!1! Thanks for the gibs!
As far as your situation goes - I've been going through some complex times also lately, and even though at times it's super hard, I am a fan of the saying : "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." So endure! And hopefully, at the end of it all, you'll emerge a better, stronger you :)
Also, a song with a good message - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJUhlRoBL8M
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Oh wow. I'm not even sure what I could say to make you feel better. But know that there are some people out there wishing you well and hoping for a better future for you.
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Damn... I wish you'd got out of the marriage before the news, but it's a bit too late for that. Frankly, I think it's important to set your priorities straight and take care of yourself, not of the abuser. Tend to him, be decent to him, sure, but not for his sake: you sound like a kind of person that would feel shitty otherwise. You are the one who matters (and your Mum obviously; I hope she's got some relatively healthy years ahead of her). It's fine to want out of an abusive marriage - no matter what's happening to your partner, but yeah, sounds like you've got to go with the flow for now. I know it sounds harsh (and cancer is such an awful way to lose a person you used to care for), but I'm sure you'll feel so much better in a couple of years. Just don't neglect yourself and get professional help whenever you need.
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Thanks!
I am working with a psychologist to deal with this, stay afloat, change patterns etc.
It's just too much to handle alone!
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Happy Cake Day.
I'm sorry to here about all your misfortunes. I know it's not something I myself could understand personally. I do hope things become better though!
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Sounds really tough and rough for you right now. So sorry to hear about your issues. Hope things will get better over time for you and I wish you a peaceful cakeday if its possible. All the best!
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I wish you the strength to get through these hard times.
Happy 🎂day nonetheless!
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I come ill prepared, but there is this factory next to my name!
No worries, dug up some humble gifts, so I am not totally empty handed.
it's been another eventful year and life is still rough on me.
My marriage is in shambles, the man that was once the love of my life is dying of cancer (that wasn't the cause of our break up).
My mum is deteriorating fast and needs more and more care and help.
I try to be there for both (despite the fact that my husband really broke me), but it is hard.
Sometimes it feels like living for 3 and when it becomes too much, I tend to totally forget and neglect myself.
I try to remind myself: you can not pour from an empty cup!
But the pressure to keep caring is really high, cause the system due to financial cut backs doesn't provide enough help.
I temporary moved in with my Mum as I really no longer could stay afloat living in the same house with the man that broke me.
But.....that doesn't seem to be a good solution!
I still need a place of my own. Tried to move out on my husband awhile back (when he wasn't that ill yet) but he financially blocked me.
If I would have left at that time, we would both have gotten in financial problems.
Now looking into finding a room (just a room, not a house) for myself in my home town
That way I can take breaks from caring and take some much needed "me" time.
My husband is not a bad person (neither I am, I think......) but.....he is obsessive, everything has to be done his way and he has an egocentric personality. When an egocentric person gets ill, life gets rough; extremely rough!
Before we discovered he had cancer he broke down physically and mentally, his behavior within his illness was extreme.
I've basically lived within a crisis situation for nearly 4 years , I felt (and I was!) abused on an emotional and psychological level.
When he finally got admitted to a center specialized in psychosomatic disorders we discovered he had cancer!
After his time in that specialized center it took me near 2 years to piece myself together slightly (with psychological aid).
I was ready to leave my husband a year ago. And yes, I felt awful! Cause who leaves a dying person!?
Truth is that the cancer had nothing to do with it!
I was blocked when I wanted out of a marriage that was hurting me so much.
And now my husband is really dying, this is probably his last year on earth.
I expect he will move to a hospice within the next half year or so.
I don't know how long my Mum still has.
So yeah.....life is still rough!
But the cake still wants to be shared!
I am sitting on a load of unused keys and sometime I will make loads of giveaways!
TL;DR: take the gibs:
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/aIAod/ancestors-legacy
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/Hp8Cd/regular-human-basketball
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/INXxg/dark-future-blood-red-states
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/tR2oy/override-mech-city-brawl
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/si7Mo/tannenberg
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/IWuij/rising-storm-2-vietnam
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/LTUvf/horizon-chase-turbo
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/P5hfc/11-11-memories-retold
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/qLJS6/road-redemption
https://www.steamgifts.com/giveaway/1qDkM/synthetik-legion-rising
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